Huge wedding problem :(

POPPYOSCAR

MysteryMe wrote: »

I don't think the bride likes the OP as much as he thinks she does considering he posted

"Interestingly 2 of the bridesmaids who i barely know and have only met once in my whole life and dont know my partner came up to me saying where is she, why she not coming etc. Obviously prepped to get info out of me from the bride!!!"

The bride sounds an awful. Getting married is not a free pass for being rude and disrespectful. I think the OP meeting up with his friend separately would be preferable, assuming his friend's wife allows him.

Yes I wonder if he told his partner about that.

POPPYOSCAR

I started off thinking this thread was genuine but now I have my doubts.

leighavfc

foolofbeans wrote: »

Almost as pathetic as the partner who says he will do exactly what their wife wants them too, knowing that the wife could not ask them to show loyalty to her without being labelled as behaving as badly as the bride.
If you had enough doubt in your head that you had to ask for others opinions then I fear you already know what the right thing to do was but chose to play it so you get your own way while pretending to be an understanding husband.

Dont agree with you at all. I was in a genuine dilemna between two people i love dearly. I have never faced anything like this in my life so far so plesse excuse me for being confused. I didnt do exactly as she said based in what she said.. i took her advice based on hoe she was feeling.. she has been absolutely golden in all this and genuinely wanted me to go and be with my best mate on his biggest day. She had no problem with the groom so chose not to cause any more drama by being adult about it..

Have you NEVER asked for an opinion in your whole life?

leighavfc

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes I wonder if he told his partner about that.

I told her... she also reads this thread lol

leighavfc

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I started off thinking this thread was genuine but now I have my doubts.

I dont mean to be blunt but why would i waste my time writing all thi if it wasnt genuine?

JReacher1

leighavfc wrote: »

I dont mean to be blunt but why would i waste my time writing all thi if it wasnt genuine?

Been an interesting thread but if I was you I would just walk away from the thread!

You're going to start attracting the trolls now who just want to rile you

happyandcontented

I think your wife has behaved very well in all of this, but I think that when the bride didn't respond to her two overtures of friendship that should have signalled a change of tack by you.

I think that your friend would have understood had you just attended the ceremony and then left to take your wife out to Dinner. That would have been the best way to show them both and the bride that you can't be manipulated, which you have been, royally, by the bride. The groom has just stood by an allowed it to happen. That is understandable but it should have informed your actions.

I suspect that she primed the bridesmaid to hit on you to spite your wife and that your friend knew this so told her to back off. Despicable behaviour in my opinion and choosing someone like this to marry will probably not end well for your friend. I suspect you will be picking up the pieces of his heart further down the line.

Regardless of what your wife might say, there will be a part of her that will muse on your actions and wonder why you did not put her feelings first. Couples are not joined at the hip, but when one party is badly treated by someone else most do stand together, however hard that might be.

leighavfc

JReacher1 wrote: »

Been an interesting thread but if I was you I would just walk away from the thread!

You're going to start attracting the trolls now who just want to rile you

Thanks was just thinking this exactly!!

Enough from me now in here, if any of you want to msg me about it feel free but i wont be responding in here anymore. Many of you have took the thread for what it is and given your opinion for or against my way of thinking and i thank you for that.

So many strange posts... or trolls but whatever dont bother me in the slightest:money:

Also my spelling typing on this phone is getting worse by each post!!

Marvel1

leighavfc wrote: »

Ok its funny how my wife has been completly fine with me... chatting about the wholed dsy showing her pics etc. You obviously knoe her much better than i do. I NEVER said to her i was not going to the evening doo it was a suggrstion i was considering before the wedding so please dont skim read... clearly stated this.

Flattered by the bridesmaid hitting on me... are you kidding??? I hsve a wife and kids i love dearly.. dont judge me when you have never met me...i font agree at all with your post but that doesnt automatically make me think your an idiot. i found it strange one min she was asking me where my wife was who she has never met and also mirraculously knew her name.. then asking me to dance buy her a drink and all the rest of it.. if i was flattered i would have encouraged it surely?

Probablt the worst post in this thread... theres been a few. Dont worry though i wont judge you based on your posts like you clearly have with mine

Ignore the others who don't think you should gone as above, you know your Wife more than everyone

POPPYOSCAR

leighavfc wrote: »

I dont mean to be blunt but why would i waste my time writing all thi if it wasnt genuine?

You have' played the crowd' very well.

Just awaiting the next thread about your mate wanting to go out in a foursome and the ensuing drama.......

All the best to those that want to play along with you.