Huge wedding problem :(

Pollycat

calleyw wrote: »

There has been plenty of time to make the decision to decline the invite. But no they have to wait until the day before to kick up fuss.

There is a reason for 'kicking up a fuss the day before'.

The OP's partner accepted that she was only invited for the evening 'do'.
Wasn't happy about it but came round to it.

What changed was that she's now found out that someone who has never met the bride (according to the OP and I personally have no reason to think he's not telling the truth) is going to the full wedding.
And that is what's triggered this.
You make it sound like the OP's partner has said she's OK with just going to the evening 'do' for the last 6 months and has suddenly - at the eleventh hour - kicked off.

Pollycat

OP - thanks for the update.

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

She sounds like a very reasonable person to me.

She may have said this because she cares so much about the Op but be absolutely dying inside.

I also wonder what will happen in the future.

Presumably, he will only be seeing his friend on a one to one basis.

I do not think this wedding will be the end of his problems.

I agree, Poppy.
I think the OP's partner has been the bigger person in this by wanting the OP to still go to the wedding.

OK, she may have been upset last night but I think it probably came as a massive shock to find out that she is regarded as a less welcome guest than someone the bride has never met.
At least she now knows where she stands.
TBH, it doesn't sound like a big loss.
I know which person I'd rather have as a friend - based on what I've read so far.

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Jokes and anecdotes about the groom's previous exploits still tend to be acceptable at weddings but those about the bride (however unfairly) rather less so.

Really? :rotfl:
Do you really think the bride is worried about the OP's partner making jokes about her at the reception?

calleyw

Pollycat wrote: »

There is a reason for 'kicking up a fuss the day before'.

The OP's partner accepted that she was only invited for the evening 'do'.
Wasn't happy about it but came round to it.

What changed was that she's now found out that someone who has never met the bride (according to the OP and I personally have no reason to think he's not telling the truth) is going to the full wedding.
And that is what's triggered this.
You make it sound like the OP's partner has said she's OK with just going to the evening 'do' for the last 6 months and has suddenly - at the eleventh hour - kicked off.

No, there is no reason to kick up any fuss what so ever. its drama and more drama for drama sake. The Op's partner over estimated her relationship with the bride.



You accept it and move on or you don't. What difference does it make it still has been and always will be NONE and will state again NONE of the OP and his partners business as to who has been invited and why.


I notice it seems to be mainly woman who are making the big fuss and suggesting that the OP is being disloyal. Get a grip its one day and his friends wedding day. Its not like his partner is giving birth and he has left her to it to go to a mates BBQ.


Yours


Calley x

NeilCr

Pollycat wrote: »

I agree, Poppy.
I think the OP's partner has been the bigger person in this by wanting the OP to still go to the wedding.

OK, she may have been upset last night but I think it probably came as a massive shock to find out that she is regarded as a less welcome guest than someone the bride has never met.
At least she now knows where she stands.
TBH, it doesn't sound like a big loss.

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I agree. I am glad that his wife acted as a grown up here as opposed to kicking off like some in the thread would have liked.

The timing was horribly unfortunate. From the narrative - OP's wife didn't want to go - thought about it and decided to make the best of it and then this came out of the woodwork

I don't think it's a huge loss, either, if the bride is as bad as has been suggested. I suspect that there won't be any foursome nights out any time soon!

spadoosh

calleyw wrote: »

So you found out last night. So this is what caused the massive drama? Your brother and his gf should have kept their big mouths shut then and so should you have and not told your partner.



But again I will say it's none of yours or your partners business who they invited to the wedding and why?


Even though you thought it had been sorted, in the brides head it was not and she choose not to invite your partner.


Its one day in your life and you will spend other days with your friend with and with his wife and your partner. So not sure why everyone has got so upset and offended by one day!!!!


Yours


Calley X

Youre so aggressive in your postings.

For someone kicking of about making a drama, youre making a drama of it.

Yours

Spadoosh x (hope that makes everything nicey again)

Wolf in sheeps clothing you are arent ya?

phryne

Oh dear spadoosh, rather you than me.

Getting involved in an internet cat fight about a wedding on a notoriously b*tchy board where some are extremely happy to hit the report button

Pollycat

calleyw wrote: »

You accept it and move on or you don't. What difference does it make it still has been and always will be NONE and will state again NONE of the OP and his partners business as to who has been invited and why.


I notice it seems to be mainly woman who are making the big fuss and suggesting that the OP is being disloyal. Get a grip its one day and his friends wedding day. Its not like his partner is giving birth and he has left her to it to go to a mates BBQ.


Yours


Calley x

And there we will have to agree to disagree.

calleyw wrote: »

You accept it and move on or you don't. What difference does it make it still has been and always will be NONE and will state again NONE of the OP and his partners business as to who has been invited and why.


I notice it seems to be mainly woman who are making the big fuss and suggesting that the OP is being disloyal. Get a grip its one day and his friends wedding day. Its not like his partner is giving birth and he has left her to it to go to a mates BBQ.


Yours


Calley x

Personally, I've not suggested anywhere in this thread that the OP is being disloyal.
And I don't need to 'get a grip'. And neither do any other posters.
I (and everyone else) is just as entitled to state our opinion as you are.

POPPYOSCAR

calleyw wrote: »

No, there is no reason to kick up any fuss what so ever. its drama and more drama for drama sake. The Op's partner over estimated her relationship with the bride.



You accept it and move on or you don't. What difference does it make it still has been and always will be NONE and will state again NONE of the OP and his partners business as to who has been invited and why.


I notice it seems to be mainly woman who are making the big fuss and suggesting that the OP is being disloyal. Get a grip its one day and his friends wedding day. Its not like his partner is giving birth and he has left her to it to go to a mates BBQ.


Yours


Calley x

Not sure how you know this but if that is the case it might just give you some insight into how women feel about these things.

calleyw

spadoosh wrote: »

Youre so aggressive in your postings.

For someone kicking of about making a drama, youre making a drama of it.

Yours

Spadoosh x (hope that makes everything nicey again)

Wolf in sheeps clothing you are arent ya?

Actually you are so wrong I am very quiet and rarely get annoyed at anyone in real life. And if you read most of my posts out side of this thread you will see I don't get upset or annoyed very often.



But this has got stupid, oh the drama because I did not get invited to a wedding and my partner did. Its like being in a school play ground.



Also I am female and this sort of lynch the guy for daring to go his friends wedding on his own. Is not funny and is controlling and to me emotional abuse.


What if this was reversed and the OP was female would you be saying the same about being disloyal. Doubt it.



There are some very bitter woman on this thread. They make me ashamed to be female.


Don't bother to reply to this as I wont be reading it. As it will be more rubbish about how the OP is so wrong in what he is doing.



Yours


Calley x

spadoosh

calleyw wrote: »

Actually you are so wrong I am very quiet and rarely get annoyed at anyone in real life. And if you read most of my posts out side of this thread you will see I don't get upset or annoyed very often.



But this has got stupid, oh the drama because I did not get invited to a wedding and my partner did. Its like being in a school play ground.



Also I am female and this sort of lynch the guy for daring to go his friends wedding on his own. Is not funny and is controlling and to me emotional abuse.


What if this was reversed and the OP was female would you be saying the same about being disloyal. Doubt it.



There are some very bitter woman on this thread. They make me ashamed to be female.


Don't bother to reply to this as I wont be reading it. As it will be more rubbish about how the OP is so wrong in what he is doing.



Yours


Calley x

Just one thing before you stop reading. Ive not commented on the situation. I commented on the hysteria thats been created in here, its kind of like a school playground about a school playground incident.