Money Moral Dilemma: Should my mum help with our childcare costs while she's on holiday?

cathymerchant

Unbelievable 

PennyDD

olly300 said:

When someone looks after my daughter for an hour for free I'm very grateful. 

So yes you should be contributing to your mum's holiday. I hope you ALL at least get her a decent mother's day gift. 

Someone looking after your daughter for free?  Most babysitters charge.

Sapindus

Is mum also expected to pay for alternative arrangements if she is ill?

JosephK

Of course your mother ought to pay, especially if she can afford to go on holiday. Indeed what is she doing going on holiday in the first place. She should be looking after your children full time and paying for you to go on holiday for the me time you are clearly entitled to. She should also be paying for all your drinks, massages, beauty treatments, etc. while you are chilling out.

On the other hand, maybe not......

Gemmie57

Absolutely NOT!!!!!
As a Grandma who regularly looks after various grandchildren (but not as much as the questioner's Mum), we enjoy spending time with our grandchildren, however we do incur costs whilst doing this and even good children can be tiring (there's a reason you have children in your 20s and 30s rather than your 60s).  We try not to go away when scheduled to look after grandchildren, but if we can't do it will give them plenty of notice.  If my other daughter asks us to have the children for a few days in the holidays and it's not convenient, I say so and she makes a plan B.  Both my daughters are very grateful for any help we can give, if they took us for granted, we would be less inclined to help out.  Grandparents deserve a life of their own too!

Jurassic_spark_2

I really do hope that this immoral, and i do mean immoral dilemma is not for real. 

My god. I have two grandsons 13 and 11. My wife who who has terminal cancer spends four days every week during term time, Taking the youngest to and from the primary school. Making their breakfast each day, Making their evening meals each day. Washing and ironing their school clothes. Taking their dog for two walks each day. Then keeping the house tidy, and helping them with their homework. As my daughter is a working single mum. My wife is only too happy to help out, and spend as much time with the boys as possible.

My daughter would never ever dream of asking a selfish question like that. To do so would spoil a great relationship. 
That will never happen.

Emmia

Jurassic_spark_2 said:

I really do hope that this immoral, and i do mean immoral dilemma is not for real. 

My god. I have two grandsons 13 and 11. My wife who who has terminal cancer spends four days every week during term time, Taking the youngest to and from the primary school. Making their breakfast each day, Making their evening meals each day. Washing and ironing their school clothes. Taking their dog for two walks each day. Then keeping the house tidy, and helping them with their homework. As my daughter is a working single mum. My wife is only too happy to help out, and spend as much time with the boys as possible.

My daughter would never ever dream of asking a selfish question like that. To do so would spoil a great relationship. 
That will never happen.

I'm sorry to hear about your wife, hopefully the time she's spending with the grandchildren will build great memories of her, for when she's no longer around. 

twopenny

What is your partners Mother doing?

Could they not take a turn?

Emmia

twopenny said:

What is your partners Mother doing?

Could they not take a turn?

It is possible that the other grandma is no longer with us, or unable to help for other reasons. 

cici71

I assumed this was a joke and then realised today is April Fools so it made sense but then realised this was LAST weeks dilemma. This isn't a dilemma at all!! How ungrateful. I'd like to think you were paying for her holiday as a big thank you for 3 days a week collections but judging by your 'dilemma' , clearly not!! I do hope your Mum never reads or hears of your dilemma, how sad for her if she does.