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Huge wedding problem :(
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You should be ashamed full stop. Calling people bitter and controlling just because they don't agree with your viewpoint.
Controlling and emotional abuse. Away you go. The wife is upset because she was a close friend of the brides and hasn't been invited while her husband has and because his brothers wife who has never even met her is going to the full thing. Lets see you put up with years of emotional abuse like some people do. And then you might not think that whether someone goes to a wedding or not is emotional abuse. Talk about making a drama out of nothing. The exact thing you've accused other people of doing on here.
I noticed while you were spitting out your names at me you didn't mention the part of my posts where I said this could have been sorted 6 months ago and that both the husband and wife could have moved to try and sort this situation and not leave it until 24 hours before the wedding.
You are bang out of order.
Do not rise to the bait.
Some come on here purely to create a drama by arguing.
I would say that perhaps if more people considered the feelings of their partners perhaps so many relationships would not break down as they do.0 -
POPPYOSCAR wrote: »Some come on here purely to create a drama by arguing.
They certainly do
With time on their hands and the world/the internet at their fingertips what better way to pass the time than to get involved in cat-fights on a moneysaving website.
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There are many ways I could respond to you but I believe you have proved my point beyond doubt.2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.
2018 plans - reduce debt0 -
They certainly do
With time on their hands and the world/the internet at their fingertips what better way to pass the time than to get involved in cat-fights on a moneysaving website.
Yes how true!
It is funny how some who say they are very quite in real life certainly give a different impression in their posts!
Perhaps it is to compensate for that fact.0 -
POPPYOSCAR wrote: »Yes how true!
It is funny how some who say they are very quite in real life certainly give a different impression in their posts!
Perhaps it is to compensate for that fact.
Oh yessss.. People who get tongue-tied in real life don't get finger-tied while typing on a message board
Though to be fair the bickering on this thread is being provoked and carried out by more than one person.0 -
Agree here totally. Wife wants me to go regardless as she knows how close me and groom are.without her No pressure on me other than do i think its right or wrong to go .. thank you for reading what i have wrote and actually understanding me fully!
Oh dear................please tell me you dont play poker, because, well frankly, :eek:
Best of British!,Fully paid up member of the ignore button club.If it walks like a Duck, quacks like a Duck, it's a Duck.0 -
I have never ever been invited to any aspect of a wedding when I had a partner without a plus one. If you were invited to the full day. So should your wife have been. It's not just her wedding. It's his as well.
We invited a number of friends to our wedding without their partners and we also didn't invite children. We only really invited partners if both of us knew them well. Most people seemed to accept this and everyone came, although I wouldn't have been offended if someone hadn't turned up for this reason, unless of course they told us the day before.
This is actually a really interesting thread. I can see everyones point of view here and in many ways I think all involved are equally right and wrong. Probably way opinions are so split.I think you do have to decide who means more because I'd expect my husband to take my side. Why hasn't the groom sorted it out?
Do you not feel the groom should support his wife (to be) in the same way you'd expect your husband to support you?0 -
We invited a number of friends to our wedding without their partners and we also didn't invite children. We only really invited partners if both of us knew them well. Most people seemed to accept this and everyone came, although I wouldn't have been offended if someone hadn't turned up for this reason, unless of course they told us the day before.
This is actually a really interesting thread. I can see everyones point of view here and in many ways I think all involved are equally right and wrong. Probably way opinions are so split.
Do you not feel the groom should support his wife (to be) in the same way you'd expect your husband to support you?
That is the vital part.
As long as it is accepted by everyone and adhered to that that is fine.
A family member said no children at his wedding which everyone accepted. However, on the day there were children of friends of the bride there.
His sister left straight after the ceremony saying she had to check on the children.
He was most upset that neither of his sisters were in the photographs as the other one went with her.0 -
OMG are you for real?
No he is not. Don't see how supporting his friend is choosing. One afternoon out of the whole their life together. That is being OTT.
Bloody hell. Did you ever let your partner out on his own? This is why woman get a bad rep as being controlling.
I could be gay for all you know Calley. I am not, but if I had been that post would have been a bit stupid.[Even when you are part of a couple you are allowed to attend social things on your own. When I have felt unwell my partner has gone out for drinks with our friends. Should I say because I can't go you can't.
You being unwell and not being able to go for a drink is not the same thing as him being invited to go to a wedding without you. This couple are married and have kids together. They have known this couple for quite some time.My partner goes for nights out with the boys. Always asks me first and I am first to say go. He has no need to ask as I am not that insecure in relationship. As long as I know he is going I can then do my own thing.
Again, this has zero to do with someone being invited to a wedding and the partner not.No wonder men stay single with woman like that out there.
Yours
Calley x
Putting yours Calley and a kiss at the end doesn't make your post any less nasty.0 -
I'd be furious too. The bride sounds like a bit of a cow, to be honest.
I think you do have to decide who means more because I'd expect my husband to take my side. Why hasn't the groom sorted it out?
The groom has taken the side of his future wife, just like you'd expect your husband to do.0
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