please read and help me.....cannot stop crying

aspinallkate

do you think you can trust him again?

k1mmie

Have just read your post and can relate to everything you are feeling. The sickness and the pit in your stomach.

I found an email my husband and his "friend" had been sending each other when he started acting weird and sayingout of the blue he wasn't happy anymore but stilll loved me (after 24 years together, 20 years marriage and three children).

Told her he would leave me for her, but lied to her about so many things. It was like he was in a parallel universe as the things he told her weren't happening at home at all. He even met her once.

I emailed her and said that I appreciated the fact that in many emails she had said to him, you should try with your wife as it sounds like she is a good person. (He told her we had been seperated for 6 months).

I also said I would appreciate her not contacting him as he had told both of us so many lies, she should respect our space.

I had a great friend who I called straight away, she told me to step back and take a deep breathe. No, not me - not my way I went pounding in there as so angry.

Told him not to come home and while he was panicking at work by calling the house constantly to talk to me, I was on the phone to this woman having a long two hour chat.

I recommend you confront him when you feel ready, and confide in a close friend.

All the best and lots of hugs!!!!!

emsywoo123

Merlot wrote: »

Don't take the phone, it'll make him sweat a wee bit if he is texting you.

Personally I wouldn't see him today, maybe tomorrow, make him think long and hard about what he has done.

I would not see him til at least monday if i do not see him today, need to protect DD, who is 4.

emsywoo123

aspinallkate wrote: »

do you think you can trust him again?

I honestly do not know

angelfairy

I can't really add too much more to what advice you have already received, but i just wanted to show you some support.

If you have questions, maybe write them down so you can use the notes if you decide to see him at 2pm today?

Look after yourself.

emsywoo123

k1mmie wrote: »

Have just read your post and can relate to everything you are feeling. The sickness and the pit in your stomach.

I found an email my husband and his "friend" had been sending each other when he started acting weird and sayingout of the blue he wasn't happy anymore but stilll loved me (after 24 years together, 20 years marriage and three children).

Told her he would leave me for her, but lied to her about so many things. It was like he was in a parallel universe as the things he told her weren't happening at home at all. He even met her once.

I emailed her and said that I appreciated the fact that in many emails she had said to him, you should try with your wife as it sounds like she is a good person. (He told her we had been seperated for 6 months).

I also said I would appreciate her not contacting him as he had told both of us so many lies, she should respect our space.

I had a great friend who I called straight away, she told me to step back and take a deep breathe. No, not me - not my way I went pounding in there as so angry.

Told him not to come home and while he was panicking at work by calling the house constantly to talk to me, I was on the phone to this woman having a long two hour chat.

I recommend you confront him when you feel ready, and confide in a close friend.

All the best and lots of hugs!!!!!

How did it turn out for you? And thank you for your message xxx

MrsTinks

Uhmmm sod worrying about if you don't have to make a choice as he might not want to carry on. That might be the case once you speak to him but YOU need to make up your mind first too... If you don't want to carry on seeing him then what he wants doesn't come into this! Make sure you've made that decision before you speak to him

Going for a walk and not seeing him today is a good idea I think...

Don't even bother telling him you're not gonna be there if you ask me but you know him better

Honestly I do think you can do better than him, but I can hardly talk can I?

emsywoo123

beccaoz wrote: »

I can't really add too much more to what advice you have already received, but i just wanted to show you some support.

If you have questions, maybe write them down so you can use the notes if you decide to see him at 2pm today?

Look after yourself.

No notes needed really, jsut a big old "why?"
i have asked, and he says he does not know. what the hell does that mean?!

emsywoo123

Mmm. Grocery delviery due between 11-2. I wanna walk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MrsTinks

Darned those grocery deliveries! :rotfl:

So he knows you know... and he couldn't offer any excuse? Is that the sum total of his defence? :eek: Sorry but that doesn't seem like he's making much effort to me!

I think you need a break from him and work out if this is really what you want. There are better out there - MUCH better! I'm not saying MrTine is perfect but it's ok... we're working on making US perfect as a team and and by communicating all the time

Greatly underestimated that communications thingy...