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wifeforlife

Hey everyone

Havent posted in a few days on this, how's everyone keeping?

I'm trying to organise a night out tonight, I havent been out since February and even then I was only out for an hour and hadnt been out for months prior to that

I hope someone texts back, I'll never meet anyone sitting in the house, and I really fancy doing my hair and makeup

Has anyone else any plans for the weekend?

Cate

djdido2

Sunnydoo wrote: »

DJ- i was the same last weekend but all my uni assignments are done(for the moment anyway!)

What are you studying if you don't mind my asking ?

Hi Sunny. I don't at all. Its good to talk. Some days go by where I don't talk to anyone other than my kids so I come here for the social aspect really. I am currently studying part-time in Youth and Community Work. Its a foundation course that leads to a degree which I will be starting in September, full-time, if I pass. I have volunteered too and this has given me a bit of time away from being stuck in the house and I have made a few friends too. Its all positive stuff thats enhancing my employability and its what is keeping me going (and the kids too! lol).

Diamond78

Hi Group
How is everyone?Hope all is good and enjoying the lovely weekend.i am not!!! See here i go again, moaning.Im on a downer today,feellow.I get like this sometimes.My son had footie today but he didnt want to go as he woke up last night and didnt go to sleep for ages.He still sleeps in my bed for a number of reasons.Im sure some ppl will think this is wrong but b4 i get judged my son is to scared due to a lot of reasons which is long to explain. Also the flat I have been in for 2 months is very unsuitable but i was homeless and the council would not help so had to go private,im now in a basement flat that use to be a office.My room or should i say our room has one window, where as the other room has no window no light and no ventilation.Envioremental health have been and said that the room cant be used but it wont give council any reason to house me as theres the living room. I think housing is another issue with single parents,its times liked this i wish i had a family to help, my son woke up crying last night saying how he didntlike it here,we have plumbing probs and the landlord got his friend to do it but he dint do it properly so it smells in here.Has done since we moved in november-he wasnt happy when envoiremntal health came so dont want him getting funny with me as i have nagged him to get it done.I have got my name down on the housing but they said im non priority and may never get housed. Feel ike im going to rott and suffer in here. I hope you all have a good weekend.Im usually stuck indoors, I havent made any friends here, I have a few but they are always busy working or going out which I understand.I feel so lonely sometimes, I know i have my son but I have no adult company, i miss laughing and normal things.I feel isolated too.

djdido2

Diamond. Feel free to PM anytime. Knowing you have a friend who can offer support or advice really helps and a good girly chit chat does me the world of good.

Sunnydoo

Diamond-sorry about your awful circumstances,have you tried talking to social services or citizens advice ? Surely they can try & move you up the housing ladder ?

I won't be speaking to any adults today either apart from DD's friend's dad who is picking her up for roller skating in an hour

DJ-that's great,must be hard work. I volunteered at school while i was doing my access course but don't have time while i'm at uni.I do help with DD's Brownies which is great fun but of course she takes advantage & plays me up in front of the other girls !

djdido2

Diamond, you might also want to mention your housing situation to your Health Visitor. My HV was really helpful when I was in housing need and her influence did help with priority. If this is affecting your little one then maybe she can help you along the way a little.

Diamond78

Hiya all,thanks for all your support and kind comments.My son doesnt have a HV, he is nearly 6 now so I wouldnt know who to go to and ask for help. Because of all what we have been through, other things to my son has suffered a lot.He has witnessed domestic violence towards me from his dad, had to move due to hate crime which was awful and thats one of the reasons i had to leave my old home.I made friends with some mums from the school who i thought was nice but wasnt.I was constantly looking after there kids after school,in the holidays, feeding them.I soon realised they were taking advantage of me, as I am quite soft and caring and will do anything for anyone.But its hard with one kid, i was feeding 4 more kids on top of mine.I had enough of it and couldnt cope and tried to distance myself from them.They turned on me so badly, they had a reputation for not being nice but i dont judge, i give every1 a chance.They started saying ppl were gossiping abouit me so i confronted one mum who denied gossiping about me, she then attacked me from behing in my sosn classroom while i was holding my sons hand.The school were just as bad as I said i wanted the police called as it was totally unprovoked-all the kids aged 5 witnessed it as my son was in reception then.The school would not get vthe police so i went there myself and said i wanted it taken further.A week later it was the summer hoidays and someone got in our garden and cut up my sunlounger to bits, so i reported that to.I was still friendly with the 2 mums who were using me and i was always babysitting for them.My son loved having kids round although one of them woulkd try and bully my son, i made sure it stopped.I waited over 7 weeks for that mum to be arrested and after the schools reopened the police rang to say they would arrest her up the school.I said no way as this would cause me more grief and probs and i didnt want that.After i distanced myself from them mums i started getting funny phone calls, then one evening i returned home from shopping with my son and the front of my house had been compltly graffited, my son screamed in terror even tho he could not read it, it looked like blood to him.I rang police and had to wait over 4 hours before they arrived, i left that day.Only those 2 mums knew i would be out, theres a lot more to it and a lot of threats came after.I left after that day as i was not going to put my son thru anymore,he has suffered so much.I went to my brothers who had a 1bed flat but he had his ownprobs and didnt really want us there.His council told me i was not homeless and that they woukd not help.I started getting phonecalls, my so called friends had put my number and photo on sites and i was getting calls from dirty men , luckily i saved them aswell asd the txts and reported everything.To cut the story short they have been issued with a harasment warnig and i havent heard nothing since.My council i was with would only put me in temporary accomadation which is what i was i anyway but i didnt want to be in that same area and wanted to be out but they wouldnt help much but did pay for my deposit as thats all they would do if i found private property.So this why im here now.I feel such a failure as all this has happened due to me allowing these ppl in my life, but i never knew they would be so hirrid nd evil.They have terrified us with the threats. When we went to do our removal they turned up and my brother got scared so he made us leave and i had to leave so much stuff behind.The police involved promised they would be there when i did the removal but they wasnt.
After what I have experienced i will never find it easy to make friends again, this is why my depression has got worse.Im sorry to bore u all with my probs tkanx again xx

Sunnydoo

Sorry Diamond,not a lot i can say except keep posting on here if you need to rant & as DJ said,feel free to PM us if you want to

Diamond78

Thank you sunnydoo, i feel bad posting on here now as i dont want to get anyone down as everyone has there own probs and they dont need a depressed mum on top of everything else.Today is just a bad day for me, most days i am ok can deal with things but im due on-the dreaded monthly lol so my emotions are sky high.Ive also stopped smoking and today has been the worse day so far.It was my birthday on thursday, most ppl have a party of some sort, i didnt even get no cards, i thought hitting 30 would of been good and better and i was so positive about 2008 being better,im going to hava a cry in my room as dont way my son seing me, have a bath and im sure i will feel better-thanks all for your support.xx

misswig

Hi everyone

Not posted for a few days as have been really busy at work which means fallen behind on home. Have been to my brothers for the last 24 hours which is great as i hadn't seen him for a bit. Alexander loves him and his girlfriend to pieces si it was nice for him too. Just got back from a party with him which means he has gone to bed tired out- sleep in for me tomorrow!! (well 7am).

One good thing about working is the social aspect for your child at nursery (and also for me meeting the other mums). I have just requested to cut down my hours to 2.5 days a week at work so will hopefully have more time with Alexander at home :j :j

Hope you are all having a great weekend