In the Meantime

doingitanyway · 28 December 2021 at 1:29PM

The meantime is the time between two events. The two events that bookend my meantime are a death and moving into my long term home.

In the meantime I will rest, practise self care and kindness. I will be planning and plotting for the next phase of my life.

My beautiful relative died and was buried the week before Christmas. I have been caring and supporting her since 2016, although it became more intense in the last few years. I moved here to help care for her and now she has gone. I am living in her home so I need to move out by mid January, although I am trying to get that extended until the end of January. So far I DON’T KNOW WHERE I AM GOING. Gulp.

The financial shortfall between selling and buying is increasing. Prices have dramatically increased. Inflation hasn’t helped. Alarm bells rang when I was forced to spend a small amount of the money set aside for my new home. I have found a way to put that money back, but a few financial frogs will need to be eaten to do this. It could have been worse, I have not paid rent for many months and my bills have been minimal. The search for a new home is becoming urgent, but I need to keep calm and not panic.

In the meantime I can look back and see the riches this experience has given me. I had the privilege of being with her when she took her last breath. I have repaired many family relationships. I have taken good existing relationships with other family members to a deeper level. I now see my new long term home as a creative haven for me and a sanctuary for family (especially the younger ones) to rest and recharge.

I am in a strong position and I have the potential to create a fabulous life. I will begin building that new life In the Meantime.

I hope you will join me.

doingitanyway · 28 December 2021 at 1:33PM

Here is how I will manage my life In the Meantime

ROUTINE

Work

Daily frog

Daily tadpole

Make the world a better place with one daily action

SECURITY

Find a home to live in temporarily

Find a home to live in long term

HEALTH IS WEALTH

Avoid ultra processed food

Sleep before midnight

Weekly nature trip

Walk briskly a minimum 30 minutes daily

Social activity a minimum once a week

MSE

Stay debt free

Build a buffer of £200

Build an emergency fund of £1000

Budget a discretionary spend of £100 a week

Not spending 2 days a week minimum

Use a budgeting account for discretionary spends

WORK

Create a schedule of works

the_end_of_the_rainbow · 28 December 2021 at 2:05PM

Great to see you back @doingitanyway. I'm sorry to hear about your relative but pleased that you were there to support her. Looking forward to reading your adventures and know you will create a fabulous new life for yourself.

another_casualty · 28 December 2021 at 2:07PM

Found you ! 😸
All of the above shouldn't be too hard to get your teeeth into DIA .
You may not have to leave your present abode when said . Covid 😷May be a factor
You might ( or might not ) want to seek advice on the house buying / selling section.

Once you finally get your ideal home ( more stress ), then you have a lot of good things t look forward to .
cheerng you on ! 😼

24ta · 28 December 2021 at 2:10PM

Sorry for your loss, it was good you could be there at the end. You have good plans.
Good to see you back, I have subscribed to cheer you along

Brie · 28 December 2021 at 2:13PM

Sorry for your loss but also wishing you lots of good fortune on your journey.

Might one ask why the urgency to more?? Council house? Estate wanting to sell the home?? Surely someone will listen to reason.

MovingForwards · 28 December 2021 at 2:17PM

My deepest condolences DIA.
Good luck with your temporary home hunt. Would it be worth re-evaluating what you want in a permanent home and potentially compromise, with a view to adding it in at some point in the future.