Huge wedding problem :(

Primrose

Gavin83 wrote: »

I saw one recently where the bride demanded her bridesmaids lost weight if they couldn't fit into the size 10 dresses she order and she went through the entire female guest list and uninvited any women she considered too attractive as 'no one should look more pretty than the bride'. Also I'm sure there was another one that demanded that all men were clean shaved. Way OTT.

I'd love to receive a wedding invitation like that! A perfect excuse to respond saying " Sorry cantt attend but will be happy to attend your divorce party because with an attitude like that Im sure it won't be long in coming," :rotfl:

POPPYOSCAR

Primrose wrote: »

I'd love to receive a wedding invitation like that! A perfect excuse to respond saying " Sorry cantt attend but will be happy to attend your divorce party because with an attitude like that Im sure it won't be long in coming," :rotfl:

Oh so would I.

I hate weddings- any excuse not to go would be great!

Tabbytabitha

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Well I think if the Op refers to her as his wife as in post 85 above I think other posters can as well!.

Thanks I missed that - he refers to her as his partner everywhere else - perhaps he doesn't know whether he's married or not.:D

Tabbytabitha

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Talking about weddings did anyone see on tv earlier about the bride who sent a list of rules out to all the guests.

From memory
It included

Everyone must have their hair in a bun or ponytail

None must have full make up

No one must wear white or cream

No one to post on facebook until told they can and all photos must be hashtag them.

and finally

No one must talk to the bride.

Obviously out of order except that it's always been considered bad manners to wear white/ cream at a traditional "white wedding"

POPPYOSCAR

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Obviously out of order except that it's always been considered bad manners to wear white/ cream at a traditional "white wedding"

Yes I agree

I would never wear white myself. but I think cream is acceptable and have seen many Mothers of the Bride and Groom wearing it.

pickledonionspaceraider

OP,

You broke the first rule of fight club LOL the W word was mentioned

I think the bride and groom as a couple, are treating you and your partner, as a couple, quite abysmally.

They / The bride with the back up of her Groom / have an agenda here. You say its the bride..come on mate, HE is agreeing to this too. He is agreeing to his future wifes spiteful ways. Your pal is not as innocent in all this as may seem

Ever heard of the term, divide and conquer?

It is not just a dig at your partner, as they must well realise this is going to put you in a position where you must chose loyalty one way or another. You will inadvertantly be picking a team. Your missus prob knows this and hopes that you will realise without being put under pressure from her

If you go without your partner, you are just validating them, above your missus.

The excuse of it being a small venue is BS. They have invited several strangers, so the reason of the venue not being large enough is rubbish, its so transparent it is insulting .

IMO the best way of dealing with it would be to go to the evening only, with your missus. Id message ahead of the day and let them know I wouldnt be coming to the day, but wil see them in the evening and offer no explanation. You dont need to and any excuse you give will be so transparant. I'd be tempted to offer a gash present as well, like a toaster. Or something cheap but cumbersome like an ironing board. with the word !!!! as the ironing board cover

If I was in your situation, I would unlikely be friends with someone who aimed spite at my partner

Unfortunately mate, you are going to have to grow a pair

Ms_Chocaholic

I don't know whether you have decided what to do as i've not read through all the thread but could you all go to the wedding ceremony together and then go to the evening reception.

pickledonionspaceraider

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

i've not read through all the thread but could you all go to the wedding ceremony together and then go to the evening reception.

His missus not invited to the wedding ceremony, thats the problem the Op trying to get his head round

Ms_Chocaholic

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

His missus not invited to the wedding ceremony, thats the problem the Op trying to get his head round

If the ceremony is in a church (I don't know if it is) anyone can attend.

pickledonionspaceraider

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

If the ceremony is in a church (I don't know if it is) anyone can attend.

Interesting

It would take a ballsy-er person than me to show up knowing I wasn't wanted