boyfriend says he can't upset wife!!!!

caroleann

PENNYWISE wrote: »

Hi Caroleann,

Glad it's all starting to work itself out, what a result, I guess he just needed to realise what he could lose by sticking his head in the sand. Wish you lots of luck & happiness in the future x

Thanks Penny,
Good to hear from you, yes thats exactly what he admitted to!!!! It was hard to do what I did, knowing he might just go away and not come back and I'd never hear from him again, Thank God he came to his senses and 'DID SOMETHING'.
Are you still apart from your OH? Whats happening in your life? Hope your'e ok and not down in the dumps.

glossgal

caroleann wrote: »

Thank you for your advice from the horse's mouth ( As it were ) I will take that on board and hopefully in a while when things have calmed down, we can actually meet, without standing on ceremony of course.

I dont ever remember me saying she was an unreasonable monster, and it was said with a lot more sincerity than you've quoted, she actually said, 'I wish you both all the best for the future' which I then reciprocated.
I think cynicism is creeping in big time:eek:

Oh come on OP, it's not hard to be cynical when you read how the thread had developed! I stand by what I said that it just doesn't seem right to me that she would suddenly be so gracious after all the earlier trouble-maybe she had a change of heart or maybe she was never as bad as OH made aout all along? whatever the reason I wish you well anyways

caroleann

glossgal wrote: »

Oh come on OP, it's not hard to be cynical when you read how the thread had developed! I stand by what I said that it just doesn't seem right to me that she would suddenly be so gracious after all the earlier trouble-maybe she had a change of heart or maybe she was never as bad as OH made aout all along? whatever the reason I wish you well anyways

Maybe your'e right Glossgal,
A change of heart or never as bad as he made out, I think a mixture of both myself, the first time he approached her about a divorce was back in September of last year, I'd been on the scene only 3 months and they'd been in touch right up till then in a friendly manner, maybe even more!!!! but 10 months down the line I think she realises its not going to be just a fling for him and that she cant get him back by getting rid of me or stopping him seeing the kids at her house, he says he thought she was expecting it, and her not being as bad? Well I never had experience of her being bad, only what he told me and he explained how she went on back in September, crying and shouting, saying he was hurting his kids, not to mention what he was doing to her, maybe she did always think they would get back together, she did ask him on that occasion to come back and that she realised the answer to all the problems did'nt lie at the bottom of a glass of Vodka and Coke! All im interested in is that he actually spoke to her and told her he wanted a divorce, that gives us somewhere to start atand its a positive step, thanks for your input.

glossgal

Definately, you are much further on than you were! I didn't want to rain on your parade btw, just think you should take it easy until things are definately moving on, papers come through etc. If she consents though it should be v.straightforward (famous last words )

caroleann

Hey to all out there who followed my thread back in March/April.
Latest update is that my partner told me by e mail last night that he cant divorce his wife after all so we are finished, still stunned.
Advice to all single women out there, get a look at the divorce papers before you fall in love.

cazziebo

caroleann wrote: »

Hey to all out there who followed my thread back in March/April.
Latest update is that my partner told me by e mail last night that he cant divorce his wife after all so we are finished, still stunned.
Advice to all single women out there, get a look at the divorce papers before you fall in love.

Want to send you big hugs, Caroleann. Can't say I'm sorry to hear this though - you deserve much better!

Give yourself some time and then go find someone better

xx

Js_Other_Half

caroleann wrote: »

Hey to all out there who followed my thread back in March/April.
Latest update is that my partner told me by e mail last night that he cant divorce his wife after all so we are finished, still stunned.
Advice to all single women out there, get a look at the divorce papers before you fall in love.

Sorry you are feeling so dreadful at the moment, but at least you know now and can get on with your life.

caroleann

Thanks Cazziebo,
Feeling such a mug, cant stop crying, Thank God it's my day off work!!!!
Says he cant move forward but doesn't want to go back either, just cant let go of his past and divorce her, has no romantic feelings for her and doesn't want her back but reading between the lines he still loves her, he knows I won't go on without him doing something to become free so he knew when he told me that it would be over.
Its so hard as I thought we were going forward together and I let myself fall deeply for him, cant imagine my life without him, maybe he will realise in a while how much we had and push himself forward, who knows?
Thanks for your swift reply and support, I really appreciate it. xxx

caroleann

Js_Other_Half wrote: »

Sorry you are feeling so dreadful at the moment, but at least you know now and can get on with your life.

Yes your'e right, not knowing is terrible, loving someone more than they love you is heartbreaking, but at least he has put me straight and said he did'nt want to lead me on and hurt me even more somewhere down the line, hope he can move on one day and get himself sorted out, he's a lovely man despite all this c--p.

Craftyscholar

caroleann wrote: »

Hey to all out there who followed my thread back in March/April.
Latest update is that my partner told me by e mail last night that he cant divorce his wife after all so we are finished, still stunned.
Advice to all single women out there, get a look at the divorce papers before you fall in love.

!!!!!!!!{caroleann}}}}}
I got worried as soon as I saw you had posted again.

I'm so sorry my dear. You were prepared for him to go when you had the break before, but to come back, tell you he wanted to be with you, even involve his ex and then do this!!!:mad::mad::mad:
No consolation I am sure but you are worth better.