Hubbie cheating

Poppykins

Lil2002 - yes things much better recently. He has been so attentive and has said he realises he should do more. Yet only yesterday he texted this woman to say he missed and wanted her???

thanks shellsuit - good idea.

shellsuit

Poppykins wrote: »

I have taken him up on the offer of going out but it tends to be used going shopping (it is difficult to shop with my 16 month old at the weekends and I feel that I should spend quality time with her then). I have also used the time to pamper myself alittle - leg waxes etc. Things I did before I had my daughter and dont really now get the time to do.

PC history well that is another thing.... his log in has a password which I do not know. My is readily accessible but he choses to keep his secret. Could have met online I guess.

His log in for Windows, or his log in for email, or something else?

If it's his log in for windows, you should still be able to see the history/pages/sites you have both been on x

shellyaspey

poppy like dippy said you need some hard evidence so he can not say your mad or go the wrong end of the stick because he will try all that my ex had me convinced i was paranoid i even went to the docters i believed him

Poppykins

Shellsuit - I do not know either.

Knelley

Hey Poppykins

Sorry to say this huns.....the time CAN be found. I'm going to say this and I know I will be slated but I was in a relationship and found myself involved with someone else in a relationship. He had done it before and his every move was scrutinised, yet, he still found time to get involved with someone else....me. He was not allowed a life away from his family life and yet we still managed to make time to meet up when we were 'meant' to be somewhere else. This was 6 months ago and put me on the verge of a breakdown as I couldn't understand how the hell I had gotten myself in the situation I had
A lot of hurt was caused all round and I advise anyone who is thinking of going there to seriously think again!

Personally, I would trust your instinct, but rather than confront him, find out yourself. If I was confronted at the time I would have lied, pure and simple and I am very ashamed to say this but it was the place I was in at the time. Now, if i had any inclination of my partner doing this I would investigate further until I had evidence. Speak to the woman, find out EXACTLY what has been going on. I wish you all the best huns and I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation

x

shellyaspey

i read in a magazine a while ago a private detective gave advice on what to look for when you suspect your partner is cheating i will try find it ! so how many texts are there and dating back how long

Poppykins

Thanks Alikay. I do blame myself abit - when I went back to work I only had limited time for hubbie.

I think i will gather evidence and may speak to one of my friends - you are the only peeps that know about this as all our friends think we have a wonderful relationship.

Tashja

Oh Poppykins - I am so sorry you are going through this

No advice just some ((hugs)) from me.

T xx

shellsuit

Poppykins wrote: »

Shellsuit - I do not know either.

Just check the history for the PC anyway, you can check if from your log in x

Loretta

I think that you need to look after yourself first of all and as only a few months ago when things were not too good he was telling you that he would make things difficult for you and go for custody etc, not very nice.

I would not say anything until you have taken some legal advice about your position, find a solicitor who will give you half an hour free, he should not be making these threats, but with legal advice you would know what will happen if you want to seperate and will feel more confident when you speak to him.

I would also find out some more facts as to what he is up to so that he cannot kid you about it. If you have a feeling that he is seeing someone else you are probably right, he will of course try and convince you that you are imagining things.

As someone has alreay said there are health issues, you must look after yourself

Your daughter is only a few months old, you know what is best for her, her father does not seem to know, he is making you unhappy with his threats and probably playing away and in the past few months has made you very unhappy. With a new baby this should be a very happy time for you.

Life is too short for all this nonsense, you need to sort this out before your daughter picks up on the atmosphere. You seem able to support yourself financally, check what benefits you may be entitled to if you were on your own you will feel more confident if you know this

At the moment you are very vulnerable, he could tell you at any time that he is off and he will start those threats again.

Good luck