Thrifty in my 60's

Rosa_Damascena

Brie said:

Well done on the weight loss - I need to do similar and am just a small fraction of the way.  It really is inch by inch.

And sorry to hear about mom.  Dementia is so dreadful.  But hopefully it's only dreadful for you and not for her - I hope you understand what I mean by that.  I've known people who became very distraught and angry which is hard to deal with.  If it's "merely" a case of being blissfully unaware that doesn't (to me at least) seem nearly as bad for that individual.  Do take care of yourself as ongoing resilience will, no doubt, be required.

@I_Love_comps - it must be awful watching your mum's cognition decline but @Brie is so right. Those with dementia often lose their ability to regulate their emotions and have limited insight into why, so a key aim should be to keep them happy and avoid inducing anger. I would personally be very careful in listening rather than talking, as triggers can be unpredictable as I am suer you will know.

I_Love_comps

Thank you @Brie.  Yes I am sure my mom is not aware now of what is happening.  There have been episodes in the beginning of the illness when she became angry and distraught, but not now., mom is now dependent on two nurses to tend to her needs and to move her into her wheelchair.   It is me loosing my mom . We used to have some lovely conversations. My mom turned 90 in June , the party we arranged was more for us to remember the day by and not my mom.

Spending wise yesterday. 
First Class Stamp  
Reduced salad pot - for lunch today 
Zero fat greek yoghurt 

Today's chores will be shredding 
Put a load of washing in for putting on the line tomorrow 
Make an important phone call 

Hope everyone has a good day.

I_Love_comps

So far today I have made the important phone call ✔️
Done some shredding ✔️

Brie

I_Love_comps said:

Thank you @Brie.  Yes I am sure my mom is not aware now of what is happening.  There have been episodes in the beginning of the illness when she became angry and distraught, but not now., mom is now dependent on two nurses to tend to her needs and to move her into her wheelchair.   It is me loosing my mom . We used to have some lovely conversations. My mom turned 90 in June , the party we arranged was more for us to remember the day by and not my mom.

I progressed with my mom having interesting wide ranging conversations to ones that became an increasingly small loop of conversation with her asking the same question over and over.  I discovered after a while that if I showed her some of the art work I was doing she would perk right up and became closer to her old (aka young) self.  As that started to slip away I began asking her about the pictures she had painted and we had some amazing and also bizarre conversations. 

One painting in particular was on the wall opposite of where she sat all day, every day.  She'd painted this beautiful array of zinnias in a big pot sitting on a chair about 30 years earlier and she kept saying that she really liked it and was pleased how it turned out.  The one problem though was that at some point since painting it the pot had fallen off the chair and some of the zinnias didn't get put back in.  But she thought it was still nice even if it was different.  Completely nonsensical but it makes me smile.

Brambling

I_Love_comps said:

@weenancyinAmerica .  My cat is 2 years old and no sign of stopping  the attacking feet .
He is a joy to have though . I would not be without him . He also attacks the OH's feet too .

Mine is 12 and still does it especially during the summer when I have just the thinner duvet on or just a sheet.  He's currently sulking as he's banned from upstairs when I recover from a hip replacement. 

I'm sorry to hear about your mum 

I_Love_comps

Morning Everyone,

Yesterday I achieved an NSD.  Didn't go out and did not do any spending online.

Yesterday's important phone call, has led to me having a refund. So good news for my bank balance.

Today I have a wash to hang out . I must change the bed linen.
And sort out clothes as we are away next week Mon -Fri . Just a short break.
 
Have a good Friday Everyone.

Glad

I turned 60 in June! I spent it at the Glastonbury festival, I definitely didn't want a party or even a fuss at home. I did wear a birthday girl sash and badge, so many people wished me happy birthday  
The best thing about being 60 is the free bus pass 

Floss

Glad said:

The best thing about being 60 is the free bus pass 

We obviously don't live in the same area - I get mine at 67, another 5¾ years!

I_Love_comps

@Glad I was 61 in May. I have to wait until pension age at 67 to receive my bus pass.
I have managed to claim my NHS pension. I worked for the NHS for 20 years. I joined when you could retire at 60.  Very glad Of the extra money coming in . 

I_Love_comps

It wasn't an NSD yesterday as I had pay OH some money towards shopping.
Today I will take two full bags to the charity shop.
Withdraw some money as tomorrow I need to pay for the cat going into the cattery tomorrow.
Then I had better get my suitcase down and pack as we are away from Mon - Friday next week.  We are going up north .    My dream is to retire and live by the seaside.
Have a good Saturday everyone 😊