Calling All Single Parents

misswig

djdido2 wrote: »

But unless thats you in that position, you really dont know how it feels to have a gorgeous child that is blatantly ignored by the very person responsible for bringing him/her into the world.

I really dont think people are generalising and stereotyping here. I have had to deal with my DS asking why daddy does not 'babysit' for him anymore, or why school friends have got a daddy and I havent. Don't you think he should be there to answer those questions.

I think you will find there are thousands of runaway mums and dads as the shambles that is the CSA proves this!

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Never heard a truer word.

There are some merely absent parents who dote on there kids rather than merely running away from thm. It must be awful for them who dote on their kids not to have them with them all the time.

Must remember to remind myself of that next time my son does something that has be tearing my hair out:o

chickadee

I agree wholeheartedly with you djdido2 . Some parents just can't/won't shoulder the responsibility of a family, but I did say every case is different.

There are some posts in this thread of people who have gone through horrendous hardship, misfortune and illness but they have soldiered on and put their family first. They really are heroes.

Some of the posts are so full of spirit and positive vibes that is is quite moving. I think that it is vital to stay positive and also to remember that you are a person as well. Yes, put your kids first, but don't neglect yourself in doing so. Be kind to yourself.

Good luck everyone.

skintas_2

well done you lot on all ur hard work, when i was younger my family had 4 kids. i had a sister and 2 younger brothers........ my mum left my dad , with my sister and brothers left me with my dad.....came back few weeks later we all had to live together for 8 months till my mum got her own house.......all us kids went with her.........2 months after that, me and my brother went to live with my dad. this lasted 2 years till, my sister got seriously ill...my dad had just bought my mum a house, had to give up work to look after my younger brother they went to live with him........i went to live with my mum , because i was 15 i could look after myself...my mum was with my sister daily for 14 monthswhile she was in and out of hospital. , sadly she died........ok they divorced and didnt like each other, they had to get on for the sake of us, kids.........

life was hard, its is what has made me today, the person i am, i had to grow up quick, when i was living with dad, he worked over 60 hours a week so i had to look after my brother a lot he was younger than me...

i hear people my age , late twenties moan they have it hard and tough, cos they have no money to go out saturday nite, or for a new clothes, makes me mad cos they dont know how lucky they are, when i remember things when i was growing up......

well done everyone ur doin a great job, dont ever let no one tell you otherwise...............

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98sidney

has anybody watched so you think you can be a single parent on five. I feel like they are getting it t easy. I mean there hasnt been the dreaded phone call from the school asking, can you pick up either your son or daughter as she doesnt feel well, But then also pick up your other child at 3 please.

Sunnydoo

Hi everyone

I'm so glad to hear there are others in the same position as me

My DD is 8 & her dad kicked us out(we were living in his house) when she was 5 months. He used to see her regularly but it got less & less but he hasn't seen her at all since March last year although he sends b'day & Xmas gifts via his parents who we still have contact with

I don't have parents,my bro lives abroad & my sis over 100 miles away

I'm currently a full time student,was on income support for 2 years whilst i did an access course which was really hard financially.

Biggest problems for me are same as others on this board,DIY,sickness etc

I'm getting on a bit so not fussed about going out & not too bothered about finding another partner but would like the occasional break from DD tho i love her to bits of course

If anyone would like to chat,feel free to PM me but i'll be following this thread & hoping it doesn't develop into a slanging match like others on this site have

missyg_3

98sidney, I haven't seen that programme (I hardly watch any tv). I just have one child so I'm luckily never in that situation but what do you actually do in that case?

That has made me realise I'd be properly stuck if I had two and that happened! There must be all sorts of extra issues to being a single parent if you have more than one child. Respect to you guys.

astonsmummy

:hello:
Lone parent here too!
I hate it to be honest, My sons Dad left me when i was pregnant, and got someone else pregnant, well she was pregnant when we were still together, her son was born 16 weeks to the day after my son was born
My son is a stunning 3.5 year old nutter lol
I work part time as a homecarer and he goes to nursery 4 days a week 8am till 3pm.
I've been single since we split up, well i had a little relationship but it wasnt too serious, he dumped me on new years day last year :rolleyes:
I am sort of with someone at the moment, but it's a really long story and a bit weird lol

Sunnydoo

I agree- it's hard enough getting one child to tidy up after herself & do her homework,goodness knows how i'd cope with more than one although i do worry that DD will grow up 'a bit wierd' as she is with me so much of the time. Anyone else have this problem ?

astonsmummy

yes, my son is really independant in some ways, such as choosing what clothes he wears, getting dressed himself etc, but he wont play in his room, even if i'm just pottering around upstairs, he follows me everywhere, i cant even go toilet without him coming in there with me :eek: