Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

LadyHarris

Redlady..... said:

Wow, another sanctimonious attention seeker who chooses to display her smugness by passing judgement on a person she doesn't know. Unbelievable.
What gives you the right to ask personal questions about someone elses child?

Is this directed at me ?

Savvy_sewing

Artytarty said:

Doesnt the boys other Granny  have horses?
any chance dgd could get a feel for the big beasts first, round there?
I know it's not HER granny.

Yes she has horses. But we don't really have the kind of relationship I could ask, and it would be better for somewhere closer to us. But never say never, who knows.

We have Playdough, and I make my own.
we also have colouring things all though all DGS does is break them in half and or launch them at everyone. !
unfortunately they even have tech in school these days. 

onwards&upwards

LadyHarris said:

Redlady..... said:

Wow, another sanctimonious attention seeker who chooses to display her smugness by passing judgement on a person she doesn't know. Unbelievable.
What gives you the right to ask personal questions about someone elses child?

Is this directed at me ?

Honestly there's no point posting anything even slightly critical or questioning in here.  The OP isn't open to hearing it and her cheerleaders will just pile into you or report you.  I know that you are only concerned for these poor kids, so am I, but you're wasting your time. 

beanielou

LadyHarris said:

I have to question why these small infant school aged children are being given electrical items with availability to a whole world of inappropriate media they should have colouring  play dough cars trains  or some other items to play with we all managed before they were around and as young as they are they can do without them . I see DS is ill yet again did he go to the doctor  he was supposed to go a few weeks ago he seems to be ill a lot . Glad DGS money has gone up but maybe the lessons could be for when she has done her homework ,tidied up and gone to school on time to reward her as an incentive ? 

Is there any need for you to constantly be so negative.
It is a way of life these days wether you (or anyone else) agree with it.

LadyHarris

beanielou said:

LadyHarris said:

I have to question why these small infant school aged children are being given electrical items with availability to a whole world of inappropriate media they should have colouring  play dough cars trains  or some other items to play with we all managed before they were around and as young as they are they can do without them . I see DS is ill yet again did he go to the doctor  he was supposed to go a few weeks ago he seems to be ill a lot . Glad DGS money has gone up but maybe the lessons could be for when she has done her homework ,tidied up and gone to school on time to reward her as an incentive ? 

Is there any need for you to constantly be so negative.
It is a way of life these days wether you (or anyone else) agree with it.

Really I am not negative just an observation these children have spent the first few years of their lives deprived of parental human interaction until they came to grannies surely this is a big thing in the first years as the parent of a non verbal autistic child i know that human interaction brings results for him my life would be so easy if i just gave him electronics but my time is the best thing i can give him  as for DGD surely her poor behaviour doesn't warrant treats she needs to learn some responsibility and these lessons can be used to encourage her into a responsible adult I will now take my leave as it seems unless you are a close friend you are not welcome

bellabella

onwards&upwards said:

LadyHarris said:

Redlady..... said:

Wow, another sanctimonious attention seeker who chooses to display her smugness by passing judgement on a person she doesn't know. Unbelievable.
What gives you the right to ask personal questions about someone elses child?

Is this directed at me ?

Honestly there's no point posting anything even slightly critical or questioning in here.  The OP isn't open to hearing it and her cheerleaders will just pile into you or report you.  I know that you are only concerned for these poor kids, so am I, but you're wasting your time. 

Oh my another poster bullied off this page just because they showed some concerns regarding these poor children what a surprise  

Savvy_sewing

onwards&upwards said:

LadyHarris said:

Redlady..... said:

Wow, another sanctimonious attention seeker who chooses to display her smugness by passing judgement on a person she doesn't know. Unbelievable.
What gives you the right to ask personal questions about someone elses child?

Is this directed at me ?

Honestly there's no point posting anything even slightly critical or questioning in here.  The OP isn't open to hearing it and her cheerleaders will just pile into you or report you.  I know that you are only concerned for these poor kids, so am I, but you're wasting your time. 

I beg to differ.
 I read and absorb, and I look at criticism just as much as I do any other post. 

I take it all on board. 

However I wonder why you bother to subscribe to my ramblings if you think I am wrong or the regular posters are some what supportive ( and critical too) of my thoughts, actions and deeds. I find that very strange.
 I totally understand where Ladyharris is coming from.
 I think that we all rely on tech too much, and I am trying to ween them off of it. 

Tech time is greatly reduced and as I change to doing less work and more of the care it will be easier to implement.

DS is indeed not very healthy but then what ravages must his history of drug taking have done? 

onwards&upwards

I don't subscribe to your thread.  Its always at the top of a board I regularly read.  Its very sad to keep reading about these children and what is happening to them, and I suppose I keep hoping something will force a substantial change. 

LadyHarris

Savvy_sewing said:

onwards&upwards said:

LadyHarris said:

Redlady..... said:

Wow, another sanctimonious attention seeker who chooses to display her smugness by passing judgement on a person she doesn't know. Unbelievable.
What gives you the right to ask personal questions about someone elses child?

Is this directed at me ?

Honestly there's no point posting anything even slightly critical or questioning in here.  The OP isn't open to hearing it and her cheerleaders will just pile into you or report you.  I know that you are only concerned for these poor kids, so am I, but you're wasting your time. 

I beg to differ.
 I read and absorb, and I look at criticism just as much as I do any other post. 

I take it all on board. 

However I wonder why you bother to subscribe to my ramblings if you think I am wrong or the regular posters are some what supportive ( and critical too) of my thoughts, actions and deeds. I find that very strange.
 I totally understand where Ladyharris is coming from.
 I think that we all rely on tech too much, and I am trying to ween them off of it. 

Tech time is greatly reduced and as I change to doing less work and more of the care it will be easier to implement.

DS is indeed not very healthy but then what ravages must his history of drug taking have done? 

Thank you Savvy but i am afraid your friends haven't made me feel very welcome which is a shame so i wish you well but know its going to be a hard road with an aspie and if you don't have one you really have never lived or fought as well as making sure any other children don't miss out  x

Redlady.....

LadyHarris said:

Redlady..... said:

Wow, another sanctimonious attention seeker who chooses to display her smugness by passing judgement on a person she doesn't know. Unbelievable.
What gives you the right to ask personal questions about someone elses child?

Is this directed at me ?

It is.
For me it's the way you say things and not always what you say.  Others offer advice and point things out to SS without using such a self righteous tone, or asking personal questions.