Calling All Single Parents

Diamond78

Welcome missyg. Your very welcome hun.Feel free to post whatever you want to.x

shazrobo

i'm a single mum too, after splitting with exh when my twin sons were just three months old, it has been very hard work, especially as they are both special needs. they are 12 now.

angie_baby

Hi, im a single mum too (at 16). Have a DS who will be six next tues. I have been a single mum since he was born. Its a shame but his father is a junkie and doesnt seem to want to give up his drugs. He has the choice his son or drugs. He chose and we havent seen him since, apart from a letter during his last stay in prison. He will never change.

I love DS to bits though, and our lives. I sometimes get a little down about not being able to provide a full family so to speak, and the fact i work over a 40hrs week which means i dont get to spend much time with him during the week. But, Im lucky though i have my dad who is a great support and a good male influence on DS.

98sidney

Hi Sorry I am late just saw ne thread hope its okay to join in. I am a singleparent I have 2children 9&5, been sp for over 5 years, split from ex 2days after my youngest was born. Found out seeing another woman. They still see there dad, and that is the bit I hate as he uses that to try and get back with me. My son used to dote on his dad but the past year he has started to see the other side of his dad and I dont think it will be long before he says I dont want to go as I want to play with my friends. The worst bit for me was losing the job I loved doing. But being a single parent is a full time plus job.

scoobydo_2

Hi everyone I'm a single parent to 2 kids 15 and 14 and have been on my own since ex left me for another woman . The kids see him once a week for a couple of hours and about once a month ,when it suits him to sleep at his .But as he changes his mind to suit himself I have never had a relationship since he left , like other my parents worry that i have no life but i don't have friends to socialize with and i'm 41 so not into the whole club and pub scene .I am happy with just me and the kids but must admit it would sometimes be nice to be loved for being me not just being a mum and daughter to someone .
I work as a childminder and its blooming hard work as well as running a home alone but I am earning my own money and am my own boss currently working 44 hour week !!!!!
I do often feel guilty that my kids don't have a "normal" family life I don't drive so we don't get to many places but i do take them on holiday and we have fun .

Squiggly_Diddly

Hello, another single parent here! My girls are 11, 14 & 15 (I live in the house of hormone, lol!!), and I'm just into the 2nd year of a BA in social work & on a full-time (unpaid!) work placement until the end of May, and will have another work placement again in the next academic year too. However, I am loving it and know that it will benefit all of us in the long run. I've also just managed to buy my house & am on the MFW thread too.

6 years I've been on my own, have tried internet dating, but there seem to be so many idiots out there I would love a nice bloke to hug, lol, but like you, don't want a procession of different men coming & going, just someone solid & genuine for me...

And yes it's hard being on your own when you've had a horrible day, but sometimes it's lovely too - no-one to complain when you want to go to bed at 7pm in the winter (well, except the kids!)...

Oh yes, knew there was something - the worst bit is the DIY stuff!! I hate not having anyone to share running the house & dealing with things like discovering the walls in the downstairs loo were soaking wet on the Friday evening just before Xmas.... (due to the upstairs shower & water getting behind the tiles for weeks & gradually soaking through). Thank heavens though for the "In My Home" forum & some very helpful suggestions from Canucklehead

scoobydo_2

lol yer that diy thing arround the house is a real pain SQUIGGLY I had the same problem water dripping through to the kitchen ,knew it was from the bathroom but couldn't work out from where...had to ask my brother in the end who duly prised off tiles and promtly told me I had to take more tiles off , re grout them and seal the bath again !!!! I hate dirty jobs but got a lot of satisfaction from doing it myself .
I tend to go to bits when things go wrong but now have a list next to the phone with a plumbers name and an electricians for emergancies.
My parents laugh at when I say if i ever meet a fella he can have his house and I'll have mine ,not sure I could live with someone again been on my own too long ...Have to agree with the going to bed early thing it is nice to not have someone moaning .

missyg_3

I've been on my own for a long time and I'll attempt anything around the house myself now. I love saving money by not having to get someone in. Thank goodness for the internet to look up problems and solutions!

I love being single, I'm not looking to date, I like my own space too much and truly think I'm better off just looking after myself and my son at this point in time.

misswig

I lso enjoy being single but miss the companionship sometimes. I also miss sharing things with someone who loves my son as much as i do- you know the things like when he says something realy funny or does something clever.

What does everybody else find the hardest by being a single parent?

Squiggly_Diddly

Same here - I would have my house & he could have his! My little brother can be useful sometimes too; it's just having to rely on other people all the time But I have managed to put up a curtain rail using my new drill so am very proud of myself!

Don't know that I could live with somebody again at the mo - maybe have sleepovers instead, lol!! Agree with Misswig, it's missing companionship, someone to natter with in the evening etc.