Getting rid of lodger...also a friend AWKWARD!

borkid

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

Its easy - tell him mortgage company won't allow it


In fact it won't be a lie either - you've signed a contract to say no-one over the age of 18 can live in the house

This was my thought as well. I remember my son having to sign something when he turned 18 and we were moving house and needed a small mortgage. He was going on to uni as well so only there in the holidays.

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Hi,

start an affair with him and make it obvious so as boyfriend finds out.

Tell boyfriend it's been going on for 9/10 months, that his friend just can't keep his hands off you, but it's only physical and means nothing to you.

Your boyfriend will then realise that his friend has to go.

borkid

oystercatcher wrote: »

I bet if anyone spoke to the lodger he would say " Oh no they don't mind, they've never said anything"

Some people are just blissfully unaware of anyone else's feelings and it sounds like the OP and partner are too afraid to say anything either. So the situation just carries on.

The other possibility is that OP's partner actually likes having his mate there all the time and doesn't feel such a need to get rid of him ? Have this been properly discussed ?

OP if your partner can't put your feelings before those of his mate then I have serious worries about your relationship. I wouldn't be buying a house with him either because my bet is that you will be splitting and selling in a year or two if not sooner.

Personally I'd say if friend stays then I leave. You would have to be prepared to go through with it though. Who does BF want most you or his 'friend'.

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Hi,

borkid wrote: »

Personally I'd say if friend stays then I leave. You would have to be prepared to go through with it though. Who does BF want most you or his 'friend'.

ooh, never thought of that, is your boyfriend having a relationship with his friend, are you piggy in the middle?

borkid

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,



ooh, never thought of that, is your boyfriend having a relationship with his friend, are you piggy in the middle?

I didn't mean it like that! It's just that I wouldn't take 2nd place to friends/ parents/ siblings. If you're in a serious relationship then the partners in that relationship should come first in this case it seems the BF is more concerned about his friend's feelings than his GF.

Kim_kim

I think it's only fair to give him as much notice as you can - therefor be straight right away.

Primrose

Tell him you're aiming to start a family as soon as you move and will need the extra space. The thought of a screaming child all through the night will probably discourage him from thoughts of joining you in your new house.

chesky

Primrose wrote: »

Tell him you're aiming to start a family as soon as you move and will need the extra space. The thought of a screaming child all through the night will probably discourage him from thoughts of joining you in your new house.

Don't think that will work. As they are (were) friends, he probably already knows that she doesn't intend having children. Also, being a father himself, he'll probably think that if she's a mum, she'll be able to look after his child as well as her own.

Blue88

You're worrying unnecessarily. Two points:

Your friend is likely to be entitled to housing benefit as he is working but on a low income (assuming he doesn't have savings over £7k and/or owns valuable assets such as a house or flat). You can get housing benefit for shared accommodation with a live in landlord provided the landlord isn't related to you.

Assuming you're in England or Wales, the legal notice period for a lodger (renting a room and sharing living accommodation with the landlord) is simply what is agreed in the contract, or if there's just a verbal agreement, how often rent is paid (e.g. rent paid monthly, give a month's notice). One month's notice is considered more than sufficient for this living arrangement by law in England and Wales. This is the only kind of rental arrangement where a landlord does not need to get a possession order from the court if the renter won't move out at the end of the notice period - Google "lodger notice period" and "evict lodger".

However, if you're in Scotland, you need to give a month's written notice and you will need a court order if the lodger won't move out when the notice expires.


For the record (in England and Wales) if your lodger doesn't share a bathroom and kitchen with you, they must be given a month's written notice and a court order is needed if they won't move out.

If you want to remain friends with the lodger afterwards, you might want to tell him you need him to move out because you're buying somewhere and the new place won't have a spare room. If he says something like "well, I can sleep on the sofa", you might want to tell him gently but firmly that the arrangement is no longer working for you even with his own room, so it is likely to work even less with him sleeping on your sofa! You could also offer to help him apply for housing benefit. With most local authorities this is now done online, and if it's an area with universal credit, it will definitely be online.

Blue88

Firstly, why should this be made the landlord's problem? Secondly, if the couple don't give vacant possession because they've left someone else in the property, the tenancy continues and so does their commitment to pay rent.