Money Moral Dilemma: Should my mum help with our childcare costs while she's on holiday?

silverwhistle

Jurassic_spark_2 said:

I really do hope that this immoral, and i do mean immoral dilemma is not for real. 

Absolutely this! Please MSE, confirm that this is a made up dilemma; we will forgive you..

kimwp

silverwhistle said:

Jurassic_spark_2 said:

I really do hope that this immoral, and i do mean immoral dilemma is not for real. 

Absolutely this! Please MSE, confirm that this is a made up dilemma; we will forgive you..

Maybe it's like Christmas cracker jokes- so terrible,  they unite the group?

emmaamme

You're forgetting one important fact here. They're your kids!

Procrastinator2

kimwp said:

silverwhistle said:

Jurassic_spark_2 said:

I really do hope that this immoral, and i do mean immoral dilemma is not for real. 

Absolutely this! Please MSE, confirm that this is a made up dilemma; we will forgive you..

Maybe it's like Christmas cracker jokes- so terrible,  they unite the group?

The above  story is probably made up due to the posting date. However thinking back similar to my own. My wife and I retired a few years ago and thought it would be nice to take a  holidays when we felt like it without worrying about work etc. We love our grandchildren dearly and used to love having them to look after. Both son and partner work, just before we retired they had one and then a second grandchild we  had to look after them 5 days per week. We were only able to take a short holiday as son and wife could not take time off.  We  wanted to move during retirement but that is another story. We even had to take sons partner to work, (10 miles.) for a couple of months because her car broke down, no reimbursement for petrol and in addition I had to fix the car fit another engine.

When covid started they did not need us and  we were dumped, sons partner gave up work. We use to visit the grandchildren once per week after school for  approximatelty 1 hour Tuesday and couple of hours on Sunday afternoon. We are now told that it is inconvenient for us to visit on Thursday and only see them on Sunday. I just feel that we have been used but because we love our grandchildren, we do not say anything in case it causes a row and we don't see them. 

Just goes to show how people even family take advantage and others for granted.

hcrr1984

Be grateful and swallow the cost! My Mum lives in the same neighbourhood as us, is retired and NEVER does regular school runs any day of the week (we both work full time too), so we pay for clubs every day.

At the end of the day your child is your responsibility and anything anybody else does to help out is a nice favour, not an obligation.