Breakdown of relationship, house and rental nightmare

Murphybear

Can’t she approach the council for help?  If she has not made herself deliberately homeless which would apply here and has dependent children then she would be classed as having a priority need (according to Shelter).  I do understand that most councils don’t have properties available but they will put her in a B & B or something until they can offer her a home or she can find a rental.  At least she won’t be on the streets and you have been more than generous already.  

MFWannabe

If I were you there’s no way I’d be staying elsewhere with ex still staying in my house 
There’s zero motivation to leave then; she already has none so even less if she’s living in your house by herself 
Stick to what you discussed and make sure she leaves by that date 

Sea_Shell

MFWannabe said:

If I were you there’s no way I’d be staying elsewhere with ex still staying in my house 
There’s zero motivation to leave then; she already has none so even less if she’s living in your house by herself 
Stick to what you discussed and make sure she leaves by that date 

I agree.   If it were me,  I'd make it as "uncomfortable" for her as possible, without doing anything that could constitute harassment.   

Do you still clean and tidy?   Dishes, clothes etc.    Stop.
Commandeer the TV remote.
Change the BB password
Have your mates round for a "loud beers night"

How do you manage Grocery shopping?   Make sure you only buy the minimum you need.    

mi-key

Murphybear said:

Can’t she approach the council for help?  If she has not made herself deliberately homeless which would apply here and has dependent children then she would be classed as having a priority need (according to Shelter).  I do understand that most councils don’t have properties available but they will put her in a B & B or something until they can offer her a home or she can find a rental.  At least she won’t be on the streets and you have been more than generous already.  

She has had £17,000 given to her - she can easily afford to rent somewhere. The council wouldn't house someone in that situation anyway, and she would be cheeky to expect them to ! She is using the not being able to find somewhere for the standard of living she had before as an excuse to mess the OP about. 

YoungBlueEyes

I wouldn't be leaving them alone there either tbh. Move back in, even if it means sleeping on the sofa these next few weeks. 

Bide your time 'til the date she's meant to be out.

Then change the locks

TripleH

Do you have a lockable garage?

I'd be moving my stuff in there so it's safe, secure and won't go walkies when she moves out.

I wouldn't have mates around as suggested as that night be used against you somehow.

diystarter7

Sea_Shell said:

MFWannabe said:

If I were you there’s no way I’d be staying elsewhere with ex still staying in my house 
There’s zero motivation to leave then; she already has none so even less if she’s living in your house by herself 
Stick to what you discussed and make sure she leaves by that date 

I agree.   If it were me,  I'd make it as "uncomfortable" for her as possible, without doing anything that could constitute harassment.   

Hi

That is clearly harassment and I'm not sure why you have said that, typo?

Making someone feel "uncomfortable," is not acceptable at any level, ie setting out to make someone feel "uncomfortable."

Two wrongs never make a right and if one sticks to that principle, in time, one will come out on top.

Thanks

diystarter7

TripleH said:

Do you have a lockable garage?

I'd be moving my stuff in there so it's safe, secure and won't go walkies when she moves out.

I wouldn't have mates around as suggested as that night be used against you somehow.

Hi
The highlighted bit, totally agree. However, if you can have someone around for a chat etc as long its during whats deemed reasoanble hours and people respect the others privacy and quiet life etc. But all in all in situations like this, best avoided as stuff like this is often used against the other.

Thanks

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diystarter7 said:

Sea_Shell said:

MFWannabe said:

If I were you there’s no way I’d be staying elsewhere with ex still staying in my house 
There’s zero motivation to leave then; she already has none so even less if she’s living in your house by herself 
Stick to what you discussed and make sure she leaves by that date 

I agree.   If it were me,  I'd make it as "uncomfortable" for her as possible, without doing anything that could constitute harassment.   

Hi

That is clearly harassment and I'm not sure why you have said that, typo?

Making someone feel "uncomfortable," is not acceptable at any level, ie setting out to make someone feel "uncomfortable."

Two wrongs never make a right and if one sticks to that principle, in time, one will come out on top.

Thanks

Not forgetting that there are also children in the house. OP has behaved honourably, why would they diminish their position by misbehaving now?

diystarter7

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diystarter7 said:

Sea_Shell said:

MFWannabe said:

If I were you there’s no way I’d be staying elsewhere with ex still staying in my house 
There’s zero motivation to leave then; she already has none so even less if she’s living in your house by herself 
Stick to what you discussed and make sure she leaves by that date 

I agree.   If it were me,  I'd make it as "uncomfortable" for her as possible, without doing anything that could constitute harassment.   

Hi

That is clearly harassment and I'm not sure why you have said that, typo?

Making someone feel "uncomfortable," is not acceptable at any level, ie setting out to make someone feel "uncomfortable."

Two wrongs never make a right and if one sticks to that principle, in time, one will come out on top.

Thanks

Not forgetting that there are also children in the house. OP has behaved honourably, why would they diminish their position by misbehaving now?

Thank you.