Money Moral Dilemma: Should my mum help with our childcare costs while she's on holiday?

JayD

If you really need to ask, then I feel very sad for your mum.

You and your husband are both working.

If anything, you should be giving your mum something for taking that task on for you - and saving you a fortune in doing so!

I can't believe you would even consider asking your mum to pay for your child to go to the after school, club just because she is taking a couple of weeks off from taking on what is YOUR responsibility!

fairandformost

Obviously you have hit a few nerves on here! I dont blame them....
I feel the same. As a Nannie myself I feel extremely sad that children these days think their parents owe them something for giving birth to them!
I never expected my Mum to do anything for me! She most certainly didnt do anything to help me with childcare... but whatever she wanted to do I was grateful for.
You had the children you pay!
Wow so so ungrateful 😒 🙄 😪

musicmusicmusic

Good Grief!!! I really can't believe that you have needed to ask this question. You should be grateful that your mum helps out at all and I hope you are contributing to her holiday and getting her a really good Mothers Day present!

Lucasades

Don’t be ridiculous!

Davefromtherigs

This has to be a wind up! If not, these poor kids have no chance in life with such selfish and self centred parents

Moreepicviews7

I am totally shocked at how selfish you are being. You are extremely fortunate your mum is willing and able to pick your son up three days a week. I bet you don’t want her to go on holiday during the school holidays either as you require her for full day care then. Can she only go on holiday when you do or should she remain behind to look after your house/pets! 

Please appreciate her. I know times are tough and you may not be able to afford the extra care but maybe another school parent could help out this time and you repay with looking after their child another time.

Liffi

Just be grateful that your mum helps with the school runs and childcare, she sounds like a wonderful grandmother! Don’t be greedy or take her for granted. 

oldtrout

Absolutely ridiculous Money Moral Dilemma! Come on MSE! Never get a response anyway ... from the person who allegedly posted this, and no response from MSE.

ih8stress

I don't really respond to these 'dilemma's' but felt SO outraged on behalf of the poor grandparent that I simply had to log in to reply.

First off - is this an early MSE April Fool - if so, we've all been baited!

If on the other hand this is a genuine question - I feel so very sorry for the grandparent and also her grandchild.

I have only read the first page of responses but can't imagine that there is even ONE that agrees with the Op who appears to be completely oblivious to how selfish they are being and showing no empathy, gratitude or understanding to a parent who is giving up their time, effort, energy and care, not now and again but three times a week (and that probably doesn't include other times too).

The grandparent would be better off going out to work - would earn more respect, get paid for it and have more holidays!

If I was the grandparent I would be booking day trips on the relevant three days in future, and getting to live my own life more, instead of being taken for granted.  Or failing that, find out how much it costs for the after-school club and charge a similar rate for looking after the child.

Op, PLEASE grow up and show some respect and compassion for your Mum - you only get one - you should be doing all you can to look after her and help her, not the other way round.

I hope all these responses help you to come to your senses and see the bigger picture - for everyones sake.

ffsno

Is this serious? If so, don't be so selfish. Your child, your problem! Budget, don't breed.