Hubbie cheating

mrbadexample

Delete her number from his phone. He won't exactly be able to ask you about it, will he?

Stephb1986_2

Hi first of all sorry to hear your going through this and i hope your ok

what you can do is get a free sim card from orange or 02 ect register is in your hubbies name. send a txt to this other woman off his phone saying that I have a new number and new phone just for me and you so my wife doesnt find out blah blah blah then txt her off your new number saying this is my new number.... then arrange to meet her and confront her.

but before you do that i think you should contact CAB get a friend or relative that could put you up for when you confront him have a bag packed in the bottom of your wardrobe for you and your daughter. make sure you have plenty of money to keep you going and gather as much evidence as possible so then if you do decide to have a divorce it makes it a whole lot easier.

perhaps look at places to rent? so you can get out when you need to.

This might take a few weeks or so but it will be worth it. I would definatley contact CAB, its a shame that when you forward a txt that it puts a symbol on it to say its been forward or you could of forwarded all the txts to your phone for evidence.

Sorry for the long post

Hugs love and kisses

Steph xx

angelfairy

to all that are going to through the same thing as poppy at the moment, big hugs from me. you are all amazing to be able to stay strong and stand up for yourselves;

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to all those that gave advice, brilliant suggestions by all of you.

i can't think of anything to contribute, but really nice to see girls (i am be wrong and all posters aren't girls == now i have seen mrbadexample (hello!!!) so i am wrong!!!!) sticking together and helping each other out.

shellsuit

mrbadexample wrote: »

Delete her number from his phone. He won't exactly be able to ask you about it, will he?

She only has to text him though and he will have her number again.

wendywitch

I have so been here before though I wasn't married - thank God.
I did basically all the same things, checked his phone, copied down numbers, googled him, checked his emails etc
And I still kept trying to make it work!
One day I came home from work and he'd taken a holdall and the playstation2, left a note on the living room door and I aint seen him since.
He's moved out the area but I know where and the name of the woman he's now with. Bitter? Yes I am.

I know this won't help but I'd like you to say is "I went to use your phone and found these texts what the ***** going on?!"

I don't see why you can't use his phone after all you're married and shouldn't need to keep secrets and you probably paid for the thing in the first place.

I am so truly sorry for you, I wish there was something I could do. Do I live near enough to you to spy on him for you? LOL

Alikay

Poppykins wrote: »

Thanks Alikay. I do blame myself abit - when I went back to work I only had limited time for hubbie.

Don't blame yourself. poppykins...things are hectic for you right now, and he knows that. He should be an adult and just work through it with you rather seeking attention and comfort elsewhere. Yes, its probably tough for him with your time taken up with job and baby, but its tough for you too, and he should be mature enough to deal with it!

Mojisola

Poppykins wrote: »

When our daughter was 6 months old I went back to work fulltime as hubbie is an arts student. I was, and still am, very tired (dd sleeps terribly - waking up several times in the night). I pay the mortgage, nursery fees, all the bills and food. Hubbie was helping me out at home some of the time but most of the time the chores were left to me. He loves our daughter and she loves him. However he spends very little time with her because he is always out doing something (various schemes to earn money!).

I am really worried that if I do confront him he will threaten divorce and then take everything he can (he did say when things were difficult afew months ago that if we split up he would make things difficult for me - fight to have our daughter residing with him and take half of my pensions/savings).

Poppykins - if you saw this written by another woman, wouldn't you think how this man has been taking advantage of her?

In another post you've written "I do blame myself a bit - when I went back to work I only had limited time for hubbie.

It sounds as this man has really undermined your self-esteem. You earn all the money, pay all the bills, do all the housework, look after your baby and you're trying to find time to be nice to him as well. He is doing whatever he wants, when he wants, can't find the time to be with his daughter and has a bit on the side too - and has threatened to make your life extremely difficult for you if you throw him out!

Finding these texts is probably the best thing that could have happened - he is not good enough for you.

annie_d

Hya shellsuit.
Bad night. No sleep. Just trying to keep still inside till I have chance on my own next week to get to the bank. I am not going to rock the boat until I really have to.
I don't have the energy to collect evidence/proof to spy/ to watch. You know? I know what I know so soflty softly catchy monkey. I am lucky in that, unlike Poppy my children are grown up and have moved away so their day to day life is not affected.

Strong thoughts to you Poppy. There is such a lot of support on here, use it xx

annie_d

LOL @ Dippy chick. Noooooooooooooooooooooooo you have to play it clever!

annie_d

Poppy, i would delete her number....if only for the humour value!