Calling All Single Parents

missyg_3

Sunnydoo, I don't think you need to worry too much about that. There are lots of two-parent only-child families where one parent does the majority of the care.

As well as school, my son does a variety of clubs and he has a good social life with his friends out of school.

Besides, as long as you and your daughter enjoy the close bond you have, who is to say what's weird and what isn't?

bellaboy_2

Does anyone know how to get hold of a Gingerbread Club??

98sidney

When my children are ill and I have to pick one of them up, depending how ill they are I will also take my other child home to. I have also kept my Buggy so if it is my 5yr old d who is ILL I can wrap her up and sit her in the buggy, and take my son to school. Also good Idea to keep Buggy so you can use it to get your shopping home. I love being a single parent and both my children are thriving and well mannered, and very close.

misswig

astonsmummy wrote: »

yes, my son is really independant in some ways, such as choosing what clothes he wears, getting dressed himself etc, but he wont play in his room, even if i'm just pottering around upstairs, he follows me everywhere, i cant even go toilet without him coming in there with me :eek:

Same here!! My son is also 3.5 and will get dressed himself (with a ew readjustments from me:cool: ) and likes to choose his clothers and get them out of the wardrobe (usually all of them when we have literally 3 mins before we have to be going out!!!)

He is also a limpet sometimes and likes to be in the same room as me most of the time. He will even try to lean on my knee when i am on the toilet!! Also likes me to be in the bathroom with him when he is on the otilet.

Drives me nuts sometimes but then i think hat he will grow away from me all to soon and to enjoy the closeness while i can!!

Jet

Hi all,

Another single parent here.

Like most things, I think single parenting has it's positives and negatives.

The positives that stand out the most for me is being able to take the credit for doing it all alone, the having more time because of not having to clear up after a man and the freedom.

The negatives are loneliness, having to deal with difficulties alone and simply not feeling that there is a back up when things go wrong (like sickness).

I've only got one child and too worry that he will grow up to be a bit of a mummy's boy. But I also hope that I teach him that we are a team and he has to be part of it for the team to work. I try and get him involved in decisions and running the home - perhaps I do that because I don't have another adult?

It certainly gets easier as he gets older although I have the dreaded teen years to get through yet. :rolleyes:

jembie

Sunnydoo wrote: »

I agree- it's hard enough getting one child to tidy up after herself & do her homework,goodness knows how i'd cope with more than one although i do worry that DD will grow up 'a bit wierd' as she is with me so much of the time. Anyone else have this problem ?

No don't worry too much. I used to think the same thing but now I am always moaning that I am here on my own cos my 2 are always out. :rolleyes::p

Krystaltips

I've also been a LP since I was pregnant with my daughter, I asked my x for some space and he disapeared off the face of the earth up until christmas eve 2006. He visited our daughter 4 times between jan and march last year and we haven't heard from him again since. His parents are just as bad, they've been to see her twice even though his brother lives literally down the road from me and they are there twice a week.

I find it actually painfull that the one person in the whole world who should love her as much as I do can't even be bothered to pop a christmas card in the post. It took me up until about last April to finally give up on him and my daughter is nearly 4. I feel I did all I could to make him and his family interested in her, sent photo's and things but there is only so long you can bang your head against a brick wall. I don't hate him, I don't feel any resentment, I just feel sad that he has missed out on such a wonderful little girl who is so well behaved and so pretty. And gues what, I did that!!

Lone parents are often made to feel like second class people but we work harder than anyone, we have total responsibility for our children and the way they grow up, we should be proud of ourselves and proud of our children. I've been fortunate to find the man of my dreams and we'll be getting married this year but until then I'll still be a lone parent (and probably still feel like one for a while after) so I hope nobody minds me hanging around this thread a while.

missyg_3

Krystaltips - thanks for your post. I too find it incredible that some people can just abandon their offspring like that, but they are the ones missing out.

How can they live with that on their conscience - I don't understand it.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

astonsmummy

misswig wrote: »

Same here!! My son is also 3.5 and will get dressed himself (with a ew readjustments from me:cool: ) and likes to choose his clothers and get them out of the wardrobe (usually all of them when we have literally 3 mins before we have to be going out!!!)

He is also a limpet sometimes and likes to be in the same room as me most of the time. He will even try to lean on my knee when i am on the toilet!! Also likes me to be in the bathroom with him when he is on the otilet.

Drives me nuts sometimes but then i think hat he will grow away from me all to soon and to enjoy the closeness while i can!!

snap :rotfl:

Krystaltips

missyg wrote: »

Krystaltips - thanks for your post. I too find it incredible that some people can just abandon their offspring like that, but they are the ones missing out.

How can they live with that on their conscience - I don't understand it.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

I can't understand it either missy, when I look at my dd I feel like I could burst inside... Why would anyone want to miss out on that?!