Is a 16 year age gap such a bad thing?

Meepmeep

I wouldn't bother looking too far into the future (I.e years and years) as you'll never know what is round the corner. Plenty of people of similar ages end up splitting, there are no guarantees. I know a few relationships with big age gaps that are still going after many years and a few same age where one partner unfortunately didn't make it to what I would call old age.

If he knows how old you are, and everything is on the table then I'd see how it goes.

The one potential hiccup is kids. Not saying it's impossible at 43, but as someone whose battled infertility at 40, you really do appreciate how much more difficult conceiving is post 40. Even IVF success rates are much lower. That said, maybe that's not a deal breaker for him or you. Plenty of people can't / don't particularly want them at any age! If my OH couldn't have them, I would never have left him for that reason and vice versa.

I'd see how things go and enjoy! It's early days and you'll find out soon enough if this is the person for you

WardyGTC

The cradle snatcher jibe is just jealousy, lots of people would like a younger model. Ignore it and live your life in whatever way makes you happy.

I married a woman 17 years older than me, had all that garbage and lots of "it wont last 6 months", blah, blah. 22 years later and they all look pretty dumb now, especially the one's who've been divorced since.

katecheshire

My partner is 18 years younger than me. I met him when he was 20. We have just celebrate 27 year together. Yes we have had ups and downs and twice split up for a couple of months but we are very happy together.

elephantrosie

was with a man 14 years my senior until just two weeks ago.
age gap is an issue. he was ready for marriage and children, but i was not. he was getting a lot of pressure from his family to get married and they (and him) were concerned that i just wanted a short term relationship. while i was serious about him, i felt the focus was to tie the knot asap, and could not enjoy his companion.
we have just broken up and he has a few match making sessions arranged this coming new year!
i wish him the best and hope my mr right will come my way soon

Lily-Rose_3

I don't think I would ever go for anyone more than 7-8 years younger than me - or 5 years older. I am heading for my mid 50's now, and the idea of being with a man of say 29, just makes me cringe. Then again, the idea of going for a man over 60 makes me cringe too.

And let's face it, most people go for someone their own age.

A 16 year old age gap doesn't appeal to me, but each to their own.

elephantrosie

@lily rose- i agree

diddlydoop

I'm 15 years older than my Husband and we got married 3 months after meeting. We have been married 12 years and couldn't be happier. People including family were against it at the start and 1 of my sisters refused to come to our wedding because she said it was the biggest mistake I could possibly be making. They all love him as much as me now, and my sister, well she has been married and divorced twice in the 12 years we have been married so it shows others are not always right.

schiff

diddlydoop wrote: »

I'm 15 years older than my Husband and we got married 3 months after meeting. We have been married 12 years and couldn't be happier. People including family were against it at the start and 1 of my sisters refused to come to our wedding because she said it was the biggest mistake I could possibly be making. They all love him as much as me now, and my sister, well she has been married and divorced twice in the 12 years we have been married so it shows others are not always right.

That last bit made me smile

AshleyBurf

go for it! love is the answer