boyfriend says he can't upset wife!!!!

caroleann

NAR wrote: »

I think you are quite right to be suspicious. I think he is going to see if he can get you to back down (using mental blackmail) - for goodness sake stick to your guns!

I will stick to my guns, I know there's something fishy going on here, its just not adding up, I've sent a text saying we need a break till things settle down, that was at 3pm yesterday, not a single word from him since.

NAR

Good for you lady. :T

caroleann

Errata wrote: »

Caroleann, I've sent you a PM. Enjoy the sunshine !

Thank you so much for your reply, you are ao astute, I wrote you a long reply and when I went to submit message it said i was'nt logged in, I had logged in and this is happening to me a lot, its so frustrating as I lost everything, iI will reply in a PM in full, but not tonight I'm frazzled, he hasnt been in touch with me since 3pm yesterday when I said we needed a break till things settled down, maybe have given him the get out clause he was looking for.

Maz

I may be speaking out of turn here, sorry if I am but I think he's hedging his bets. If he truly cared about you and loved you and his marriage was definitely over, he wouldn't be dragging his heels. I smell a (love) rat and would hate to see you being hurt lovey. Make yourself your priority.

caroleann

Thanks Maz,
I smell it too, cant believe I've been hoodwinked so easily, I have opened up to him totally and thought he was genuine, as each day goes by I feel more stupid and gullible.

Errata

caroleann wrote: »

Thank you so much for your reply, you are ao astute, I wrote you a long reply and when I went to submit message it said i was'nt logged in, I had logged in and this is happening to me a lot, its so frustrating as I lost everything, iI will reply in a PM in full, but not tonight I'm frazzled, he hasnt been in touch with me since 3pm yesterday when I said we needed a break till things settled down, maybe have given him the get out clause he was looking for.

You're very welcome. Drop me a line when you've got time.
Have a good sleep tonight and tomorrow start concentrating on Wednesday.

I keep getting logged out as well, I think there's a new timer tekkie bit !
Techie tip for anyone having the same problem - write your PM and then copy it, make sure you're logged in, go back into your PM thingy and paste the copy and hit the reply (or is it send) buttom ASAP. That's the only way I could beat the clock. MSE must be saving on leccy or summat :rolleyes:

Errata

caroleann wrote: »

Thanks Maz,
I smell it too, cant believe I've been hoodwinked so easily, I have opened up to him totally and thought he was genuine, as each day goes by I feel more stupid and gullible.

Don't you dare feel bad about yourself ! Get angry !

candygirl

caroleann wrote: »

Thanks Maz,
I smell it too, cant believe I've been hoodwinked so easily, I have opened up to him totally and thought he was genuine, as each day goes by I feel more stupid and gullible.

His behaviour since yesterday speaks volumes imo.Is he really worth all this hassle?Take care of yourself now hun, cos believe me ,that's exactly what he'll continue to do, at your expense:rolleyes:

PENNYWISE_3

caroleann wrote: »

Hi Errata,
Things have gone pear shaped at this end, BF is backing off, surprise surprise, acting very strangely, did'nt come to see me last night as he's feeling down,
He's not going to do the wife/ solicitor bit is he???????
Please give me your comments, you have been spot on in the past at seeing things I cant,
Caroleann

hugs to you, certainly sounds like ur going thru it at the mo
one thing i would say is, you've given him a time frame to start getting this sorted within, i think now u got to see what he comes up with, it might be he's like my fella & does everything last minute.
you can't second guess what he's gonna do so really got to play the waiting game (i know it's easier said than done!)
remember we're here for u every step of the way!

PENNYWISE_3

Errata wrote: »

I keep getting logged out as well, I think there's a new timer tekkie bit !
Techie tip for anyone having the same problem - write your PM and then copy it, make sure you're logged in, go back into your PM thingy and paste the copy and hit the reply (or is it send) buttom ASAP. That's the only way I could beat the clock. MSE must be saving on leccy or summat :rolleyes:

i've set computer to recognise me so i don't have to sign in everytime i visit & don't have any probs with reply being timed out. tho i know not everyone can do this if they're not only ones to use computer

copying text is a good way to get round problem tho. or some people write reply in word and then copy & paste into MSE reply box