Money Moral Dilemma: Should my mum help with our childcare costs while she's on holiday?

E10Fan

Not really sure why your mum is only picking the kids up 3 days a week. Surely it should be all 5. While we are at it shouldn't she also be paying his dad's and your fares as well, oh, and perhaps subsidise both your lunches, as well.

Cruisinggrandma

When I first started back to work I paid my Mum childcare rates. She didn’t want it but I considered it fair because otherwise I couldn't have worked at all. I now provide free childcare for my 2 Grandchildren. Initially my daughter worked term-time but is now full-time. I still care for them, including full-time in school holidays. I do it gladly. It is a privilege, but my daughter and her husband recognise that their children are their responsibility. I’ve saved them £thousands over the last 7 years and will continue to support them for 3 more school years until the youngest goes to secondary school. However, I reserve the right to have a life and take such holidays as I need. I take them during term-time as it’s easier for them to get cover. Without your Mum could you get free childcare? Please consider her needs too.

MoiraPark

Do you not realise how lucky you are? Think about how much extra you are paying for the two weeks, half it and then multiply it by the number of weeks your mum normally has the children then you might just realise you should be paying for her holiday as a thank you.

Mr5Micawber

Did you REALLY need to ask this?  Sheesh.  I think you should consider paying towards your mother's holiday!

horsewithnoname

If this is a real question heaven help the human race. Surely no one is so downright ignorant as this?

Beekeepinggardener

Words (almost) failed me when I read this. You clearly expect your mother to look after your child for 3 afternoons a week, presumably without paying her in any way(?) I assume you & your husband both have annual leave entitlements as part of your full-time jobs. So suck it up, each take a week off to look after your own child & maybe offer her some spending money for when she goes on her holiday ...

Skybluethinker

Perhaps you could make a contribution to your mum's holiday? Childcare is very tiring, no matter how much a grandchild is loved.

Puppywalker65

I can't even believe you're considering suggesting this to your mum- how entitled you must be. Do you think she should only go away in the school holidays and pay considerably more when its not required. No doubt your children are well looked after and probably fed by your mum too and she'll be happy to do so but please don't take her for granted. Its an absolute no from me.

Raqwella25

A definite no ! 

My mum does my childcare for free. If I asked her for the money for the extra childcare if she went away, I’m sure she’d stop helping. 

Your mum might do the same - where would you be then ?? 

Shocked1234

The cheek of some entitled people. 

Do you pay your mother for minding YOUR children? Do you  go on holiday? If you do, do you  get holiday pay from work ? Maybe you need to do a reality check and see just how much your mum is saving you and perhaps give her holiday pay!