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Breakdown of relationship, house and rental nightmare

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Hello,

Not sure if this is the right place for this, but here goes.

I have been living with my girlfriend for 3 years. Recently the relationship broke down and we have decided to go our separate ways, which has led to a bit of a problem.

I own the house and she just moved in with me 3 years ago with her 2 kids. I have been paying the mortgage the entire time and all the bills, she has helped with clothing and food etc....

Now the relationship has broken down we have sold a car (which I own) for £17k and I've given her the money so she can rent somewhere and furnish it. All seems OK.

She is having trouble finding a place and in my eyes is being a little unrealistic with what she is looking for, saying one of the bedrooms is a bit small and things like that.

The thing is that, whilst we still get on as friends this isn't a situation that I can live with for months, it simply HAS to be resolved sooner, rather than later. Today she started talking about staying longer to "save money" so she can furnish the place. I instantly said "no way" and told her that I expect her to move on ASAP. This has caused a bit of friction at and already hard time. 

I also have my 2 kids 12 and 14 to think about that stay with me almost half the time. 

I suppose the question is, what are my rights? What are her rights? What can I do about this? 

Thanks




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  • I don’t think changing the locks and just kicking her out would solve this. Since you allowed her to stay in your house for a long period she’s now a tenant so you need to serve her notice that she needs to move out, probably just what RAS wrote in his comment above. If her kids are also underage and she still doesn’t want to leave this might be a problem. So yeah, maybe you need to speak to a lawyer. 
  • marcia_
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    I don’t think changing the locks and just kicking her out would solve this. Since you allowed her to stay in your house for a long period she’s now a tenant so you need to serve her notice that she needs to move out, probably just what RAS wrote in his comment above. If her kids are also underage and she still doesn’t want to leave this might be a problem. So yeah, maybe you need to speak to a lawyer. 
     She is not a tenant in any way. At a stretch she is a lodger as the OP lives in the house.
  • marcia_
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     Simply she has no rights to stay put.
     You are the owner of your house and can ask her to leave at any point. 
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