Getting rid of lodger...also a friend AWKWARD!

Bath_cube

The fact that London is too expensive for rents is of no problem to the OP. If your lodger says he won't be able to live on his own in the capital tell him to go to the local housing office and tell them his tales of woe. Do not leave where you are now and move on to the new place without this so called lodger moving out first. If you don't then he will follow you to the new house and make a scene do you want that?. I could not afford to buy or rent in the capital (not that I would want to anyway) therefore I bought a house within my means and in a area I could do it in. You do NOT owe the lodger the right to cheap capital living. Even if he is offered a one bed council flat in another part of london he will have access to plenty of public transport anyway.

Candyapple

Bath_cube wrote: »

The fact that London is too expensive for rents is of no problem to the OP. If your lodger says he won't be able to live on his own in the capital tell him to go to the local housing office and tell them his tales of woe. Do not leave where you are now and move on to the new place without this so called lodger moving out first. If you don't then he will follow you to the new house and make a scene do you want that?. I could not afford to buy or rent in the capital (not that I would want to anyway) therefore I bought a house within my means and in a area I could do it in. You do NOT owe the lodger the right to cheap capital living. Even if he is offered a one bed council flat in another part of london he will have access to plenty of public transport anyway.

Lol, there's no chance of that happening, not in London for a single male under 35.

OP - to put it bluntly - you are screwed.

You made a rod for your own back by giving him a 'get out of jail' free card by offering for him to come live in your new house.

Unless you and your partner sit down and talk to him tonight and make it crystal clear that this offer is rescinded permanently, and that he has 2 months to find somewhere to live and if he doesn't, you BOTH will wash your hands with him and absolutely will not be taking him in again.

I think you will find that your issue here will be your partner may go through the motions and agree with you, but when push comes to shove and it is moving out day for you and him and your lodger still hasn't found somewhere - the lodger will give your OH the sob story and then you'll find him moving into your new place! :eek:

consumers_revenge

Just leave this playing on your tv ( on repeat )


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gogxFxZEFoI

Hermia

Out,_Vile_Jelly wrote: »

A couple of times over the years I've needed to ask friends for their sofa/spare room in between rentals. I've offered the same when others have been in similar situations. This is what friends do.

What friends DON'T do is move in permanently, fail to contribute financially, fail to help with chores, break stuff, cause disruption with kids and late night noise and then make their hosts feel bad about the guest's failed life. This guy ceased to become a friend some time ago and is now merely a rude lazy loser. Who cares what he thinks; he's not living in your new place.

Exactly! A friend who is financially badly off wanting to stay is understandable. A friend who doesn't help around the house, disrupts everything and doesn't even look for a job so they can get their own place is taking the... I am confused about why the OP's OH is so enamoured by this guy. This man is a not a friend according to my definition!

London is expensive, but you can find cheaper properties if you look around. I spent years living in zone 5 and it isn't the middle of nowhere! There are still plenty of buses into central London.

Bath_cube

Blacking has this sponger gone?. Please don't tell me he is still bl...... living with you?. If so are you mad?. The longer this goes on the more chance he is going with you.