In the Meantime

doingitanyway

Thanks @mark55man your posts give me hope
Thanks @MovingForwards swimming does indeed rest my calm
Thanks @jwil and @savingholmes the small windfall was put to good use before my sod-it muscle activated 
Thanks @WelshmansDaughter If home is in the mind, does you losing your train of thought mean you made yourself temporarily homeless 

So the whole week has been full of other people. I feel I am bending myself out of shape. A relative has asked me to help for 3 days. I thought about it and said I would do 2 days. They agreed. Good for me.  I need to be more boundaried.

I was looking for a BnB for when I view in the new area. I need a break from other people!! I can't find anywhere for a reasonable price so I will be turning it into a long day. I will prep some nice food and take a flask for a little picnic on the beach. (or in a shelter if raining like a very old person) I will have F&Cs before I come home...cheaper that way.

I hope everyone is having a good Sunday

Edited, as I was complaining about a friend and feel bad about moaning. Thanks @jwil and @in_need_of_direction I will make the most of my viewing day 

in_need_of_direction

I hope the viewing goes well.  If not, you will at least have some time at the beach which will make the journey worthwhile.

jwil

I'm sorry that the event did not go well, that's very thoughtless of your friend.

I hope the viewing goes well.  The sea is always good for the soul.

WelshmansDaughter

Lol my mind has many, many trains. But some only have request stops 🤣🤣🤣

savingholmes

WelshmansDaughter said:

Lol my mind has many, many trains. But some only have request stops 🤣🤣🤣

Love that!!

Hope things improve for you and DIA

MovingForwards

Well done for setting boundaries.
Is there a B&b a little further out, have a stroll after a nice day viewing?

doingitanyway

Thanks everyone 
@MovingForwards setting boundaries feels good. I need to keep mindful about doing it more.
@jwil yes, the sea is always good for the soul!

So, update...

I am more positive than when I last posted.

I went to the viewing. The house was not right. It was not a wasted visit as at a viewing for a flat I met someone, we got chatting, they were in exactly my position so we arranged to meet for coffee and then after coffee we went walking on the beach. We are staying in touch. They are between homes too. They have been in storage for a year and a half. They move from friend to friend every few months. I felt grateful to be where I am...Also, they recommended a great new cafe with lovely, reasonably priced food.

The younger relative repaid the loan in full today. So pleased, for the money, for the relationship and for my state of mind. I started to think my judgement was off.

I've added a new part of the area to widen my search. I discounted this part of the area as it is quite hilly, no local shops. Wonderful views. Only half a mile from the beach but steep. Half a mile to the train station. Very peaceful...

I will be treating my host to a meal out tomorrow to celebrate the return of my funds. I put the funds back immediately but I have been more careful lately as I was worried I might not get funds back, so I have a small surplus 

I am going to try a swim later at night today to see if it improves my sleep

Wishing everyone a good end of the week

jwil

I'm so pleased your relative paid you back

Nice to meet someone new as well, especially being in the same situation as you.

beanielou

How lovely to have a new friend. 

So glad that money has been repaid. 

Skint_yet_Again

Lovely to hear you sounding happier and more positive. 😊 Glad to hear you got your money back and made a new friend. Enjoy your meal out