Huge wedding problem :(

Gavin83

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Talking about weddings did anyone see on tv earlier about the bride who sent a list of rules out to all the guests.

From memory
It included

Everyone must have their hair in a bun or ponytail

None must have full make up

No one must wear white or cream

No one to post on facebook until told they can and all photos must be hashtag them.

and finally

No one must talk to the bride.

I saw one recently where the bride demanded her bridesmaids lost weight if they couldn't fit into the size 10 dresses she order and she went through the entire female guest list and uninvited any women she considered too attractive as 'no one should look more pretty than the bride'. Also I'm sure there was another one that demanded that all men were clean shaved. Way OTT.

Mummy2cheekymonkeys

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Good for you!

That is what we did.

'Children' were there, our own and they were our witnesses.

I would if I could but unfortunately they are both under 2 lol.

jackieblack

leighavfc wrote: »

I will be going to at the very least the wedding and meal but may decide to leave the night and spend time with my partner. Reasonable i would think tbh

I think this is a good compromise and sounds very reasonable:)

POPPYOSCAR

Gavin83 wrote: »

I saw one recently where the bride demanded her bridesmaids lost weight if they couldn't fit into the size 10 dresses she order and she went through the entire female guest list and uninvited any women she considered too attractive as 'no one should look more pretty than the bride'. Also I'm sure there was another one that demanded that all men were clean shaved. Way OTT.

Are these people for real do you think or just trying to gain some sort of publicity?

It just seems so ridiculous.

Soundgirlrocks

leighavfc wrote: »

I will be going to at the very least the wedding and meal but may decide to leave the night and spend time with my partner.

I think this is best thing you can do in the situation, I completely understand why your partner wouldn't want to attend when she has been very deliberately snubbed. (If it were a number issue and they were ok with only inviting one half of a couple your brothers gf would only be going to the evening do as well)

By going to the ceremony you are supporting your friend while he marries this rather unpleasant lady, but by skipping the evening party you aren't having fun whilst your partner is hurting and alone at home. Its a reasonable compromise.


I feel sorry for your mate it sounds like he's marrying a right piece of work

Red-Squirrel_2

leighavfc wrote: »

Thank you.

See the more i think the more i agree. Without going into detail i cant stress how much my pal has done for me, almost to the stage where he is more like family to me than some of my own family. I really am in a tough place at the minute with this.

I would go, be coolly polite to the bride and make it clear to your friend that you are here for him and that if it was anybody else you wouldn't be, that's how much he means to you. Friends are important, and he's in a tough situation too.

Don't stay for the evening. Leave as soon as is decent.

Red-Squirrel_2

Oh and if people ask after your partner, feel free to tell them she wasn't invited. You are under no obligation to help the bride save face or cover up her bad behaviour.

spirit

the groom must have been complicit in the guest list surely.

I'm wondering if numbers were tight, that they assumed that if your wife/partner didn't come to the day thing, she'd not be able to bring the children? Maybe they have a no children rule for the ceremony and wedding breakfast? Did you say in your OP that all your family were invited to the evening do?

Not that it excuses how badly it's been handled.

PrettyKittyKat

I haven't read the whole thread so apologises if I have missed something.

Personally I don't see the problem. Your partner isn't as good friends with the bride anymore, they've had some real difficulties and aren't close friends (you say they haven't even seen each other in two years), so her being invited to the evening is totally understandable.

I'm not sure what your brothers partner being invited to the day has to do with it? I presume the bride has a better relationship with her/likes her more etc.

It is your best friend.... you go to the wedding have an amazing time and support your best mate on his wedding day.

If your partner feels uncomfortable going then she doesn't and realises that there is no friendship to try and rekindle. Or, she views the evening invite as an olive branch and she goes to the evening reception as invited, makes the most of the night and uses it to try and build bridges.

POPPYOSCAR

PrettyKittyKat wrote: »

I haven't read the whole thread so apologises if I have missed something.

Personally I don't see the problem. Your partner isn't as good friends with the bride anymore, they've had some real difficulties and aren't close friends (you say they haven't even seen each other in two years), so her being invited to the evening is totally understandable.

I'm not sure what your brothers partner being invited to the day has to do with it? I presume the bride has a better relationship with her/likes her more etc.

It is your best friend.... you go to the wedding have an amazing time and support your best mate on his wedding day.

If your partner feels uncomfortable going then she doesn't and realises that there is no friendship to try and rekindle. Or, she views the evening invite as an olive branch and she goes to the evening reception as invited, makes the most of the night and uses it to try and build bridges.

She does not know her and had never even met her.

This speaks volumes to me what the bride is about.