What qualities do women want/value in a relationship?

sevenhills

AskAsk said:

i have come across the rare person who likes being single but i think it is rare as most people want a partner as we are pack animals and we like living in packs / families.

My last GF was like that, she just wanted an occasional date. It took me a while to work things out, she was honest, but didn't talk about things.

I really want a relationship, but it's something that has evaded me, most of my life. At almost 60, we have all have very different expectations, not sure what will happen.

AskAsk

sevenhills said:

AskAsk said:

i have come across the rare person who likes being single but i think it is rare as most people want a partner as we are pack animals and we like living in packs / families.

My last GF was like that, she just wanted an occasional date. It took me a while to work things out, she was honest, but didn't talk about things.

I really want a relationship, but it's something that has evaded me, most of my life. At almost 60, we have all have very different expectations, not sure what will happen.

i never did casual dates and would be looking for a permanent relationship but my relationships never lasted longer than a few months as i walked away when i found the person was not the sort of person i would want to be with forever.

it was a bit weird when i met my husband as for the first time ever, i found i wanted to stay.  i have found a permanent relationship very difficult and i think it has only worked because my husband is a very accomodating person so i always get things my way.  i can't imagine anyone else doing that.

sorry to hear that you have not been able to establish a permanent relationship.  i think it is important to be in one as you can make long term plans together.

Kim_kim

sevenhills said:

AskAsk said:

i have come across the rare person who likes being single but i think it is rare as most people want a partner as we are pack animals and we like living in packs / families.

My last GF was like that, she just wanted an occasional date. It took me a while to work things out, she was honest, but didn't talk about things.

I really want a relationship, but it's something that has evaded me, most of my life. At almost 60, we have all have very different expectations, not sure what will happen.

The main drawback to me with being single.  I like sun holidays. I like two weeks in the Carribean on a Sunbed (most of the time).  Those holidays are geared up for couples & families.  The prices are astronomical for solo travellers too.  I haven’t done one as a solo yet, but I think my next one will be.  I’m worried I’ll be looked at like an odd ball needing sympathy.  So I would like someone to go on holiday with. 

Occasionally I want to do things, go places in the U.K. (not much though if I’m honest - I’m probably a bit boring), it would be nice to have someone for rare days out & events. 

That’s about it though for me.  

burlingtonfl6

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.

I've never looked for status, confidence, ambition or wealth in my partners.

And my first marriage lasted 11 years and my 2nd is still going strong at 35 years.

burlingtonfl6 said:

Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

Some quite old fashioned ideas you've got going there.

I did say women in general. You're obviously the unicorn
Height of men is a big issue with women.....unless they're at an age where they have had to drop their standards.

I’m definitely at an age.......
My standards will be higher than ever.  I know what I want & don’t want now.  

You're standards might be higher but you're 50 plus and single.... it's not worked so why would anyone who wants to be in a relationship take your advice? They should be listening to someone who has been married for a few decades at your age.
Your options now are nowhere near where they were when you were 25 yet your standards are higher. It doesn't add up.

I’ve been married for 17 years.  I know not to settle when something doesn’t work.
Of course I don’t have the options I had at 25.  But I do have the benefit of knowing myself now & I know what I want & what I don’t want.  I’m happy to remain single, if I met someone who I really clicked with, someone who web could actually enrich each other’s lives then that would be fantastic. But unless it’s great then I’d rather stay single.  I don’t need a man to support me, I earn a good wage.  

My point was your standards are higher than ever but your options are lower than they ever have been.

Kim_kim

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.

I've never looked for status, confidence, ambition or wealth in my partners.

And my first marriage lasted 11 years and my 2nd is still going strong at 35 years.

burlingtonfl6 said:

Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

Some quite old fashioned ideas you've got going there.

I did say women in general. You're obviously the unicorn
Height of men is a big issue with women.....unless they're at an age where they have had to drop their standards.

I’m definitely at an age.......
My standards will be higher than ever.  I know what I want & don’t want now.  

You're standards might be higher but you're 50 plus and single.... it's not worked so why would anyone who wants to be in a relationship take your advice? They should be listening to someone who has been married for a few decades at your age.
Your options now are nowhere near where they were when you were 25 yet your standards are higher. It doesn't add up.

I’ve been married for 17 years.  I know not to settle when something doesn’t work.
Of course I don’t have the options I had at 25.  But I do have the benefit of knowing myself now & I know what I want & what I don’t want.  I’m happy to remain single, if I met someone who I really clicked with, someone who web could actually enrich each other’s lives then that would be fantastic. But unless it’s great then I’d rather stay single.  I don’t need a man to support me, I earn a good wage.  

My point was your standards are higher than ever but your options are lower than they ever have been.

I’m not bothered about that, I’d much rather be single than unhappy or “settling”. 

burlingtonfl6

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.

I've never looked for status, confidence, ambition or wealth in my partners.

And my first marriage lasted 11 years and my 2nd is still going strong at 35 years.

burlingtonfl6 said:

Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

Some quite old fashioned ideas you've got going there.

I did say women in general. You're obviously the unicorn
Height of men is a big issue with women.....unless they're at an age where they have had to drop their standards.

I’m definitely at an age.......
My standards will be higher than ever.  I know what I want & don’t want now.  

You're standards might be higher but you're 50 plus and single.... it's not worked so why would anyone who wants to be in a relationship take your advice? They should be listening to someone who has been married for a few decades at your age.
Your options now are nowhere near where they were when you were 25 yet your standards are higher. It doesn't add up.

I’ve been married for 17 years.  I know not to settle when something doesn’t work.
Of course I don’t have the options I had at 25.  But I do have the benefit of knowing myself now & I know what I want & what I don’t want.  I’m happy to remain single, if I met someone who I really clicked with, someone who web could actually enrich each other’s lives then that would be fantastic. But unless it’s great then I’d rather stay single.  I don’t need a man to support me, I earn a good wage.  

My point was your standards are higher than ever but your options are lower than they ever have been.

I’m not bothered about that, I’d much rather be single than unhappy or “settling”. 

Or you could settle for someone on your level.....just a thought

onomatopoeia99

Kim_kim said:

sevenhills said:

AskAsk said:

i have come across the rare person who likes being single but i think it is rare as most people want a partner as we are pack animals and we like living in packs / families.

My last GF was like that, she just wanted an occasional date. It took me a while to work things out, she was honest, but didn't talk about things.

I really want a relationship, but it's something that has evaded me, most of my life. At almost 60, we have all have very different expectations, not sure what will happen.

The main drawback to me with being single.  I like sun holidays. I like two weeks in the Carribean on a Sunbed (most of the time).  Those holidays are geared up for couples & families.  The prices are astronomical for solo travellers too

The way the tourism industry treats solo travellers as a cash cow is a disgrace.  Single supplements should be outlawed.

I don't do sun holidays, I visit European (mainly Italian) cities with cultural heritage and go to the museums and galleries.I won't go with package  providers due to their pricing for solo travellers, so book my own flights and hotels instead.

Gavin83

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Kim_kim said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Depends on their age but you're wasting your time asking a woman for advice. 
I don't know how old you are OP but the main thing women generally look for is status, confidence, ambition and wealth.
Feminine men in touch with their feelings get nowhere.

I've never looked for status, confidence, ambition or wealth in my partners.

And my first marriage lasted 11 years and my 2nd is still going strong at 35 years.

burlingtonfl6 said:

Edit.... it helps to be taller than them too.

Really?

Some quite old fashioned ideas you've got going there.

I did say women in general. You're obviously the unicorn
Height of men is a big issue with women.....unless they're at an age where they have had to drop their standards.

I’m definitely at an age.......
My standards will be higher than ever.  I know what I want & don’t want now.  

You're standards might be higher but you're 50 plus and single.... it's not worked so why would anyone who wants to be in a relationship take your advice? They should be listening to someone who has been married for a few decades at your age.
Your options now are nowhere near where they were when you were 25 yet your standards are higher. It doesn't add up.

I’ve been married for 17 years.  I know not to settle when something doesn’t work.
Of course I don’t have the options I had at 25.  But I do have the benefit of knowing myself now & I know what I want & what I don’t want.  I’m happy to remain single, if I met someone who I really clicked with, someone who web could actually enrich each other’s lives then that would be fantastic. But unless it’s great then I’d rather stay single.  I don’t need a man to support me, I earn a good wage.  

My point was your standards are higher than ever but your options are lower than they ever have been.

I’m not bothered about that, I’d much rather be single than unhappy or “settling”. 

Or you could settle for someone on your level.....just a thought

It’s their choice. If they’re happy being single then that’s their decision to make and people are free to be as picky as they want.

It does annoy me when you get someone who hates being single complaining they can’t find a partner when they’ve got ridiculously high expectations. Either adjust your expectations or accept being single.

mason's_mum

burlingtonfl6 said:

Or you could settle for someone on your level.....just a thought

why do you have to keep pushing - she's said she's happily single and not prepared to settle. leave her alone.

Tokmon

onomatopoeia99 said:

Kim_kim said:

sevenhills said:

AskAsk said:

i have come across the rare person who likes being single but i think it is rare as most people want a partner as we are pack animals and we like living in packs / families.

My last GF was like that, she just wanted an occasional date. It took me a while to work things out, she was honest, but didn't talk about things.

I really want a relationship, but it's something that has evaded me, most of my life. At almost 60, we have all have very different expectations, not sure what will happen.

The main drawback to me with being single.  I like sun holidays. I like two weeks in the Carribean on a Sunbed (most of the time).  Those holidays are geared up for couples & families.  The prices are astronomical for solo travellers too

The way the tourism industry treats solo travellers as a cash cow is a disgrace.  Single supplements should be outlawed.

I don't do sun holidays, I visit European (mainly Italian) cities with cultural heritage and go to the museums and galleries.I won't go with package  providers due to their pricing for solo travellers, so book my own flights and hotels instead.

From what I've seen single supplements are usually applied when a room for two people is occupied by one person so there is obviously going to be an extra cost if 1 person goes on a package holiday in one room with a fixed cost compared to 2 people. So i don't understand why you think single supplements are unfair when there is a genuine extra cost in these kinds of situations.