Does the death of your relative free you to look at places meeting all your property needs but outside (possibly well outside) your current search zone - possibly even over the border as you seem to have an affinity for Scotland
I think I saw you in an ice-cream parlour/Drinking milk shakes cold & long/Smiling & waving & looking so fine
Does the death of your relative free you to look at places meeting all your property needs but outside (possibly well outside) your current search zone - possibly even over the border as you seem to have an affinity for Scotland
Thanks Mark. The death doesn't change the location I want to live in. I still need to be where I can get back to family frequently. I love Scotland but I plan to keep it as a place I visit to recharge my batteries. I'm sticking to the same location, which is already a compromise from the original area. To widen my search I've given up on certain criteria but location, a bit of outside space, enough room for a study and layout remain crucial.
If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
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Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200
I had a chat with my sister. It helped clarify a few things. I've been focused on clearing the flat and making sure possessions go to the right people. I've now realised I need to focus on myself. I don't know where I am going and it is making me nervous. It is affecting my sleep and my stomach.
Today, rather than packing possessions to go to other people I need to pack for myself. The plan is to pack a large case and a smaller one. The larger case I have been packing for my sister but I will empty it and use it for myself! I will then take that to the storage unit tomorrow. The smaller one I can use for wherever I go next.
The lightbulb was realising I have been focusing on my relatives stuff when, within reason, it isn't that important as she has gone now. Someone else can take this task over. It doesn't have to be me...plus it is stuff. It is stuff.
One of my plans to go to another country for a few months has failed as they are only accepting nationals and others fitting strict criteria.
I still have the possibility of the cottage but that won't be until February if at all. I won't know until the end of the first week in January.
I have 3 frogs today
financial frog
call a friend who said I can stay for a few weeks in January
call another friend who said I can stay for a few weeks in January
Today I am going to research a retreat. It is a self contained flat. I would be able to do some creative work, rest and walk in beautiful countryside. Might be a good idea on a few fronts. I have the money if I concentrate on today's financial frog
Have a good day everyone
If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
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Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200
Great to see you back despite the sad and unsettled circumstances. Bereavement causes an odd mix of emotions, so glad you have family support.
As usual, I’m impressed by your goals and can’t wait to see the progress. The possibility of a retreat sounds amazing.
Take care
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You are still doing lots in your usual inspirational way DIA , if that makes sense . Of course your mind is going to be all over the place . Many people wouldn't be able to cope with your situation . You're making lot of positive moves into finding and reaching your goals . I too never knew where I was going and had countless nights like you mentioned when I was more or less in your situation .
If you can find that retreat for a while it will give you time to stand back . lower the blood pressure and unwind . A few sticky months ahead , but you'll get there ...
Sorry for your loss DIA, but you know you helped her in numerous ways, that I'm sure she appreciated, and she is now at peace. Sending every positive and healing thoughts to you, and hoping that things work out quickly for you. (((hugs))) XXX
I Believe.....
That it isn't always enough, to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery
Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present.
happiness isn't achieved by getting extra things,
but by getting rid of the things that make you unhappy
It is just stuff and perhaps you're too close to see what's sentimental and what won't help / matter long term.
Could you perhaps secure a 6 / 12 month rental somewhere, find your inner balance and use that time to find a home. It will offer more stability than house hopping.
@in_need_of_direction it is indeed unsettling. Some conversations with family make me realise they are not putting my needs very highly. It wakes me up to the fact that I have to take care of me. I often forget that.
@another_casualty You have been where I am as you say. It helps to know you understand.
@MovingForwards a 6/12 month rental would indeed be good for my inner balance. Unfortunately I can't afford it.
@Sunshine_girl2 the retreat would be in reachable distance if a property came up. I'm hoping for a fortnight away.
If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
Solicitor/survey savings 300/1700
Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200
I woke up with a bad headache, but it seems to be waning. I did not eat well or regularly, so my fault really. I was out most of the day family visiting and that was lovely, but I should have taken some soup/a sandwich. Today I am making some veggie soup and I have a lovely organic turkey crown in the slow cooker. I will buy some dark organic greens and nice bread. I am baking a fruit cake later and will be subbing the wheat flour for buckwheat flour. No idea if that will work. I will roast a tray of veggies to make use of the oven.
Yesterday, I found a beautiful retreat for a very reasonable price. A whole flat to myself. The views are stunning and there is lovely walking there too. I also managed to get discounted advance travel tickets. I'm pleased as I will be able to leave a week before necessary, leaving the keys for the rest of my family to continue to declutter/clear the flat. The retreat is for two weeks
I also packed a large suitcase of belongings. I will drop that to the storage unit when I see my friend next week.
I called my two friends (frog x 2) but one friend had a funeral so she will call me today. The other friend I will talk to face to face next week.
I did not tackle the financial frog. I'm struggling with that one! I paid for the retreat using my cc so I have no choice but to eat that frog.
Wishing you a good day.
If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
Solicitor/survey savings 300/1700
Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200
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Solicitor/survey savings 300/1700
Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200
Today, rather than packing possessions to go to other people I need to pack for myself. The plan is to pack a large case and a smaller one. The larger case I have been packing for my sister but I will empty it and use it for myself! I will then take that to the storage unit tomorrow. The smaller one I can use for wherever I go next.
The lightbulb was realising I have been focusing on my relatives stuff when, within reason, it isn't that important as she has gone now. Someone else can take this task over. It doesn't have to be me...plus it is stuff. It is stuff.
One of my plans to go to another country for a few months has failed as they are only accepting nationals and others fitting strict criteria.
I still have the possibility of the cottage but that won't be until February if at all. I won't know until the end of the first week in January.
I have 3 frogs today
- financial frog
- call a friend who said I can stay for a few weeks in January
- call another friend who said I can stay for a few weeks in January
Today I am going to research a retreat. It is a self contained flat. I would be able to do some creative work, rest and walk in beautiful countryside. Might be a good idea on a few fronts. I have the money if I concentrate on today's financial frogHave a good day everyone
Solicitor/survey savings 300/1700
Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200
Of course your mind is going to be all over the place . Many people wouldn't be able to cope with your situation . You're making lot of positive moves into finding and reaching your goals . I too never knew where I was going and had countless nights like you mentioned when I was more or less in your situation .
A few sticky months ahead , but you'll get there ...
Sending every positive and healing thoughts to you, and hoping that things work out quickly for you. (((hugs))) XXX
That it isn't always enough, to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery
Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present.
happiness isn't achieved by getting extra things,
but by getting rid of the things that make you unhappy
Could you perhaps secure a 6 / 12 month rental somewhere, find your inner balance and use that time to find a home. It will offer more stability than house hopping.
@in_need_of_direction it is indeed unsettling. Some conversations with family make me realise they are not putting my needs very highly. It wakes me up to the fact that I have to take care of me. I often forget that.
@another_casualty You have been where I am as you say. It helps to know you understand.
@MovingForwards a 6/12 month rental would indeed be good for my inner balance. Unfortunately I can't afford it.
@Sunshine_girl2 the retreat would be in reachable distance if a property came up. I'm hoping for a fortnight away.
Solicitor/survey savings 300/1700
Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200
I woke up with a bad headache, but it seems to be waning. I did not eat well or regularly, so my fault really. I was out most of the day family visiting and that was lovely, but I should have taken some soup/a sandwich. Today I am making some veggie soup and I have a lovely organic turkey crown in the slow cooker. I will buy some dark organic greens and nice bread. I am baking a fruit cake later and will be subbing the wheat flour for buckwheat flour. No idea if that will work. I will roast a tray of veggies to make use of the oven.
Yesterday, I found a beautiful retreat for a very reasonable price. A whole flat to myself. The views are stunning and there is lovely walking there too. I also managed to get discounted advance travel tickets. I'm pleased as I will be able to leave a week before necessary, leaving the keys for the rest of my family to continue to declutter/clear the flat. The retreat is for two weeks
I also packed a large suitcase of belongings. I will drop that to the storage unit when I see my friend next week.
I called my two friends (frog x 2) but one friend had a funeral so she will call me today. The other friend I will talk to face to face next week.
I did not tackle the financial frog. I'm struggling with that one! I paid for the retreat using my cc so I have no choice but to eat that frog.
Wishing you a good day.
Solicitor/survey savings 300/1700
Emergency fund 0/1000
Buffer fund 0/200