Breakdown of relationship, house and rental nightmare

Sea_Shell

I may be wrong, but I don't think the police will actually "evict" her, physically.

They can be called if there's a breach of the peace, but as it's a civil matter, they may not intervene, as such, but will help enable YOU to evict her.

Hopefully it won't get physical or require anyones "hands on".

diystarter7

Sea_Shell said:

Just always leave the toilet seat up!! 😉

I think that comes top in the "how to annoy women" charts.

Heiya again

This time you are just jesting, I get this one, almost no harm done. However, thinking about it, at times men can forget if they've not had their ears bashed properly by their OH etc at home. Therefore, in this situation, I would not do that as you said, 'it comes tops' and I agree with that.  Mrs Diy gave me a proper ear bashing a few months ago. I don't know what happend as I do put the lid up and down after the buisness, but I forgot but not since then

Worse still I guess is, to leave the lid down when a man goes to pass waters - I wonder where that comes in the list you referred to

Thanks 

skemp1

Sea_Shell said:

I may be wrong, but I don't think the police will actually "evict" her, physically.

They can be called if there's a breach of the peace, but as it's a civil matter, they may not intervene, as such, but will help enable YOU to evict her.

Hopefully it won't get physical or require anyones "hands on".

It's a strange one that.

When they came to mine on Sunday I had to go upstairs and the bloke officer came up to speak to me. 

He asked me if I wanted them to make them leave as they don't have any rights to stay. The the lady police officer said downstairs that the letter states a date and if they don't leave on that date they will come back and "facilitate" them leaving and they will have to leave. 

sammyjammy

Worst case scenario she doesn't move out by 1st March do the children have a father they could stay with?  Hope this works out for you, you've been more than reasonable  I think, I would find it very hard to manage for that long.

Sea_Shell

skemp1 said:

Sea_Shell said:

I may be wrong, but I don't think the police will actually "evict" her, physically.

They can be called if there's a breach of the peace, but as it's a civil matter, they may not intervene, as such, but will help enable YOU to evict her.

Hopefully it won't get physical or require anyones "hands on".

It's a strange one that.

When they came to mine on Sunday I had to go upstairs and the bloke officer came up to speak to me. 

He asked me if I wanted them to make them leave as they don't have any rights to stay. The the lady police officer said downstairs that the letter states a date and if they don't leave on that date they will come back and "facilitate" them leaving and they will have to leave. 

It depends what's meant by facilitate?

I don't know TBH.

mi-key

It would mean removing her on threat of arresting her for trespass

mi-key

OP as I mentioned before you have been more than fair with her. Probably too fair which is why she has taken advantage of your good nature and generosity.

Although you may feel a responsibility towards her kids, I bet after she has moved out you never see them again. You are NOT responsible for her kids becoming homeless or having nowhere to go, that is entirely down to her. She has had plenty of time and money to get somewhere sorted out.

If she is that desperate she can use the money to stay in a hotel with them until she finds somewhere to rent. 

Hopefully once she is gone you can settle down again and your mental state will improve, then onwards and upwards from there on 

p00hsticks

mi-key said:

It would mean removing her on threat of arresting her for trespass

Being a bit pedantic, trespass in itself isn't a criminal offence, so you can't be arrested for it.

However if they asked her to leave on belhaf of the OP and she refused then I believe they would be able to charge her with 'Adverse occupation of residential premises' which can lead to a six month jail sentence if found guity.

doodling

Hi,

For the avoidance of a lot of hassle, you do not want to be in a position of physically forcing her to leave the house.  That way leads to accusations of assault and general legal uncertainty.

You need to wait until she has voluntarily left (to go shopping, take the kids somewhere, etc.) and then change the locks.

I wouldn't make a big thing with her on what wiill happen when your deadline expires as that will simply lead to her planning to not go out on that day.  Better to keep it low key and just do it 

diystarter7

doodling said:

Hi,

For the avoidance of a lot of hassle, you do not want to be in a position of physically forcing her to leave the house.  That way leads to accusations of assault and general legal uncertainty.

You need to wait until she has voluntarily left (to go shopping, take the kids somewhere, etc.) and then change the locks.

I wouldn't make a big thing with her on what wiill happen when your deadline expires as that will simply lead to her planning to not go out on that day.  Better to keep it low key and just do it 

Hi

Your post is that of a time traveller. I'm 100% certain that this will happen
Thanks