Internet Infidelities

jackieglasgow

Button21 wrote: »

jackieglasgow, ps...........it did take me all my strength not to slap her! In fact, I was contemplating pulling her 'Pat Butcher' style earrings from her lugs!! (that's ears in Scotland!! lol lol lol)

I know that!

pigpen

Button21 wrote: »

pigpen, I meant how dare she say her marriage has nothing to do with me when she's well and trully tried to destroy mine! She knows me, knows hes married, and knows he has 2 kiddies! Homewrecker! Gold digger perchance? She may think he is better off than he is in reality and he isn't saying otherwise.

It's funny you should ask is she looking for a bit of flattery tho! I think she had this liason planned all along because she has been texting and sending him messages on Facebook for months now - even before she left her husband! Think she sees mine as a meal ticket as he has good job, nice car, nice house etc........her and her hubby struggled and now she is in a DSS bed and breakfast. Sounds likely.. my ex (KH) was seeing a woman who was in a relationship with someone else and wanted to make him jealous.. he threw away a 20 year relationship and 8 children to run off with her.. she dumped him the same week... lol! He should be careful.. she may just like the thrill of the chase and if he becomes available he may become so much less appealling.

His only excuse is boredom and stupidity when he is working away from home........she gave him attention and he lapped it up! Apologies to all the decent men out there, but why oh why do most men think with their ?!!

Anyway, he rang and I didn't answer! So that is one nill to me! Psycho wife slowly gaining some self respect!!!:j:j:j

Men, in general, have 2 brains.. one in their head.. and one not.. sadly the one which isn't in their head takes priority over the number of hours it is in use during the day.. this brain is also used for work related things.

The brain in the head is the one used at home.. it isn't very powerful.. almost enough power to be classed as a nightlight..

This is why the boss says jump they say how high.. and we say jump 400 times before it registers and eventually when we threaten to jump ourselves they huffily get up and do it..

gordikin

Tie him to the bed spreadeagled (he'll like that I suspect)...ease yourself down to his bits...tease him and then scoop out his balls with a very blunt teaspoon!

Problem solved!

Britwife

I'm a believer in saving marriages but this has now happened twice to you and I don't think I could forgive a second time. I could see the first but it takes so long to rebuild the trust. I think my biggest concern is that he thinks this is ok.

He shouldn't be thinking of other women that way, that is coveting thy neighbors wife.

I honestly don't think any good will come of this relationship (except your children of course) and I hate saying that....but in the end, you and your children deserve the best.
Hugs hun

jonty1970

her marriage was nothing to do with me
What a cheek! She can mess about with your husband though!!!!
Unbelievable. I'm afraid I would have smacked her

inmypocketnottheirs

A different perspective. I probably will get flamed, but what the hell!

Why does this guy behave like this?

Perhaps, just perhaps, he feels as if he has been trapped (unplanned baby), works all the hours god sends to support his family, spends time away from home, probably gets little relaxation.

Marriages are two way streets, easy to get into, but often end up a dead end.

Very easy to attack the guy, but we don't know his state of mind.

[Deleted User]

Obviously we don't know u or your partner, but with the information u've given, it sounds to me like he's a guy with intimacy difficulties. Work is easier for him, so is flirty, so is sex.., than real emotional intimacy.

And to be honest, u have to both want emotional intimacy with each other for a marriage to be what it should be. More importantly.., has he been meeting your emotional needs? The children's (altho that's not as hard in this scenario)?

I hope that makes sense.

I also agree that one strike, u make it clear it never happens again, two.., he's shown an incapacity to learn/unprepared to work at it.., he's out.

Regardless of what decision u will or won't make. Look at what will happen if u split up, and what will happen if u don't, including going thru the finances with a fine tooth comb..., and start planning for either eventuality. And yes, I agree.., look thru your net history.., in case anything else has been going on.

Personally at the very least, I'd be saying i need time, and pack his stuff up and he can live elsewhere for his next leave. Don't make any decisions in haste.

woody01

gordikin wrote: »

To be blunt 2 strikes and he's out as far as I'm concerned. If he was truly sorry about his previous there's no way he should be going (even cyber) anywhere near another woman.

Typical woman response.

Anyway, he rang and I didn't answer! So that is one nill to me! Psycho wife slowly gaining some self respect!

If you really think that puts you '1 up' then you are mistaken.
As soon as you ignore him, the first thing he will do is say to himself 'sod it...she isn't interested so i will get a bit elsewhere'.

I'm a bloke and this is how alot of us operate.

skiTTish

woody01 wrote: »

Typical woman response.

:rotfl:You are either single ,an ex or a soon to be ex :rotfl:

swiss69

I would be more worried about the fact you feel lonely and unloved.

Add this to the online flirting and previous cheating and it doesnt add up to a good deal for you does it?

Are you still with each other because of the children? Is so, is this enough?

Might be daunting being on your own but living like you are is soul destroying and you may well one day look back and say "Why did I stay?"

Life is too short for unhappiness