Huge wedding problem :(

happyandcontented

WibblyGirly wrote: »

Why? Is there a certain point in it that I switch my manipulation mode on? :rotfl:

No, I just wondered what length of relationship qualified you as an expert!:rotfl: So?

Mojisola

happyandcontented wrote: »

No, I just wondered what length of relationship qualified you as an expert!:rotfl: So?

Some people have a great relationship from day 1; others are still playing mind games 30 years on.

-taff

happyandcontented wrote: »

No, I just wondered what length of relationship qualified you as an expert!:rotfl: So?

What length of relationship is the right answer?

How many failed relationships is the right answer?

Are you supposed to have just one relationship where you lie to someone about how you feel and expect them magically to know that they must do the opposite of what you are actually saying?

Or do you lie to many ex-partners/current partners about how you feel so that you can perfect your meaningful looks when you lie to indicate you mean exactly the opposite?
Is there a school for lying I should be attending, because I've totally missed this part of being in a relationship....

myonlysunshine

I’m glad you and your wife are ok but I’m sorry to say to me it looks like he (your best mate) put HIS wife’s needs first and you don’t.

She gave you her blessing for you to go but I really think you should have left after the meal and it would have showed some loyalty and support to her.

I also wouldn’t have given the bride any of my time either the way she has behaved towards your wife..your priority.

Pollycat

myonlysunshine wrote: »

I’m glad you and your wife are ok but I’m sorry to say to me it looks like he (your best mate) put HIS wife’s needs first and you don’t.

She gave you her blessing for you to go but I really think you should have left after the meal and it would have showed some loyalty and support to her.

I also wouldn’t have given the bride any of my time either the way she has behaved towards your wife..your priority.

It may be that the groom didn't have a choice in the matter if the bride is really the b I t c h the OP says she is.
I do think it's a shame that the groom didn't give the OP the heads-up about the other guests ages ago instead of leaving them to find out the evening before the wedding.

Re the bride at the wedding, if I were the OP I'd have been coolly polite and limited the time I spent with her to a minimum and only in the company of other guests.
I'd also have been truthful about where my partner was but only if asked directly.

Tabbytabitha

NeilCr wrote: »

Honestly. Just leave this thread alone and let it die. Turn off your notifications and don't come this way again

I understand why you keep getting involved but by posting and showing you are upset you are providing a target. While I agree with, you this is going round in circles and views are getting more polarised.

The important thing is that you and your wife are fine whatever anyone else on an irrelevant forum thinks. That's all that matters

The rest of us can continue squabbling if we want to!

But where would be the fun for him in doing that?;)

annandale

He's not being targeted. Just pointing out that he seems to be upset that people aren't rushing to agree with his views on the entire matter. First it was a massive issue then it wasn't. And he keeps saying we don't know him and his wife. Of course we don't.

The fact that he posted so close to the wedding concerned about it obviously shows he was in two minds about going because of what had been done to his wife.

Everyone sees things from a different perspective. If a long term partner of mine had gone to a wedding that I wasn't invited to leaving me sitting in the house I'd have been very upset.

Not because I'm controlling or wanted to keep tabs on my partner. I'd have felt like it was a snub and a public one and I'd have been embarrassed.

This couple don't feel that way, that's fine.

Just not sure why he's getting so upset when people aren't agreeing with him