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Marriage, relationships & families

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MoneySaving mums

A place for mums with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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MoneySaving dads

A place for dads with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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Deaths, funerals & probate

Get MoneySaving help at the time of bereavement - discuss wills, inheritance tax, estate planning and more.

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PCOS and kids
Hi Does anyone have PCOS and actively chose not to have kids because they can't deal with putting themselves through the mental torture of not knowing if you can get your fertility back? Also with the way the world is now it costs far too much to have a child due to childcare costs and not being able to survive on one…
Former Husband Trying To Get Out Of Going To Court
I recently posted about i am due to give evidence in court in August after i was coercively controlled and assaulted by my ex husband. Today one of the officers in charge of the case has let me know my ex step daughter has raised concerns about he dad going to court. She is saying she thinks he might be mentally ill or…
Does a parent's gift of cash need documenting?
If a parent gives cash to their child above the IHT allowance (ie £3,000 or £6,000 if carried over) but below the nil rate band (£325,000), how should they record that? Is it enough to send them a letter or something saying the money was a gift? Or do they need to do some kind of legally thing?
Draft consent order
I’m hoping someone can help - my ex is taking advice but I said I’d do the same. basically we are in the process of divorcing through the you gov website. We have a child but she’s 12 and we don’t need a formal agreement as that’s all sorted. We can apply for our 1st order (conditional) in September. My ex has applied for…
Giving Evidence At Trial As Victim What To Expect
I was controlled and mentally harmed in my previous marriage and i have had a letter telling me the trial is being held at the beginning of August. My former spouse has pleaded not guilty so i have to give evidence. Its being heard in the crown court as i was hospitalised due to a suicide attempt rather than the…
Breach of Nonmolestation
Advice please.. My friend had a nonmolestation order granted in her favour against ex partner. 1 of conditions is no social media posts mentioning her, or any 3rd parties mentioning her. Last night ex partners new lady notwent on Social Media, screenshotting my friends profile and as well as threats, also initiated…
Power of Attorney
Do you need a power of attorney if you are married? All assets are jointly held so I’m not sure what the benefits would be?
Former Husband Trying To Control My Life
I divorced in early 2021 i met a wonderful man from the USA who has a home over here also and 7 years my junior we are marrying in December. My ex will not agree to a clean break order and i still have not received my divorce settlement. Also he is trying to stop me from getting a green card he said he will tell the…
SEND child trust fund free help
If there’s a better place on the forum for this, please shift it, I can just remember it being discussed a little while ago. https://preview.mailerlite.com/y3q0l9o6m9 This is legitimate. The person who shared the link on Twitter is well known in the court of protection.
My mum can't make financial decisions for herself, please give some advice
I need some advice and I’ll try to keep this short. My mum and dad have a relationship where my dad is controlling. I won’t go into too many details but her social group doesn’t exist, she doesn’t wash, she doesn’t tidy, she doesn’t have a clue what’s going on and my dad likes it that way. The family home was meant to go…
Does a Name Change Statutory Declaration require both the new signature and the old signature?
Hello, If anyone has used a Statutory Declaration (and not a Deed Poll) to change their name, can you please tell me if you signed the document with only your new signature (for your new name)... or... did you sign it with both your new signature and your old signature (for your former name)? I'm asking because I've found…
Dad’s given me his car- advice please
Hi there, My Dad’s decided to give up driving at the age of 84 due to poor health and has offered to give me his car due to me caring for him over the past year since my Mum died. He has blood cancer, though not sure how long he’s got left. My query is, would I be better off paying him a small fee for the car rather than…
Parents being too 'Tight'
Hi Folks, Not sure if this is the right forum to post as the site is primarily about money saving :) but here it goes... My parents have a 6 bedroom detached house that is seriously falling apart, issues include (but not limited to); 1) Water leaking through roof2) Rendering falling off3) Driveway Cracked4) Windows not…
Starting court proceedings for my children
I just need some advice please as I can't proceed with court arrangements unless mediation has been attempted so please read the below and and any advice would be very much welcomed. My ex left me 5 years ago and I attempted mediation and she said something to them and they simply told me they couldn't continue with…
Main breadwinner - financial "pressure/concerns"
Sorry its longer than anticipated This has been kind of circulating in my head awhile now, but just interested in others views on this as this as it doesn't really seem to get talked about. Firstly, we are comfortable and have the security of a decent wedge of savings.I'm the main breadwinner for a family of 5, OH, and 3…
My father gifted me 3000ukp but I tx'd it back to him.
Is this Still classed as him gifting me the money so he can't gift me a lump sum again this year?
Will charges
Hi may i ask what is a reasonable price for a mirror will including arranging a trust for a house and some investment? I have been quoted thousands!!!
LPA got myself in a bit of a pickle
Hi forumites Hope someone will be able to advise as the OPG is shut until Monday and I can’t find the answer on-line but that’s probably because I’m not thinking straight as unable to sleep as I’ve let my parents down. Basically, my 90 year old parents (both with dementia) have been victim of rogue traders and scammed for…
LPA
If you have an LPA, with your daughters as Attorneys, is your wife entitled to any money from the house sale -in your deed name only -by divorcing you? Also can your Attorneys prevent the sale?
LPA reduced fee
My wife get £10.5k NHS pension as her only income apart from a small amount <£200 of interest from savings. However, she invests in a SIPP (£2880) and has some ISAs. Would she still be eligible for the reduced LPA of £42 as her income (before tax) is less than £12k Thanks in advance