Am I being 'Out of order'?

TITEASCRAMP

I wouldnt shoot you down in flames. I value all opinions.
If she hadnt invited us, then no I wouldnt of started a thread we havent been invited.

5 years ago they didnt know that I had been crying.
Maybe I am childish, lol Which comments did you think were? I think if you know all the in's and outs you may have a different view.
This bit maybe harsh dh could go without me, but dd isnt. She wouldnt go without me anyway.

LilacPixie

I would go. Quite simply if you refuse to go, DD then won't go and DH is left with a horride choice to make.

Quite simply then YOU are the bad one. who will be perveiced as stopping DD and possible DH from attending a family event and that will stick in everyones minds alot longer than a trivial argument from the 5 years previous.

[Deleted User]

It's simple. A brother should go to his sisters wedding, a wife should accompany and support him.

No past history required: It's the right thing to do

TITEASCRAMP

ringo_24601 wrote: »

It's simple. A brother should go to his sisters wedding, a wife should accompany and support him.

No past history required: It's the right thing to do

Why is it the right thing to do?

TITEASCRAMP

I honestly dont think sil is that important to dh. He never sees her. She only lives 2 minutes down the road.
We have only spoke twice since xmas on chance meetings at mil's.

[Deleted User]

Do you agree your husband should go to his sisters wedding?

It's family.. i know you've had your differences, but this sort of thing causes long term strife. Just go, take it as a holiday and try to enjoy yourself when you're there.

TITEASCRAMP

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Do you agree your husband should go to his sisters wedding?

It's family.. i know you've had your differences, but this sort of thing causes long term strife. Just go, take it as a holiday and try to enjoy yourself when you're there.

I dont know about should. If family were that important she would of choosen England.

It's not somewhere I would want my holiday.
Thanks for all your advice guys:beer:

[Deleted User]

See, i ended up having to fly to Cyprus last year for my OH's best friend's wedding. They had it there to reduce costs...

Yes, i wasn't happy to spend so much (cost a grand) on going to someone's wedding - but.. it's part of life that sometimes, you don't get to do what you want because it's the right thing to do

TITEASCRAMP

ringo_24601 wrote: »

See, i ended up having to fly to Cyprus last year for my OH's best friend's wedding. They had it there to reduce costs...

Yes, i wasn't happy to spend so much (cost a grand) on going to someone's wedding - but.. it's part of life that sometimes, you don't get to do what you want because it's the right thing to do

I think if you know the family history in full, you may feel different. But I see your point.

mrcow

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

I honestly dont think sil is that important to dh. He never sees her. She only lives 2 minutes down the road.
We have only spoke twice since xmas on chance meetings at mil's.

That is not the point.

It is his sister and it is her wedding. It is not your job to reopen old arguments or to start new ones with his family. Looking towards the past isn't going to ever solve anything. If we all did that, no one would ever get anywhere and we'd all be leading very lonely and bitter lives.

If you love your husband and care about his feelings, go to the wedding and bite your lip. It's only a few days and not much to ask. If you really are blameless in all this falling out, then hold your head high as you have nothing to feel bad about. By not going, you are becoming the bad guy and it will be difficult for anyone to get past that in the years to come.