What qualities do women want/value in a relationship?

mason's_mum

burlingtonfl6 said:

mason's_mum said:

Actually, I have always previously been physically attracted to quite stereotypically "feminine" men! but then I am a bit of a strange one and apparently not a "typical" woman - whatever one of those is!

And now you're with a 6ft 2 weight lifting manly man.....further confirming my argument. 
Many thanks.

Of course - from reading your previous posts on this forum you're a bitter man who thinks all women are out to steal your money and rip you off. 
Are you by any chance one of these feminine "nice" men that moans about why women don't like them, when they are so "nice"  while internally holding incredibly misogynistic views?
I notice how you have completely ignored the rest of my post and chosen to focus on one thing...
I do completely disagree with you - for clarity, but then I don't claim to speak on behalf of all women, like you seem to try to do, with the most negative lens possible.

burlingtonfl6

mason's_mum said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

mason's_mum said:

Actually, I have always previously been physically attracted to quite stereotypically "feminine" men! but then I am a bit of a strange one and apparently not a "typical" woman - whatever one of those is!

And now you're with a 6ft 2 weight lifting manly man.....further confirming my argument. 
Many thanks.

Of course - from reading your previous posts on this forum you're a bitter man who thinks all women are out to steal your money and rip you off. 
Are you by any chance one of these feminine "nice" men that moans about why women don't like them, when they are so "nice"  while internally holding incredibly misogynistic views?
I notice how you have completely ignored the rest of my post and chosen to focus on one thing...
I do completely disagree with you - for clarity, but then I don't claim to speak on behalf of all women, like you seem to try to do, with the most negative lens possible.

Thank you for the insults and the name calling.

MovingForwards

burlingtonfl6 said:

MovingForwards said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.
Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

My partner is not my usual type, he's slightly taller than me, very skinny, doesn't know what he wants to do for a job, I earn more than he does, he is in touch with his feelings, takes a lot longer to pick clothes when shopping for them and getting ready when we do occasionally go out. 

Saying people drop their standards when at an age isn't accurate, you do live in a strange world.

I know you like being controversial with your posts, but try dragging yourself into the 2000's.

I'm afraid it is. 
You've already said he's not your USUAL type (he's not your first choice)
Seriously, to all you women reading this, does movingforwards description of her partner sound attractive to you.
Is unemployed/between jobs
In touch with his feelings
Earns less than you
Takes and age to get ready and takes longer than you to pick clothes when shopping.
Ladies, be honest, is this what you want in a man?

You can't fight millions of years of evolution. A man should be a man and be in his masculine.

People don't pick who they fall in love with, it's not like going to a shop and having a selection on a shelf.

Usual type is a funny thing, especially as this is only my second long-term relationship. 

Where did I say my partner isn't working? I said I earn more than he does, as you also noted. There are people happy to do any work to earn money, not just a career job.

Takes an age to get ready? No, I get ready in about 5 minutes, he takes longer.

He also is gorgeous, has a great sense of humour, is kind, caring and thoughtful. 

I guess it's not so easy to pull apart what people say if you thought about the written word. As always, you take things and try to twist them around, failing in the process.

Unfortunately for you, women don't like knuckle dragging me who think women should be stuck in the kitchen.

Sky_

stphnstevey said:

In my life at least, a bit like moneysaving , no one seems to teach you how to make a relationship work. So I was wondering if any women might be willing to share what they want/value in a relationship. The idea being that if you know what is important in a relationship, then you can focus on the right things to aim to hopefully be better at them.
 

Honesty, respect, kindness and consideration. You also have to like each other enough to look past any irritating habits and also get on well with each other.
Many years ago, after I'd rejected several consecutive proposals from genuinely nice guys, because I couldn't imagine living with any of them for the rest of my life, I decided that the right guy wasn't out there so marriage and kids wasn't for me.  I then planned to forget relationships and have an amazing life working and travelling in a variety of countries.  
Then, of course, I met my current husband (also a very nice man) and over 30 years later we're still blissfully happy together, have two great adult children and consider ourselves very lucky.  He's funny, honest, considerate and (usually) respectful, if a bit of a nutter at times, lol.

However, my alternative life would have been great too.  

So in my opinion life is too short to be worrying about things that we think you want--it's better to open your eyes and mind to the great but often alternative opportunities that are around us.  If you're young and single then (once Covid settles down) you're presumably free to move, explore and do something that really grabs you, be it volunteering in India, teaching English in Africa, or anything else that inspires you.

Sky_

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.
Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Nothing like a man with a good sense of humour. 

JGB1955

Mutual respect and shared interests and goals (whilst acknowledging that individual interests, and time spent pursuing them, are equally acceptable).  The ability to spend time apart is as important as the time spent together.... well, it would be if we weren't in the midst of a pandemic!  After 46 years lust has turned to warm affection - but the total support is still there and will (hopefully) take us on to the end of our lives.  I wouldn't wish for anything more.

littlegreenparrot

Controversially I have always had more time for someone who treated me like an actual person, rather than some generic, stereotypical 'woman'
You know, took time to talk and get to know me as an individual rather than assuming I must be like x, y or z because of my gender.
Knowing what most women want is useless, you need to take time to learn what the Person you're with wants. Listen to them and you might be onto something.....

sevenhills

littlegreenparrot said:

Knowing what most women want is useless, you need to take time to learn what the Person you're with wants. Listen to them and you might be onto something.....

I am not even sure my girlfriend wants or ever wanted a relationship, so what most women want is irrelevant.

I just want a GF that wants a relationship. That is a start, the same type of relationship that I want.

CookieMonster

stphnstevey said:

So AFFECTION isn't top of the list for most women?
Most women DON'T see that as important?
If not, what is?

Make yourself an account on Single-Mothers Warehouse  Plenty of Fish and read the profiles, if you want to know what ladies say that they want.
Or - and I'm generalising here - as this board appears to have a blessing of unicorns on it:
What women actually want;
18-28 Looks, Money, Status
28-34 Money, Status. Looks
34-40 Money, Status, Give me a child
40 - 65 Money, Status
>65 A Pulse
:~)

AskAsk

CookieMonster said:

stphnstevey said:

So AFFECTION isn't top of the list for most women?
Most women DON'T see that as important?
If not, what is?

Make yourself an account on Single-Mothers Warehouse  Plenty of Fish and read the profiles, if you want to know what ladies say that they want.
Or - and I'm generalising here - as this board appears to have a blessing of unicorns on it:
What women actually want;
18-28 Looks, Money, Status
28-34 Money, Status. Looks
34-40 Money, Status, Give me a child
40 - 65 Money, Status
>65 A Pulse
:~)

you forgot >65 - a good pension 

interesting that money appears irrespective of age.