Should I ask OH to leave?

consultant31

Nonny, as others have said, please don't give him too many chances, the next time he loses his temper, the consequences could be tragic.

As for the troll on the thread, if I were a nicer person I would feel sorry that he/she/it obviously has nothing better to do of an evening. It's like a child who throws a paddy - it just wants attention.

Kurt_Death

As for the troll on the thread, if I were a nicer person I would feel sorry that he/she/it obviously has nothing better to do of an evening. It's like a child who throws a paddy - it just wants attention.

No I dont, that blows your argument away **** face.

consultant31

nonnythemouse wrote: »

The posts by Kurt are a bit upsetting to me and probably others, could anyone tell me if there's a way of getting this thread deleted?
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Kurt_Death

consultant31 wrote: »

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Button for filthy scum grassers.

kathy206

Nonny how are you? PLEASE ignore the TROLL and keep posting if it helps you. You've had some fantastic advice from other MSE'ers, I sincerely hope you can find the strength to leave sooner rather than later ((((((hugs)))))))to you and my very best wishesxx

anonymousie

THinking of you and sending you loads of internet hugs.
Ignore the troll- there is always one, and the rest of us recognise stirring when it happens and can seperate it fine from a person who really needs our help and thoughts.

astonsmummy

Get rid, he sounds awful.
My dad was a !!!!!! to us yet everyone else thought he was great, it's often called the 'charm syndrome'
Last year mum got him dopne for fraud and the police who delat with him saw straight through his bollarks like a blooming glass window.
Your DD may love and miss him, but you need to weigh it up, would you rather her be a bit upset for missing her dad or being messed around in the head, i still now love my dad so much it hurts but know that we will never speak again.
I made the choice after i had my son and he threatened to kill me and my mum 10 mins after i gave birth (by emergency c-section) i thought to myself 'i never want my boy to every feel scared in his own home, sared of the people he loves, coz that is mentally disturbing, spending 19 years trying to figure out why your dad- your idol hates you and mistreats you is soul destroying.
I'm not trying to make you feel bad or anything, just putting a little girls perspective on it.
Your DS sounds like a well grounded young man, please listen to him, he's scared.

jo03

What is happening now is all part of the emotional thing that bullies do he is trying to draw you in to a false sense of security by admitting he was in the wrong no doubt promising it wont ever happen again.Worse still he is trying to justify what he did.Please for the sake of your children think really carefully it might look rosy for a while but then it could be the same again or worse.Like I said before you all deserve so much more, a happy life free from fear and what if's it could be yours.
Keep safe you and your children are in my thoughts.x

Penny-Pincher!!

I havent read through the whole thread so I may be going over stuff already asked

Has your OH done this before or threatned the kids before?

We all loose it occasionally and maybe this was one of those times. I am not saying what he did was acceptable as it wasnt and he needs to know that.

PP
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svmitche

Em - after reading the whole thread it's clear that you're in a bad place at the moment and your self-esteem is running at a low.

Your OH felt quite happy in leaving you until it was inconvenient for him and so he came back. It seems that this was with no provocation aside from his mid-life crisis, so when he has done something like this to your son (regardless of provocation - as a parent your job is to rise above it and discipline your children in a such a way as to show them that they are wrong and how to improve their behavior, not to show them that violence and intimidation is the way to go) it is clear that he needs to go.

It's wise of you to get all of your bases covered before making a move to have him removed from the home, but as another poster said please don't wait until he does something more serious - don't wait so long that the effect of this incident and his behaviour is dulled and makes you perhaps waver in your opinion.

I'm all for working at a relationship, but it sounds as if your OH is not good for you and is using you thoroughly!

I hope you are able to figure all of this out, but regardless of how much DD would be devastated if OH was not around, for you and for your kids, you need to get him out of your home ASAP.