boyfriend says he can't upset wife!!!!

caroleann

ellie14 wrote: »

Well done on the job front ,I have a 16yr old D/Dso know how hard keeping up when alone.You are doing really well on the b/f front not easy ,but you have to know oneway or the other ,hope hes not buying time.Please keep us all posted.

Hi Ellie,

They are expensive items to keep aren't they?

I get £200 a month maintenence which goes nowhere when it comes to clothes, shoes, school uniform, make up, hairdressers,school dinners, pocket money.....I could go on and on, but you know exactly where I'm coming from, she just doesn't understand the money we had when we were a family isint there anymore, keep telling her the tree in the garden is not a money tree.:D

Carole x

Errata

Lets hope I'll be celebrating on Wed:beer:
Tell us which way it goes as soon as you know and we can have a virtual celebration (I think I'm barred from the Newcastle Pitcher and Piano )

caroleann

OMG What happened????????

Couldnt help but laugh out loud there!!!!

xxx

caroleann

Errata wrote: »

Lets hope I'll be celebrating on Wed:beer:
Tell us which way it goes as soon as you know and we can have a virtual celebration (I think I'm barred from the Newcastle Pitcher and Piano )

Will let you know asap, love the sound of a virtual celebration.... but it cant be virtual red wine.... sorry!!!!!

toinfinityandbeyond

if you've been married yourself you should remember the vows "for richer and poorer". so she should really be intitled to something if not half of everything they have ear'nt and saved in their very long marrige.including his pension.

Errata

toinfinityandbeyond wrote: »

if you've been married yourself you should remember the vows "for richer and poorer". so she should really be intitled to something if not half of everything they have ear'nt and saved in their very long marrige.including his pension.

And including her pension !

Errata

caroleann wrote: »

OMG What happened????????

Couldnt help but laugh out loud there!!!!

xxx

Shrouded in the mists of time and rightly so :rotfl: but I remember it was a very good conference

caroleann

Errata wrote: »

Shrouded in the mists of time and rightly so but I remember it was a very good conference

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Sounds like a good time was had by all!!!!!!

xxx:beer:

caroleann

toinfinityandbeyond wrote: »

if you've been married yourself you should remember the vows "for richer and poorer". so she should really be intitled to something if not half of everything they have ear'nt and saved in their very long marrige.including his pension.

If you'd taken the time to read my posts you would have seen that I am all for her getting everything that she's entitled to, always have been, its my BF that is being cagey about everything and trying to duck out of his repsonsibilities by not divorcing her and keeping his pension intact, I WANT HIM TO DIVORCE HER AND SORT OUT THE PENSION ISSUE, hope this clarifies things, Thanks to Errata for your comment, her NHS pension goes into the pot too, fair's fair.
I was married 30 years, no savings or pension came my way.............

caroleann

AMILLIONDOLLARS wrote: »

Carolann

I have just been reading some of this thread. Question, who initially asked for the separation? Sounds like it was the wife.

Another observation - If he does not get a divorce and you set up home together, you have no rights when he dies, (wife gets everything regardless of how many years they have been separated)he can't love you that much if he is willing to let that happen to you because he want to keep his pension and any solicitor worth their salt would tell him that losing some of this was on the cards anyway so there's no point in waiting.

Hi,
I have replied to this post twice and both times have been logged out and had to log in again to find my reply has vanished, lets hope this time it s third time lucky:mad:

They were having lots of problems and she asked him to leave the marital home, he refused so she left her 4 kids and went to live with her Mother, a separation was agreed on and the sale of the house, it needed work doing to bring it up to scratch so she returned while this was being done and they shared the same bed and i assume other things too:o

The house sold and they both bought their own property 60/40 split in her favour.

They have been separated almost two years now, I'm not sure if i want to rush into another marriage just yet, but do want him to be divorced and not still married to her now we're are together, not an unreasonable request me thinks:D

Caroleann