boyfriend says he can't upset wife!!!!

caroleann

Hi Crafty,
Thank you for following my story, your'e right, when he went to see her and she rang me to confirm he'd spoken to her I was over the moon, that was around 22nd April, I have been so happy since then, we've been so close, I even got bike gear and we started to go out on his beloved bike, thought I'd be terrified but I loved every minute.
Have to admit the divorce was never mentioned by him again but thought that they were just going to do the 2 years seperation kind and left it at that.
I did have an inkling if I'm honest over the last week or so that he was pulling back from me a bit but thought I was being over sensitive. Should have trusted my instincts, was also gutted that he couldn't tell me to my face, said he wouldn't have been able to get the words out, so sent me a text to say he'd sent me an e mail and to read it, would'nt answer his phone to me or my texts, think that was cowardly, in the end I got him to read the e mail out to me as the e mail did'nt come through, it was devastating to hear the words he said to me, I told him he had broken my heart and that he should have told me a year ago he had no intention of divorcing his wife, i would have ran for the trees then, I still love him deeply and can't imagine my life without him, he is in every room i go into, he has completley renovated this house and everywhere I look is his handy work, feel scared and lost without him, this is going to be a bad day for me, but life goes on, thank you for your kind words, they really help.

Mips

caroleann wrote: »

Hi Crafty,
Thank you for following my story, your'e right, when he went to see her and she rang me to confirm he'd spoken to her I was over the moon, that was around 22nd April, I have been so happy since then, we've been so close, I even got bike gear and we started to go out on his beloved bike, thought I'd be terrified but I loved every minute.
Have to admit the divorce was never mentioned by him again but thought that they were just going to do the 2 years seperation kind and left it at that.
I did have an inkling if I'm honest over the last week or so that he was pulling back from me a bit but thought I was being over sensitive. Should have trusted my instincts, was also gutted that he couldn't tell me to my face, said he wouldn't have been able to get the words out, so sent me a text to say he'd sent me an e mail and to read it, would'nt answer his phone to me or my texts, think that was cowardly, in the end I got him to read the e mail out to me as the e mail did'nt come through, it was devastating to hear the words he said to me, I told him he had broken my heart and that he should have told me a year ago he had no intention of divorcing his wife, i would have ran for the trees then, I still love him deeply and can't imagine my life without him, he is in every room i go into, he has completley renovated this house and everywhere I look is his handy work, feel scared and lost without him, this is going to be a bad day for me, but life goes on, thank you for your kind words, they really help.

Be glad he has renovated the house - you will have to get over him and move on.

It makes sense that he would still have feelings for this woman after such a long marriage, and their lives will always be intertwined through the children.

you may have met him too soon after their break up, who knows.. he may come back to you.. but don't be used.

try not to be angry with him either, it doesn't seem like he has done this on purpose.

margaretclare

caroleann wrote: »

Hey to all out there who followed my thread back in March/April.
Latest update is that my partner told me by e mail last night that he cant divorce his wife after all so we are finished, still stunned.
Advice to all single women out there, get a look at the divorce papers before you fall in love.

I am so, so sorry.

With very best wishes

G-G_4

Oh dear, hope you are ok..

xxx

SallyUK

Hi Caroleann

I've not posted before now but have been following your thread.

I'm really sorry that he's done this to you and even worse, was the fact that he told you by email!!

I know how you're feeling, (been there, done that) and I really hope that you won't take him back if he comes running to you again.

You have your whole life in front of you, and you deserve to be happy, but with someone else.

Take care,

Sally
x

melancholly

oh i'm so sorry.... and by email - what a coward....

i think you're stronger than you realise and that you'll cope. it will be tough for next few days/weeks, but you clearly do not have a future with that man and it is his loss, not yours.

suekjw

You don't want to be with someone who would tell you that by e-mail anyway!

Hugs to you, at least now you can draw a line, get on with your life and find yourself a proper man. Good Luck - it's his loss not yours!

larmy16

Hi Carole Ann. Sorry to hear the turn in your relationship. What with you and Laura on the other thread, it is a pretty sad time all round. I am almost tempted to post a thread regarding my relationship, but I think we are all a little wrung out with craziness of relationships right now!

Sending you a cyber hug (((...))). Take care of yourself.

Jei70

Oh, I was afraid something like this was going to happen! I'm really sorry. I know it's hard getting over someone you loved, but keep in mind his cowardly behaviour. You deserve much better!

Take good care of yourself (((hugs)))

k1mmie

I too have not posted here on this thread, but have followed your plight. I would like to confirm what many readers as well as yourself have stated, that SEPERATED does not mean SEPERATED.

My husband told me after 20 years he was unhappy but loved me. He was going through many upsets in his life with job and his mother ill etc. Anyhow did not leave the family house (or my bed) for one night. Yet found out he had started talking on the internet with someone and met them and told her he was seperated for 6 months. I tracked her down and told her the truth. She was absolutely gobsmacked and realised how dangerous this situation could have become. So word to the wise for all you reading, please be cautious.