boyfriend says he can't upset wife!!!!

caroleann

One thing that led to me saying we should have a break was that last week his son and GF came up from Southampton for the week for a holiday, he gave them use of his flat and his bed, he slept in a Z bed in his spare room while he was there and with me on the Tuesaday which was his birthday, we had a lovely day and night out together, was expecting to be told he could'nt see me as son wanted to take him out for a drink or some other excuse, but having mentioned that I would 'Slap his a--e', laughingly of course, earlier in the week if I did'nt get to be with him on that day, think he thought better of it!!!!

Anyway, in that whole week, never once did he suggest I call in and meet son and GF, or we went out for a drink/coffee with them, I was soooo hurt, I feel like I'm 'Kept in a cuboard' where his family are concerned,like I'm something he's ashamed of and not worthy.

I havent said anything to him about this, but I know I will in the future as It's not fair or right,

Is it me?

Please give me your opinions,

Caroleann

Errata

Anyway, in that whole week, never once did he suggest I call in and meet son and GF, or we went out for a drink/coffee with them, I was soooo hurt, I feel like I'm 'Kept in a cuboard' where his family are concerned,like I'm something he's ashamed of and not worthy

Hello Mrs Rochester !

Good grief - sounds like he doesn't want his family to know he's dating !

This is difficult for me to type as I have all my fingers crossed for you. Hope you get the job, but just in case..........look on it as excellent interview practice and invite the MD to give you some feedback.

PENNYWISE_3

Oh caroleann, i'm so sorry, thought it was today, think I need to learn to read properly! ;-)
How did interview go?

I think i'm missing an update somewhere, has he started replying to your text messages again since you said you needed to be on a break?
sorry if i'm missing summat here, my brain isn't working:D

caroleann

PENNYWISE wrote: »

Oh caroleann, i'm so sorry, thought it was today, think I need to learn to read properly! ;-)
How did interview go?

I think i'm missing an update somewhere, has he started replying to your text messages again since you said you needed to be on a break?
sorry if i'm missing summat here, my brain isn't working:D

Hi Penny,
Yes I talked about it in post 240, he got in touch eventually on Monday night to wish me luck in my interview say he missed me and tell me there is nobody else but me!!!

I thanked him for that and told him I'd let him know how it went, so yesterday afternoon I sent him a text to say I had no news as yet, that I missed him too, but thought we should stick to our agreement about waiting a month for him to start things moving and I'd see him for an update around the 22nd April and I'd be waiting for him if he'd stuck to his word. he said he understood and that it probably was a good idea to be apart till then but that its not easy for him to be apart from me as he misses me so much.
Which is nice but words are cheap and I'm sceptical, does he just want to get back here with me for company and 'extras', so no, its going to be that he either does what he promised he would or I meet him on 22nd and nothing has been done and I walk away.

Caroleann

caroleann

Errata wrote: »

Hello Mrs Rochester !

Good grief - sounds like he doesn't want his family to know he's dating !

This is difficult for me to type as I have all my fingers crossed for you. Hope you get the job, but just in case..........look on it as excellent interview practice and invite the MD to give you some feedback.

Thanks so much,

Yes thats the conclusion I came too a long time back, infact way back when we first got together, he spoke to said son about me and apparantley he was up for meeting me then, but I was going away on holiday the next week and he then went away to college so it never came off, but BF said he was 'Over the moon' that son wanted and was willing to meet me!!!! How things have changed since then.

My interview seemed to go well, it was very informal and we did have a laugh, the MD was a very unstuffy guy in his early forties, hope I hear something soon, its torture:eek:

PENNYWISE_3

caroleann wrote: »

In that whole week, never once did he suggest I call in and meet son and GF, or we went out for a drink/coffee with them, I was soooo hurt, I feel like I'm 'Kept in a cuboard' where his family are concerned,like I'm something he's ashamed of and not worthy.

I havent said anything to him about this, but I know I will in the future as It's not fair or right,

Is it me?

Please give me your opinions,

Caroleann

Hiyah

Maybe it never occcurred to him? I know that sounds silly but we all think differently or maybe he was waiting for you to suggest meeting if u wanted to see son & gf & was trying not to put any pressure on u?
Who knows and I always think honesty is best policy, talk to him about it in a non confrontational way when the time is right for u.

PENNYWISE_3

caroleann wrote: »

Hi Penny,
Yes I talked about it in post 240,

crikey, i'm behind the times, i'm off for an catch up!

if he got in touch with u that's a good sign, he remembered u got this interview so he must be thinking of u. yes, words can be cheap but maybe he really means them, at the end of the day trust ur instincts & time will tell.
Use this time on the break to enjoy & pamper urself - go and do all those things you think would be nice but never have the time for

got my fingers crossed for new job and happy outcome for u

caroleann

I'm GUTTED, did'nt get the job :mad: .

caroleann

PENNYWISE wrote: »

Hiyah

Maybe it never occcurred to him? I know that sounds silly but we all think differently or maybe he was waiting for you to suggest meeting if u wanted to see son & gf & was trying not to put any pressure on u?
Who knows and I always think honesty is best policy, talk to him about it in a non confrontational way when the time is right for u.

No, he knows how much I would love to meet any of his kids, so it wasn't that he did'nt want to any pressure on me, quite the reverse, I probably put pressure on him.

Still reeling with the disapointment of not getting the job, heard from my recreuitment agency that they'd had a terrible time deciding between the two of us and there was'nt a hair in it, but the experience she had had on a reception desk swung it for her, back to the drawing board,:o

Errata

Commiserations about the job, isn't it the total pits when that happens but it's great that it wasn't your skills that let you down. Nothing I can say will make you feel any better right now. I have several 'came second' t-shirts, and I've sat on appointment boards that dished them out, so I know how awful it is.

Chin up - I hope you're going to give yourself a runner up prize, you certainly deserve it.