Huge wedding problem :(

leighavfc

cjdavies wrote: »

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However some people on this forum like to control (abuse) their partners in thinking their way.

Exactly and that is NOT me at all! I think about everybody else before i act on stuff and not forcing my opinions onto them because im blinkered or whatever.. I dont know how many times i have to state that me and wife have discussed the situation before hand and after yet im still wrong and she is upset and all the rest of it :wall:

thorsoak

It's happened, you've dealt with it, no-one has died, you and your wife are still together - now breathe! Just do not expect to have the same relationship with your BF as you had before you both were married - both of your wives have prior claims on your time - and believe me, they will claim it!

Just enjoy life as it is now - it was different before, it will be different in the future when you have children - but for now, just breathe!

Five or ten years down the line - will it matter? No!

Marvel1

happyandcontented wrote: »

Ah, but they are married now....and he didn't stand up to her for you over the issue that caused the problem. How can you have confidence that he will if she suddenly decides that he shouldn't be going out with you and 'getting into a state?'

Judging by some posts toward the OP, the groom would be wrong to stand up to her and must stand by her.

leighavfc

cjdavies wrote: »

Judging by some posts toward the OP, the groom would be wrong to stand up to her and must stand by her.

Totally agree cj! And i didnt stand up to my wife and say im going regardless of what you think and feel.. i took HER opinion on board and made a decison based on that. I really do not see what is so hard to understand.. baffles me tbh.

femina

thorsoak wrote: »

Five or ten years down the line - will it matter? No!

Chances are (high) that five or ten years down the line the newly weds will be divorced and OP and his wife will still be together, - based on this story alone.

annandale

Totally agree cj! And i didnt stand up to my wife and say im going regardless of what you think and feel.. i took HER opinion on board and made a decison based on that. I really do not see what is so hard to understand.. baffles me tbh.

Baffles me that you started a thread expecting people to agree with your viewpoint and only your viewpoint.

That is not the way things work on internet forums

leighavfc

annandale wrote: »

Baffles me that you started a thread expecting people to agree with your viewpoint and only your viewpoint.

That is not the way things work on internet forums

No i ASKED what people would DO in this situation which was fine whether you agreed with me or not.

Then I provided an update to what had gone on. Since then ive been TOLD that MY wife is upset and ive got it all wrong ... pure nonsense seeing as none of you know me or my wife. Baffles me how you can read it any other way but hey ho thats your opinion which i and many others disagreed with but thanks anyway

Dont patronise me i understand entireley how the internet and forums work !!!!!!. I have accounts on many forums and fairly decent reputations on them so please...

WibblyGirly

Some of the responses in this thread! How do you all have time for these mind games in your relationships? Expecting your partners to make the right choice while your straight up lying to them about how you feel? I'm glad I'm not in a relationship like that, it sounds like an immature way to handle disagreements.
Maybe instead of accusing the OP's wife of things you cannot possibly know, maybe look at yourself and your own relationship and why you need to act in a manipulative manner with your partner instead of just being honest with them!

OP, I'm like your wife, I would have told my partner the same as she told you. I also wouldn't be bothered about my partner staying out all night.

leighavfc

WibblyGirly wrote: »

Some of the responses in this thread! How do you all have time for these mind games in your relationships? Expecting your partners to make the right choice while your straight up lying to them about how you feel? I'm glad I'm not in a relationship like that, it sounds like an immature way to handle disagreements.
Maybe instead of accusing the OP's wife of things you cannot possibly know, maybe look at yourself and your own relationship and why you need to act in a manipulative manner with your partner instead of just being honest with them!

OP, I'm like your wife, I would have told my partner the same as she told you. I also wouldn't be bothered about my partner staying out all night.

At last some realness and some actual sense thank you!!!

:T :beer:

Pollycat

leighavfc wrote: »

At last some realness and some actual sense thank you!!!

:T :beer:

You mean "At last a response that agrees with me".
FTR, I've been supportive of you - and particularly your wife's behaviour - throughout this thread.