Thrifty in my 60's

Sun_Addict

Sorry to hear you lost your dad so young. So sad about your mum, bless her, such a shame she doesn’t recognise you. The people I know around my age who still have parents alive seem to be experiencing similar problems to you sadly. 

Rosa_Damascena

I attended a memorial service yesterday for a very dear elderly relative who died in her 90s. She worked hard all her life and her own and extended family was very much at the centre of it. Back in the day there were huge parties hosted at her home, and she would spend weeks preparing the spread. She also constantly had relatives staying with her for extended periods rather than book hotels in London and she loved their company.

Very many people benefited from her kindness and generosity, and only a fraction were there for her memorial service (in part because most of her generation had passed and some of the few remaining are too frail to travel even with assistance). I like to think that those of us that did make the effort were her nearest and dearest.

Brie

Still saddened to think I wasn't able to be at my mom's memorial.  Trying to reconcile the reasons for this without having simmering anger at my brother who made my attendance impossible.   I expect I will get really upset when the farm sells and also when we hit the first anniversary of her dying which comes a couple of days after my birthday.  I'm beginning to hate December.   

Wednesday2000

Brie said:

Still saddened to think I wasn't able to be at my mom's memorial.  Trying to reconcile the reasons for this without having simmering anger at my brother who made my attendance impossible.   I expect I will get really upset when the farm sells and also when we hit the first anniversary of her dying which comes a couple of days after my birthday.  I'm beginning to hate December.   

I'm sorry Brie, how horrible for you.xxx

Floss

Brie said:

Still saddened to think I wasn't able to be at my mom's memorial.  Trying to reconcile the reasons for this without having simmering anger at my brother who made my attendance impossible.   I expect I will get really upset when the farm sells and also when we hit the first anniversary of her dying which comes a couple of days after my birthday.  I'm beginning to hate December.   

Maybe you could take a few days away for those dates? Perhaps somewhere your mum would have enjoyed hearing about.

Also, I'm a great believer in writing a letter to someone such as your brother to express your feelings, and then burning it.

Rosa_Damascena

Floss said:

Brie said:

Still saddened to think I wasn't able to be at my mom's memorial.  Trying to reconcile the reasons for this without having simmering anger at my brother who made my attendance impossible.   I expect I will get really upset when the farm sells and also when we hit the first anniversary of her dying which comes a couple of days after my birthday.  I'm beginning to hate December.   

Maybe you could take a few days away for those dates? Perhaps somewhere your mum would have enjoyed hearing about.

Also, I'm a great believer in writing a letter to someone such as your brother to express your feelings, and then burning it.

@Brie - sorry to hear your troubles but you need to put DB to the back of your mind, life is just too short! Browsing a local chazzer this lunchtime I found the perfect book for your brother. I had been tempted to buy it as a peace offering for what can only be described as the boil on the butt of my own family, but resisted....