My partner and I gave our neighbour some clothes that no longer fit us, as well as some expensive designer underwear that had never been worn. To our horror, they're now advertising what we've given them for sale online. Should we say something about them taking advantage of our generosity and risk a good friendship, or keep quiet?
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Money Moral Dilemma: Our neighbour is selling clothes we've given them - should we say something?
edited 4 October 2022 at 3:32PM
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I'd certainly not give them anything else but it depends how much you want to let it impact the relationship.
What good friendship? If they were friends, wouldn't they have suggested selling before you gave them the stuff? Offered to sell it for you? Offered to split the proceeds?
Options:
1) Say nothing, but don't give them free stuff in future
2) Say something and guilt them into handing over some of the proceeds
3) Set up a fake e-mail address, offer to buy the goods, then make repeated excuses about not being able to collect/ask if they will deliver. Repeat until they get fed up.
If not then it's none of your business whatever they do with them, be that selling them, dressing a scarecrow/guy with them etc
Original mortgage debt: £128,000
Remaining debt (02/06/2023): £107,652
Or did you offer and they accepted, perhaps because they thought it would be polite to do so? In that case, you can't expect them to wear then without having chosen them/shown interest?