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please read and help me.....cannot stop crying
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Sounds as if he was p1ssed and rambling when he spoke to her basically telling her he loved her and that he wanted her back.
I am not excusing any of this by the way.
She seem to have handled it well and although still sees him as a good friend it is no more than that.
You certainly need some time apart and only you can decide if you think there is a future for you as a couple but sleep on it (on your own) over the weekend and don't talk to him.
See how you feel then - is it worth all the hassle or is it time to move on.0 -
Just read this post - how awful - have been there and can still remember how sick it makes you feel
Know it's hard but try and stay calm x assumably you live with your OH so when he arrives home from work you need to sit down and discuss it
Try not to go to his work - is there anyone with you at the moment? - can you go to a friends house? x0 -
Breathe........hold for five........breathe again.
No law that says you have to do anything immediately.........how long have you been with OH....is this the first time you've had suspicions........how upset is he that he's upset you......
and WHAT THE HELL IS HE DOING GOING DRINKING WITH HIS EX.......:mad: - I take it he didn't mention this to you before......
Do you believe him when he says he loves you - gut reaction? Or do you think it's a line....(i.e. I have a comfortable life with you to look after me so don't want to risk that if I can get away with it) - and please please don't let him turn this into your fault.....
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I thought he was speaking to her on Facebook so he was drunk in one place and she was elsewhere.
Or do you think they were together?0 -
I thought he was speaking to her on Facebook so he was drunk in one place and she was elsewhere.
Or do you think they were together?
She is in Canada, so unlikely:p
We dated 13 years ago when we were 13..........found each other on Facebook 9 months ago,,,,,,,started dating again 6 months ago.
I had suspicions as he went quiet a few nights ago when we were texting (I had early start so he did not come over)0 -
Think it was a phone call at least - she mentiones hearing his voice again - that says phone to me...
Totally practical view here... do the two of you have any financial accounts together? IF things don't work out then MAKE SURE you get these accounts closed/frozen whatever you need so that you don't have to come back here in a months time and tell us how he's run up £X000 debt on your accounts and done a runner and now you're stuck with the debts
Yes heartlessly practical sometimes me Sorry!
Another cyber hug DFW Nerd #025DFW no more! Officially debt free 2017 - now joining the MFW's!
My DFW Diary - blah- mildly funny stuff about my journey0 -
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Think it was a phone call at least - she mentiones hearing his voice again - that says phone to me...
Totally practical view here... do the two of you have any financial accounts together? IF things don't work out then MAKE SURE you get these accounts closed/frozen whatever you need so that you don't have to come back here in a months time and tell us how he's run up £X000 debt on your accounts and done a runner and now you're stuck with the debts
Yes heartlessly practical sometimes me Sorry!
Another cyber hug
Thank you
nothing financially linked at least. That was Decembers plan!0 -
JimmyTheWig wrote: »Being drunk does sometimes affect what you say.
It can make you more relaxed and _more likely_ to tell the truth.
Great now I am crying more!0 -
Totally practical view here... do the two of you have any financial accounts together? IF things don't work out then MAKE SURE you get these accounts closed/frozen whatever you need so that you don't have to come back here in a months time and tell us how he's run up £X000 debt on your accounts and done a runner and now you're stuck with the debts
Yes heartlessly practical sometimes me Sorry!
But very wise words Mrs Tine. Everyone should have also have an FU fund whether you are happily married or not, you just don't know what is around that corner!"Wisdom doesn't automatically come with old age. Nothing does, except wrinkles. It's true, some wines improve with age. But only if the grapes were good in the first place." — Abigail Van Buren0 -
emsywoo123 wrote: »Great now I am crying more!
Huge hugs to you.
One thing is she is in Canada, she's not just around the corner.
Merlot.x."Wisdom doesn't automatically come with old age. Nothing does, except wrinkles. It's true, some wines improve with age. But only if the grapes were good in the first place." — Abigail Van Buren0
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