Hubbie cheating

Poppykins

Thanks Alikay - that is definitely worth thinking about.

Mips

shellyaspey wrote: »

yep dippy i agree text her or follow him i would definatley it sounds like he is trying to get you out the house one night a week i would plot some elaborate plan tell him your going out for the night come home early but then again i am a deviouse cow i would follow him

In my opinion you MUST do something so that you have the proof.

You can't be told you are paranoid then, can't be made to feel like you are losing your mind, clingy etc etc. If you see if with your own eyes, there is no worming out of it.

Whether you choose to ditch him or work through your problems is another matter, but never get in the position where he can lie and make you feel bad.

Poppykins

Shellaspey - yes I know he is definitely at the art class. The other nights he goes out - to do his relevant art projects etc, not so sure about those tho.

shellyaspey

poppy my heart really does go out to you really it does i know how it feels deep inside but like i said it may not be an affair he may be using a premium rate text messaging service i know some one who works for one of these the man thinks he is texting a woman when really she does not exsist therfore she will make excuses so she cant meet him just wanna give another perspective

Poppykins

Thanks Annie-d and Pandora. Annie-d hope things work out for you too. I never thought anything like this would happen to me. I have given my husband everything I can to keep him happy - or tried to anyway.

shellsuit

Poppykins wrote: »

Shellsuit - the suspicions I had were mainly about him suddenly being so nice at home and him saying he wanted to give me one evening a week when I could go out and do my own thing.

Did you take him up on the offer of going out one night a week?

Isn't that one of the things people do when they are playing away? They are either horrid and grouchy, or they are OTT, which leads to suspicion, where in your case, you were right to suspect.

While you're there and he is out, have a look at the history on the PC to see if you can see anything x

I'm wondering if it's someone he has met online, as you say you were out working all day and you would come back to chores which hadn't been done, which means he must have been spending his time doing something. Also if he wants you out of the way one night a week, maybe he is/was planning to chat to her for the night?

Poppykins

Thanks Shellaspey - not heard of these premium text mgs services. Guess it could be that?? My intuition tells me otherwise tho.

Lil2002

After having had something similar happen to me , one of the most important questions (horrible to think of, has to be faced) - did he have sex with her? You NEED to know for the sake of your own health, and your babies future.

I'm sorry to be bringing that up - I really am.

Without knowing the timeline - are you saying that things have improved lately? Has he maybe realised what he has with you? It could be he has regretted what happened?

Hugs.

shellsuit

Oh I forgot to mention, if you're not upto confronting him, what about suggesting that you go to the next art class with him, to help out with something? (Not sure what goes on, so not sure what you can suggest).

It could be someone he has met from there, so if you ask and he tries to change the subject or point bank says No, then something could be going on with someone from there x

Poppykins

I have taken him up on the offer of going out but it tends to be used going shopping (it is difficult to shop with my 16 month old at the weekends and I feel that I should spend quality time with her then). I have also used the time to pamper myself alittle - leg waxes etc. Things I did before I had my daughter and dont really now get the time to do.

PC history well that is another thing.... his log in has a password which I do not know. My is readily accessible but he choses to keep his secret. Could have met online I guess.