Nst november in new york

greent

x_raphael_xx wrote: »

. I think I want to stay, but I want him to be punished and scared that he'll lose me. IYSWIM. My head is spinning one way then the other.[/COLOR]
Sorry for the long rant. I appreciate everyones messages.

How about counselling? - maybe not right now- can be separate or jointly. Doesn't have to be for a long time. Just means that both of you might begin to understand at the whys of what happened/ how reacted. MAy even bring up other issues that you didn't even know were related but in some strange way are. Can be very painful - but in a cathartic way (I might just be talking from experience here...)
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Toni'sfriend

How about counselling? - maybe not right now- can be separate or jointly. Doesn't have to be for a long time. Just means that both of you might begin to understand at the whys of what happened/ how reacted. May even bring up other issues that you didn't even know were related but in some strange way are. Can be very painful - but in a cathartic way.

That sounds like a good idea. In the meantime it seems like you need a bit of time and space. I can understand why you wouldn't want to bother his mum but is there someone else who he could spend a couple of days with?

Toni'sfriend

NSD 12/15 AFD No 15

My day out was cancelled at the last minute. Must admit I haven't really done much today but another freezer drawer cleared out.

Kerry_Woman

raphael - Sending you hugs.
Was a spend day. Did a small food top up. Brought some kitchen utensils(replacing plastic ones with stainless ones) and underwear that had to be replaced/needed - saved £7.60 as I had 20% off offer. Also had to buy a new kettle and tea towels. Used points on a loyalty card. So altogether I saved £37.59.
Also ordered an artificial Christmas flower arrangement for my Mum's grave.
Did walk today.
Used what I had in.
Did take somethings to local recycling points.
Done self care and still not playing computer games.
Still need to do a small amount of my to do list.

thriftylass

Not a SFD today as I took money out to pay for DS football and bought some nuts.

Did my food inventory yesterday and then my meal plan and ASDA shopping list. This week I won't need any toiletries or household items so I should be able to claw back the money I went over budget by last week.

Also printed out a "accounting for dummies" book (had it in my amazon basket, then thought about the library and then found the pdf for free) and might start reading that for half an hour in the morning while the head is fresh and I have no interruptions. Ages ago I did the free short intro course at the OU, might revisit that too. DH wants to maybe go freelance someday soon and although I would still want an accountant I would like to know some basics so we're not at the mercy of the accountant. Heard too many horror stories where people got done for the mistakes the accountant had made because they didn't know any better.

crazy_cat_lady

Hi everyone :coffee:
Couple of days off for me online as I've been so busy in real life - it's only a quick check in now as I need to get back to it. I'm desperately trying to get a blanket finished before next week for someone's birthday.
Love to you Raph - sorry to read what's going on. I don't think there is a right or wrong decision - only you know if you can accept what has happened and are prepared to move on or not.
Love to you to Lauren, sounds like a not-very- pleasant sergeant. Pleased the leave has been given in the end.
And Plumduff - I'm jealous of your day of Christmas movies and crafts.
Spendy day yesterday, nsd today. Bit of decluttering but still busy at work so not much else.

greent

NSDs Still 5 NSD and 2 XSD. Bought foodstuffs and loo rolls for the student children in A1di
ORGANISE your time. - Did not get VAT return finished - day started at 5am with DS2 being in pain from earache - had it now for 3 weeks, so decision made to keep him off school (in the next town) and finally got nurse appt at lunchtime and antibiotics. Day was off plan as a result.
VALUES Definite want - but planned and will be saved for - Florida Fund 2020 started - balance so far is £22.55:rotfl::rotfl:
ENJOY yourself.
MAKE an inventory of food. Yes, done.
BUDGETS Done
EXERCISE walked from GPs to pharmacy (not the closest one because they're a bit rubbish) and back - f1tb1t shows an hour's activity
RULES


IN case of emergency I Have finally put breakdown details in car (also have them on phone) Still need to put another blanket in boot
NOW is the right time. Logged food and drink again today.

NO takeaways etc - None today.
EVERYONEshould know dfd. Only debt is BTL mtge which we are OP-ing. EXTRA - still need to list a couple of bits on fb00k/ flebay
WINTER proof your home,-

YOU should cook from scratch. Yes (made breakfast bars to use up honey, the last of a bag of granola, bananas from the freezer, some nuts I'd forgotten about, some very old sultanas, the last of the old bag of oats and the last of a tub of syrup. DS1 can take them back to uni. Also made fridge cake using up the (saved) ends of bags of cereals, choc ice cream syrup (no one's eating ice cream at this time of year) some broken hotel biscuits (virtually reduced to crumbs in their packets) and other bits. And finally - some super gorgeous pasta (used YS spinach leaves, loads of HG tomatoes from the freezer, 2 rashers of smoked streaky bacon, garlic and half a tub of YS mushrooms)
OUTSIDE
REPORT regularly - here
KINDNESS costs nothing.

the_cross_rabbit

NST will aim for 15. no 8 claimed. TT of 30p. Hugs to those who need them. Dolly 84 running and litter picking is called plogging in Scandinavia. I'll stick to walking. Need an early night. Take care everyone
CRx

lcc86

raphael sorry to hear about your OH, I second what everyone else has said re asking him to stay somewhere else (although as you say maybe not his mum's given the circumstances) and the counselling. All the best whatever you decide.

NSD number 9 today. Just stayed in and did lots of studying. Watched some. TV too, managed to get through a chunk of Frontier on Netflix. Was meant to go to the gym this evening but wasn't really feeling it today so gave it a miss.

misstara

Hugs raphael

Sorry haven't posted for about a week it's not been a great one

Now up to 6/15 NSDs so definitely need to up my game. Went for a nice long walk this afternoon and completed a few errands that have been needing done for a while - picking up prescriptions and going to the post office.

Had a yummy prawn stirfry for tea, while it was cooking I prepped all the veg for tomorrow which is going to be baked tatties with ratatouille