What qualities do women want/value in a relationship?

Gavin83

onomatopoeia99 said:

Iamdebtfree said:

I do agree re taller though. Always loved a very tall man, over 6 ft!

When I tried and failed to do online dating a while back, the number of female profiles that stated a minimum height because (I paraphrase) "I'm 5'10 and he must not be shorter than me when I'm wearing heels" was surprisingly large.  Apparently height matters.

Doesn't matter to me, I'd be fine dating a woman taller than me or shorter than me.  Clever, kind, passionate are the things that matter to me.  I'm not a woman though.

A woman defining a minimum height for a partner is really no different to a man defining a maximum weight for a partner. I suspect the later is more unusual, although having never been on a dating site I could be entirely wrong!

izawa

Money. This is same for man & a woman. Trust me, no one wants to live poor. 

burlingtonfl6

Gavin83 said:

onomatopoeia99 said:

Iamdebtfree said:

I do agree re taller though. Always loved a very tall man, over 6 ft!

When I tried and failed to do online dating a while back, the number of female profiles that stated a minimum height because (I paraphrase) "I'm 5'10 and he must not be shorter than me when I'm wearing heels" was surprisingly large.  Apparently height matters.

Doesn't matter to me, I'd be fine dating a woman taller than me or shorter than me.  Clever, kind, passionate are the things that matter to me.  I'm not a woman though.

A woman defining a minimum height for a partner is really no different to a man defining a maximum weight for a partner. I suspect the later is more unusual, although having never been on a dating site I could be entirely wrong!

It really is different. 
Can you imagine the uproar in this body positive age (which only really applies to women) if a man openly states he he wouldn't date an overweight woman. It would be seen as sexist.
A woman could announce on the 6 o clock news that she would only date a tall man and it would be perfectly acceptable. 
A woman can do something about her weight but a man can't do anything about his height.
Either way, I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to only date tall me. You can't control what you're attracted to.
It's the double standards I can't stand.

CookieMonster

burlingtonfl6 said:

Can you imagine the uproar in this body positive age (which only really applies to women) if a man openly states he he wouldn't date an overweight woman.

I wouldn't.

strawb_shortcake

My Husband and I were talking about this the other day, based on some of the people we know, the alpha in the relationship tends to be taller. For example, two of his Aunties, one who'd you say was the alpha or more dominant one only ever dates or has relationships with shorter men, her Sister however, would never be considered to be alpha or dominant has always gone for much taller men.

I consider myself quite short and I wouldn't be attracted to a man shorter than myself, well I've never found myself attracted to one anyway. 
I'm also overweight but wouldn't be drawn to an overweight partner. 
I don't think I'd be offended if someone didn't fancy me due to my size, if there's no mutual attraction then it's clearly not meant to be.

Gavin83

burlingtonfl6 said:

Gavin83 said:

onomatopoeia99 said:

Iamdebtfree said:

I do agree re taller though. Always loved a very tall man, over 6 ft!

When I tried and failed to do online dating a while back, the number of female profiles that stated a minimum height because (I paraphrase) "I'm 5'10 and he must not be shorter than me when I'm wearing heels" was surprisingly large.  Apparently height matters.

Doesn't matter to me, I'd be fine dating a woman taller than me or shorter than me.  Clever, kind, passionate are the things that matter to me.  I'm not a woman though.

A woman defining a minimum height for a partner is really no different to a man defining a maximum weight for a partner. I suspect the later is more unusual, although having never been on a dating site I could be entirely wrong!

It really is different. 
Can you imagine the uproar in this body positive age (which only really applies to women) if a man openly states he he wouldn't date an overweight woman. It would be seen as sexist.
A woman could announce on the 6 o clock news that she would only date a tall man and it would be perfectly acceptable. 
A woman can do something about her weight but a man can't do anything about his height.
Either way, I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to only date tall me. You can't control what you're attracted to.
It's the double standards I can't stand.

I stand by what I said, there really is no difference. If someone has an issue with one but not the other then that’s a really misguided view.

I do agree with you on your last point though. I think the dating scene is the one area people should be free to be as prejudice as they wish and if they wish to dismiss a potential partner for a superficial reason that’s entirely their choice.

AskAsk

burlingtonfl6 said:

Gavin83 said:

onomatopoeia99 said:

Iamdebtfree said:

I do agree re taller though. Always loved a very tall man, over 6 ft!

When I tried and failed to do online dating a while back, the number of female profiles that stated a minimum height because (I paraphrase) "I'm 5'10 and he must not be shorter than me when I'm wearing heels" was surprisingly large.  Apparently height matters.

Doesn't matter to me, I'd be fine dating a woman taller than me or shorter than me.  Clever, kind, passionate are the things that matter to me.  I'm not a woman though.

A woman defining a minimum height for a partner is really no different to a man defining a maximum weight for a partner. I suspect the later is more unusual, although having never been on a dating site I could be entirely wrong!

It really is different. 
Can you imagine the uproar in this body positive age (which only really applies to women) if a man openly states he he wouldn't date an overweight woman. It would be seen as sexist.
A woman could announce on the 6 o clock news that she would only date a tall man and it would be perfectly acceptable. 
A woman can do something about her weight but a man can't do anything about his height.
Either way, I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to only date tall me. You can't control what you're attracted to.
It's the double standards I can't stand.

yes, i think you do have a point.  however, i don't think men can moan too much as society was created by men and not women.  i find it niggling when i hear of laws that must have been created by men to control women in the past, like women couldn't vote, women couldn't go to school, women couldn't become bosses, women couldn't wear trousers, women couldn't claim benefits if they were married and their husbands had to do it for them both, women couldn't sleep around but it is fine for a man to do so.

AskAsk

annabanana82 said:

My Husband and I were talking about this the other day, based on some of the people we know, the alpha in the relationship tends to be taller. For example, two of his Aunties, one who'd you say was the alpha or more dominant one only ever dates or has relationships with shorter men, her Sister however, would never be considered to be alpha or dominant has always gone for much taller men.

I consider myself quite short and I wouldn't be attracted to a man shorter than myself, well I've never found myself attracted to one anyway. 
I'm also overweight but wouldn't be drawn to an overweight partner. 
I don't think I'd be offended if someone didn't fancy me due to my size, if there's no mutual attraction then it's clearly not meant to be.

i haven't found height to have a correlation with 'alpha'  and in fact short men can be quite aggressive in comparison to tall men.  it is almost like they have to make up for their height as they have an inferiority complex about it 

strawb_shortcake

AskAsk said:

annabanana82 said:

My Husband and I were talking about this the other day, based on some of the people we know, the alpha in the relationship tends to be taller. For example, two of his Aunties, one who'd you say was the alpha or more dominant one only ever dates or has relationships with shorter men, her Sister however, would never be considered to be alpha or dominant has always gone for much taller men.

I consider myself quite short and I wouldn't be attracted to a man shorter than myself, well I've never found myself attracted to one anyway. 
I'm also overweight but wouldn't be drawn to an overweight partner. 
I don't think I'd be offended if someone didn't fancy me due to my size, if there's no mutual attraction then it's clearly not meant to be.

i haven't found height to have a correlation with 'alpha'  and in fact short men can be quite aggressive in comparison to tall men.  it is almost like they have to make up for their height as they have an inferiority complex about it 

Oh I am a complete believer in short man syndrome, but I think I'd put these men in a different box to the Alpha box 🙂 
We were trying to think of couples we knew where the seemingly more dominant partner was taller and couldn't come up with an example. A lot of the couples we know are of a similar height but we couldn't always determine a stronger partner in all couples. 

sevenhills

Gavin83 said:

I stand by what I said, there really is no difference. If someone has an issue with one but not the other then that’s a really misguided view.

I am attracted to a certain type, but I havnt put that on here because I would never rule out a person outside that type. It would be so narrow minded to rule out a certain type or charactaristic.

I was dating a darked haired lady, so that is more my preference, but really ginger hair is my turn on.