What qualities do women want/value in a relationship?

MalMonroe

From a woman who was dumped and left as a single parent, I just want honesty.

Anything else will follow naturally but if one partner is not honest, it'll never work. 

MalMonroe

stphnstevey said:

Mojisola said:

I think you're coming from this wrong - women don't have one view.

What do you want from a partner?  You need to find someone who suits you.

I can understand that each women might have a different "type" of guy physically they go for
I read an article from an experienced marriage councillor who tried to define the reasons the majority of marriages broke down. I followed up with my own short survey of 6 or so women friends, which also confirmed that AFFECTION seemed to top all of their lists
Which got me wondering if there are certain things that the majority of women might be looking for in a relationship   

Yep, affection is great. But if you don't have honesty, you don't have anything. That's the only thing I'd ever want. If I were to have a partner again but then again, with me, once bitten twice shy. Cannot put up with any lying liars. 

jennystarpepper

stphnstevey said:   I can understand that each women might have a different "type" of guy physically they go for

I read an physically they go for who tried to define the reasons the majority of marriages broke down. I followed up with my own short survey of 6 or so women friends, which also confirmed that AFFECTION seemed to top all of their lists
Which got me wondering if there are certain things that the majority of women might be looking for in a relationship   

It does sound like you are making this a 'social experiment' by saying things like 'physically they go for' and  along with 'AFFECTION seemed to top all of their lists'.
 
It is not a pen and paper exercise, and to say 'the majority of women might be looking for in a relationship', is just wrong.  You have a lot to learn if this is how you think.  

AskAsk

as someone said earlier, not all women are the same! 
everyone will have different things they look for in a partner, but in general it will be someone who is caring and honest, but a man would also be looking for this, so there isn't really a huge difference when it comes to what men and women look for in a relationship.

AskAsk

stphnstevey said:

Mojisola said:

I think you're coming from this wrong - women don't have one view.

What do you want from a partner?  You need to find someone who suits you.

I can understand that each women might have a different "type" of guy physically they go for
I read an article from an experienced marriage councillor who tried to define the reasons the majority of marriages broke down. I followed up with my own short survey of 6 or so women friends, which also confirmed that AFFECTION seemed to top all of their lists
Which got me wondering if there are certain things that the majority of women might be looking for in a relationship   

marriages break down because people marry the wrong person, one person is selfish or dishonest, or people just get bored with each other with the passing of time, or they grow apart as people change with time.

i don't think people choose a mate simply by the physical aspects.  for women in particular, a man's personality is probably more important than his looks.  i read somewhere that men put more weight on looks than women do.

burlingtonfl6

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.
Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Pollycat

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.

I've never looked for status, confidence, ambition or wealth in my partners.

And my first marriage lasted 11 years and my 2nd is still going strong at 35 years.

burlingtonfl6 said:

Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

Some quite old fashioned ideas you've got going there.

burlingtonfl6

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.

I've never looked for status, confidence, ambition or wealth in my partners.

And my first marriage lasted 11 years and my 2nd is still going strong at 35 years.

burlingtonfl6 said:

Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

Some quite old fashioned ideas you've got going there.

I did say women in general. You're obviously the unicorn
Height of men is a big issue with women.....unless they're at an age where they have had to drop their standards.

MovingForwards

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.
Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

My partner is not my usual type, he's slightly taller than me, very skinny, doesn't know what he wants to do for a job, I earn more than he does, he is in touch with his feelings, takes a lot longer to pick clothes when shopping for them and getting ready when we do occasionally go out. 

Saying people drop their standards when at an age isn't accurate, you do live in a strange world.

I know you like being controversial with your posts, but try dragging yourself into the 2000's.

burlingtonfl6

MovingForwards said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.
Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

My partner is not my usual type, he's slightly taller than me, very skinny, doesn't know what he wants to do for a job, I earn more than he does, he is in touch with his feelings, takes a lot longer to pick clothes when shopping for them and getting ready when we do occasionally go out. 

Saying people drop their standards when at an age isn't accurate, you do live in a strange world.

I know you like being controversial with your posts, but try dragging yourself into the 2000's.

I'm afraid it is. 
You've already said he's not your USUAL type (he's not your first choice)
Seriously, to all you women reading this, does movingforwards description of her partner sound attractive to you.
Is unemployed/between jobs
In touch with his feelings
Earns less than you
Takes and age to get ready and takes longer than you to pick clothes when shopping.
Ladies, be honest, is this what you want in a man?

You can't fight millions of years of evolution. A man should be a man and be in his masculine.