Leaving abusive relationships (merged)

jellyhead

just wanted to send a hug and say i'm glad you're getting help *HUG*

there wasn't any violence in my parents marriage but i'd just like to add that none of us children were emotionally damaged long term by their getting divorced, we all got over it and were just glad ourt mum was happy. your children will be okay in the long term.

Savvy_Sue

Have carried on thinking of you and hoping you are keeping things moving. And wanted to add another thought: you say there are lots of people worse off than you. This may be true, but right now YOU are the one ready to get help and move on, so don't feel held back by thinking off all the others, this is YOUR TIME and you don't deserve what has happened to you, whatever your partner may say.

trace-j

I am truely glad you have made the first and most important steps out of a difficult situation. I do not know what it is like to be in your situation and I won't pretend to.

All I know is that this person is a bully and bullies rely on their victims silence to protect them. The more people you talk to about your situation and the more action you take, the more protected you and your children will become.

What doesn't defeat us can only result in making us stronger.

Be safe.

Mumstheword

Hi Destiny, huge ((((((HUGS))))) to you and your kids.

I've only just seen this thread so am sorry that I haven't offered my support earlier.
I'm in awe of your bravery in getting yourself and your kids out of the house, I really have the utmost respect for you and hope that you realise that you have made the right move.

I suspect that today and yesterday will be the hardest days you have had in a good while - even taking into account the abuse. How many times have you questioned yourself .... whether you've done the right thing!! Any thoughts you get along those lines -READ BACK THIS THREAD!! lol. These next few days will take strength and courage. You have done the hardest bit, but it will be a while before you realise that and relax. Take your strength from your kids, and always remember that this struggle is in their best interests. The situation will settle down, the kids will be happy. Someone earlier said that your kids will take their lead from you, and if you show them your relaxed and happy side, out of the abuse, they too will relax and be happy.

I hope you get sorted with somewhere more permanent to live really soon, and wish you all the very best for a bright and happy future. The move you have made has just brought that light at the end of the tunnel into view - well done you!

Mumsx

Gingham_Ribbon

WELL DONE! You and your kids are going to be FINE! x

justpaper

Great to know ur on ur way,. like u said no looking back now ,. let that fool sit their all alone thinking of what he did,.

Mumstheword

Hi Destiny, let us know how you are when you get to a library!

Mumsx

Jet

Hi Destiny,

Just read through your thread this morning and I just wanted to say that I and all these other people on MSE are thinking of you and are here to support you.

lush_walrus

HI Destiny,

Really hope its all going ok, and you are getting all of the support you need, just wanted to put a little note down to let you know that none of us have forgotten about you and how well you have done. x

black-saturn

I went through a 13 year emotionally abusive relationship with my children's dad. Emotional abuse leaves deeper scars than physical abuse. It's now been 4 years since we split up and I'm really annoyed with myself for putting up with it for so long. I walked out on him in the middle of the night with my 2 children with nowhere to go, only £5, a mobile phone and just 2 carrier bags of clothes to my name. I didn't know where the hell I was going or what was going to happen to us but I knew damn well I wasn't going back.

Anyway, I have a website on the subject of emotional abuse so please feel free to take a look:
Emotional Abuse Website