Huge wedding problem :(

happyandcontented

WibblyGirly wrote: »

Some of the responses in this thread! How do you all have time for these mind games in your relationships? Expecting your partners to make the right choice while your straight up lying to them about how you feel? I'm glad I'm not in a relationship like that, it sounds like an immature way to handle disagreements.
Maybe instead of accusing the OP's wife of things you cannot possibly know, maybe look at yourself and your own relationship and why you need to act in a manipulative manner with your partner instead of just being honest with them!

OP, I'm like your wife, I would have told my partner the same as she told you. I also wouldn't be bothered about my partner staying out all night.

Out of interest, how long have you been in a relationship?

leighavfc

Pollycat wrote: »

You mean "At last a response that agrees with me".
FTR, I've been supportive of you - and particularly your wife's behaviour - throughout this thread.

Yes i have noticed Pollycat, thank you. The realness bit i meant was about the mind games etc how can relationships be based on these games seriously..must be so many jnsecure relationships around based on what i have read. My opinion of course, i certainly didnt mean it as you put it that i because the poster agreed with me but i can see why you said that.

Marvel1

leighavfc wrote: »

No i ASKED what people would DO in this situation which was fine whether you agreed with me or not.

Then I provided an update to what had gone on. Since then ive been TOLD that MY wife is upset and ive got it all wrong ... pure nonsense seeing as none of you know me or my wife. Baffles me how you can read it any other way but hey ho thats your opinion which i and many others disagreed with but thanks anyway

Dont patronise me i understand entireley how the internet and forums work !!!!!!. I have accounts on many forums and fairly decent reputations on them so please...

It's because you are a bloke, roles reversed it would be seen as controlling and abuse.

WibblyGirly

happyandcontented wrote: »

Out of interest, how long have you been in a relationship?

Why? Is there a certain point in it that I switch my manipulation mode on? :rotfl:

leighavfc

WibblyGirly wrote: »

Why? Is there a certain point in it that I switch my manipulation mode on? :rotfl:

I know what he hell has length of relationship got to do with it?

annandale

No i ASKED what people would DO in this situation which was fine whether you agreed with me or not.

Then I provided an update to what had gone on. Since then ive been TOLD that MY wife is upset and ive got it all wrong ... pure nonsense seeing as none of you know me or my wife. Baffles me how you can read it any other way but hey ho thats your opinion which i and many others disagreed with but thanks anyway

Dont patronise me i understand entireley how the internet and forums work !!!!!!. I have accounts on many forums and fairly decent reputations on them so please...

Your wife was in tears, I think that qualifies as upset

You are coming across as quite angry at people who don't agree with you. Maybe you should take a huge step back and read some of your posts.

It is irrelevant what your reputation is on other forums you post on.

If there were no issues why did you post this in the first place?

Dasa

annandale wrote: »

Your wife was in tears, I think that qualifies as upset

You are coming across as quite angry at people who don't agree with you. Maybe you should take a huge step back and read some of your posts.

It is irrelevant what your reputation is on other forums you post on.

If there were no issues why did you post this in the first place?

Havn't you worked that out yet;)

leighavfc

annandale wrote: »

Your wife was in tears, I think that qualifies as upset

You are coming across as quite angry at people who don't agree with you. Maybe you should take a huge step back and read some of your posts.

It is irrelevant what your reputation is on other forums you post on.

If there were no issues why did you post this in the first place?

Again that was at the start of the thread.. 2 days before the event. Not after the event when plenty of people were telling me she was upset then. Its all there for you to see.

I do read my posts back, and yes it is irrelevant but when your accusing me of not knowing how a forum or the internet work it becomes relevant. Anyway completly off topic is it not?

Again see what my OP said i was asking what others would do in my position on thursday evening before the wedding saturday. Im angry because a few have told me how my wife feels and how shes deep down mad at me etc. Come on annandale, before my "update alert" post i had no issues with anything that was said. but after "update alert" post when people are talking absolute tosh about my relationships and someone they have never met or know much if anythjng about i have more than a right to be annoyed angry or whatever feelings i feel. I will say fair comment about the posts being angry as im a wear your heart on sleeve kind of guy and maybe i should not get too involved emotionally but thats just the way im wired.

As far as im concerned the issues that i raised in OP have been dealt with in my opinion as best as we could and together as a couple. Not just me doing what i wished without a care in the world for my wife as some have suggested. In fact this thread is becoming irrelevant to what the OP and update after the wedding was originally about. Its done and dusted. My wife is happy. Im happy. Groom was happy and no doubt the bride was too.

Mods close the thread plesse, its not going anywhere and is becoming more irrelevent by the post...

NeilCr

leighavfc wrote: »

Again that was at the start of the thread.. 2 days before the event. Not after the event when plenty of people were telling me she was upset then. Its all there for you to see.

I do read my posts back, and yes it is irrelevant but when your accusing me of not knowing how a forum or the internet work it becomes relevant. Anyway completly off topic is it not?

Again see what my OP said i was asking what others would do in my position on thursday evening before the wedding saturday. Im angry because a few have told me how my wife feels and how shes deep down mad at me etc. Come on annandale, before my "update alert" post i had no issues with anything that was said. but after "update alert" post when people are talking absolute tosh about my relationships and someone they have never met or know much if anythjng about i have more than a right to be annoyed angry or whatever feelings i feel. I will say fair comment about the posts being angry as im a wear your heart on sleeve kind of guy and maybe i should not get too involved emotionally but thats just the way im wired.

As far as im concerned the issues that i raised in OP have been dealt with in my opinion as best as we could and together as a couple. Not just me doing what i wished without a care in the world for my wife as some have suggested. In fact this thread is becoming irrelevant to what the OP and update after the wedding was originally about. Its done and dusted. My wife is happy. Im happy. Groom was happy and no doubt the bride was too.

Mods close the thread plesse, its not going anywhere and is becoming more irrelevent by the post...

Honestly. Just leave this thread alone and let it die. Turn off your notifications and don't come this way again

I understand why you keep getting involved but by posting and showing you are upset you are providing a target. While I agree with, you this is going round in circles and views are getting more polarised.

The important thing is that you and your wife are fine whatever anyone else on an irrelevant forum thinks. That's all that matters

The rest of us can continue squabbling if we want to!

Pollycat

leighavfc wrote: »

Yes i have noticed Pollycat, thank you. The realness bit i meant was about the mind games etc how can relationships be based on these games seriously..must be so many jnsecure relationships around based on what i have read. My opinion of course, i certainly didnt mean it as you put it that i because the poster agreed with me but i can see why you said that.

Just to explain - my post was tongue-in-cheek.
I should have used a smiley to show that.