please read and help me.....cannot stop crying

emsywoo123

I was suspect that my OH was up to something, so he agve me his facebook password to prove he ahd nothing to hide. Just looked at his emails and it had this on it

Heya Brian,
Just I’ve been thinking n I think I’m not really in the state of mind to be in a relationship or jump in to something with u, I’ve been dealing with alot of stuff at the mo! including the whole depression thing, I don’t think I’m the type of girl you really want to be involved with, “Friends” Yes, But to say your inlove with me or anything like that! It’s just not so, I think you had a bit to much to drink that nite, although I’m not saying I dint like talking to u, to be honest, It was so great to hear your voice again, I missed it! But I do think whatever Problems your having with your girlfriend! I think you should work out with her n maybe open up to her, She seems like a really nice girl!! n obviously really cares about u!! Which I think your lucky for!! So I guess wat I am saying is, Don’t throw something that’s good away for something that will probably never be, You were right about the distance thing! n if I was gonna carry on a relationship with you, It would be very selfish of me! But if u ever wanna come n visit, doors always open n I will always consider u as a close friend, Your not just someone on my friends list your someone I really care about n I value your friendship and I love talking to u!! But I guess this is probs for the best! For you and me...
Love
Jenny
xxx

Jenny is his ex. It was sent last night.
Right now I want to throw up.

MrsTinks

Deep breath hunni and have a cyber hug from me!
I'll send you a PM...

jinky67

She actually comes out of this quite well....HE, however,does not:mad:
He obviously wasnt expecting that to be there.

emsywoo123

jinky67 wrote: »

She actually comes out of this quite well....HE, however,does not:mad:
He obviously wasnt expecting that to be there.

I sent her an email, thanking her for her behaviour, I thought she did well too.
I am going to drive to his work now and chuck his stuff out of my car window.

jinky67

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I sent her an email, thanking her for her behaviour, I thought she did well too.
I am going to drive to his work now and chuck his stuff out of my car window.

Do you know what ?

I think I would too:D
Do it calmly though.....you dont want to come across as a raving lunatic:A

essexgal

jinky67 wrote: »

She actually comes out of this quite well....HE, however,does not:mad:
He obviously wasnt expecting that to be there.

Oh maybe she's very very clever..........was she bitter when they split by any chance....... she might know that he was going to let you read his facebook and this is just to cause trouble - woman scorned et al.

You need to talk to your OH about this - just stay calm and mention this particular email.......his reaction should tell you whether there's a problem...

Hugs in the meantime though - really hope it works out okay for you.

essexgal

emsywoo123

essexgal wrote: »

Oh maybe she's very very clever..........was she bitter when they split by any chance....... she might know that he was going to let you read his facebook and this is just to cause trouble - woman scorned et al.

You need to talk to your OH about this - just stay calm and mention this particular email.......his reaction should tell you whether there's a problem...

Hugs in the meantime though - really hope it works out okay for you.

essexgal

I did speak to him, he said he was drunk and had not realsied he had done it........that he does not love her, loves me.........I am so shocked I do not know waht to do

jinky67

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I did speak to him, he said he was drunk and had not realsied he had done it........that he does not love her, loves me.........I am so shocked I do not know waht to do

I dont think I would believe him,sorry.
Even when you are drunk you still know what you are doing.It is one of the oldest excuses in the book.

emsywoo123

jinky67 wrote: »

I dont think I would believe him,sorry.
Even when you are drunk you still know what you are doing.It is one of the oldest excuses in the book.

I know. I agree.

alfiedog_2

Hi,

sorry you are going through this. What made you suspect he was up to something in the first place?

essexgal

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I did speak to him, he said he was drunk and had not realsied he had done it........that he does not love her, loves me.........I am so shocked I do not know waht to do

Breathe........hold for five........breathe again.

No law that says you have to do anything immediately.........how long have you been with OH....is this the first time you've had suspicions........how upset is he that he's upset you......

and WHAT THE HELL IS HE DOING GOING DRINKING WITH HIS EX.......:mad: - I take it he didn't mention this to you before......

Do you believe him when he says he loves you - gut reaction? Or do you think it's a line....(i.e. I have a comfortable life with you to look after me so don't want to risk that if I can get away with it) - and please please don't let him turn this into your fault.....


essexgal